Wednesday, 4 April 2018

Why My Grandparents Are My Everything


Words will never be enough to express the love and gratitude that I have for my grandparents. My childhood was quite a troubled and traumatic one at times and there were many moments where things had become so turbulent that I didn't even know what would happen the following day.
However, one thing that I always knew for certain was that my grandparents were going to be permanent parental figures throughout the years - and that still stands true 17 years down the line.

Now, my Father was in my life until I was 6, but since then, we haven't spoken or seen each other very much at all and that's just the way life has worked and I'm gradually beginning to accept that as time goes on, because it's been my kind of normal for the past 11 years. Even though I haven't grown up around him, I'm not going to sit here and throw shade, because that's just unfair and uncalled for and it wouldn't be very mature on my behalf.

All throughout primary school, I used to stay at my grandparents 3 days a week and stay with my mum and her partner for the other 4. The arrangement really worked for me, because I have always valued my grandparents and they have always been very 'hands on' and involved so to essentially live with them half of the time brought me so much happiness. We'd all watch Coronation Street and Deal or No Deal together in the evenings, I'd play with my Barbie dolls whilst my Grandad watched films and my Grandma read the paper and then as I stopped playing with my dolls, I'd resort to reading on the sofa or watching YouTube on my iPad instead. We would always have dinner altogether at the table as well as pudding (of course) and later on in the evening, we would all have cups of tea too, because we are traditionally British like that. Myself and my Grandma would then go upstairs and watch something like One Born Every Minute or Supersize Vs Supersize and then we would always have the ITV News on downstairs, unless I was at the age where bedtime had to be around 9pm. I don't remember the last time I went to bed at 9pm nowadays, let alone asleep by 9:30! How times have changed.

These memories are incredibly precious to me. I am so blessed at the fact that I got to spend most of my childhood with 2 of the most important people in my life, because I know not every child in the UK, let alone the world understands what a special relationship it is.

Both my Grandma and my Grandad have taught me endless lessons that I will forever hold close to my heart. Above anything else, they have taught me how men should treat women, to always be kind and have respect for others, to be patient and empathetic, to always try my best in school and to never let a boy or a man take advantage of my innocence or my body. I'm only human and so obviously I don't always listen to people's words of wisdom, despite knowing their right 99% of the time, but then my grandparents have always dealt with the tears and tantrums to help me move on from whatever the negative situation was.

Evidently, I never grew up in a typical family home. I didn't have 2 parents that were happily married and hopelessly in love. I don't recall my parents ever showing love or appreciation for each other. I've never had a dad who can protect me and talk down to any boys who disrespect me. I still feel quite bitter about that and that's understandable, because I am still a teenager, but this is the way that my life is and it's something that I'm used to now. Some days are just harder than other at accepting it. In a lot of ways, my Grandad is the man I look up to in order to see how women should be respected and treated. He has been married to my Grandma for over 60 years and that is the kind of love that I could only ever dream of. They have set such a wonderful example to both me and my older sister through the way they are as individuals and as a couple and I am blessed that I get to be related to them.

I think the picture that I've included at the beginning of this post is enough for anybody to see just how genuinely smitten they are with each other. I will always treasure it and I'm sure I'll look back on it in years to come when I have my own family to show and tell them just how much of an influence my Grandparents had on my life and my upbringing.

Although I don't see them as much at the moment since starting secondary school, I do still text my Grandma everyday and I call and visit them whenever the opportunity comes up.

I love you forever and always Granny and Grampy. Forever my favourites. 

Lots of love always,



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