Sunday, 26 August 2018

I'm Not Your Average 17 Year Old

I'm not your average 17 year old. Some people may have differing opinions on what the term 'average' means, so let me give you a brief overview of what it means to me. 

I don't smoke. I don't drink excessively. I've never been to a proper house party. I've only had 1 serious relationship. I don't try to get guys. I don't consider everyone to be my friend. 

We're in the 21st century and these are some of the societal norms that seem to be prevalent in a lot of teenagers lives. I'm not saying that the majority are like this at all, but the media certainly makes it seem that way 99% of the time. Times have changed and I can confidently say that a large amount of teenagers aren't living their lives the way that teenagers would back in the 20th century and especially not before that.

Don't get me wrong, I do know how to let my hair down and have fun. I think I'm hilarious when I want to be and I like to have a good time when I'm in the right mood. I just don't take it to the extreme.

A lot of people that I know of (I don't mean everyone I associate myself with) have a completely different mindset to mine. I value my education and I like learning new things and pushing myself out of my comfort zone. I like the thought of being independent and being able to make a life for myself, rather than having to rely on a man to do so. The thought of throwing up and passing out from too much alcohol doesn't impress me and I never get the desire to be invited to a party. 

I understand that some people may feel that they don't necessarily have all that much of a say in their own lives and their own futures and I respect that. I just personally think that we are all individuals and I would do anything I could to ensure that my life is my life and not ruled by someone else.

There is so much pressure on young people nowadays and I know first hand how hard it is not to succumb to it. I have done things I'm not entirely proud of. I have admittedly got involved with the wrong crowd one too many times. I'm not an angel and I'll be the first person to admit that too. However, I don't believe in having regrets. Hand on heart, there's not a single thing in my life that I regret. Everything really does happen for a reason and we need to remember that when times get tough.

For a 17 year old, I don't think I fit the typical pre-conceived mould that other generations have in mind. I would choose completing coursework over getting hammered at some randomers house party. I would choose creating content over standing in an alley to pick up some weed. 

Over the past few weeks and months especially, I can see the change in myself. I feel beyond empowered. I have realised what I want and I have a clearer image in my head of how I can get it. I have started to genuinely not give a shit about what other people think. I have started to believe in myself and my own abilities more. I have started to realise my own worth and finally come to the obvious conclusion that I'll never need a male especially or even another human to make me happy or to make me feel whole - because, you best believe I'm already fucking whole on my own. 

Of course, I'm more than likely going to have fun at University next September. I'll go out during Freshers Week, I'll have a laugh with my flatmates, I'll get shit-faced drunk once in a blue moon and I'll probably be a bit more flirty than usual, but hey. 99.9% of the time, I don't fit in with the stereotype. I think I'm allowed 1%, where I go off the rails slightly. 

During my time at University, I'm going to work as hard as I can, but then dedicate more time than I am now to play as well. As you get older, the balance is even more essential than ever before. My morals and values are becoming ever clearer and I really do feel stronger and sassier - and I LOVE that.

So, no, I won't smoke weed every day, I won't party until the sun comes up, I won't put myself in vulnerable situations (any more...) and I won't allow myself to waste these next 10 months (!!!) of my life. I have concerts and festivals that I want to go to and believe me when I say they are my kinda vibe, but for the most part, I'm happy dedicating my time and energy to my future. 

I'll have fun during the Summer for those 6 weeks and for certain events, but I always make sure I have my limits. Having fun doesn't mean that you have to completely lose yourself every weekend.

What are your views on this topic? Do you agree or disagree with me? I'd be interested to hear your thoughts!

Lots of love always,


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