Friday, 2 March 2018

What I Learnt Throughout 16 Years


As this post goes up, I will have just turned 17 years old. That's such a crazy thought for me to comprehend! I remember the days when I was excited to turn 13, and here I am, 4 years later.

To be honest, I think 16 was the best year of my life. I'd gotten well into my teens by this point, and I'd therefore pretty much gotten through the rough stage of figuring out who I was. Don't get me wrong, I'm still on a self-discovery journey, but I've grown massive amounts since those days! 16 is just a genuinely good age, and it's one that I personally consider to be a milestone. A lot of goodness, and many blessings came my way, but I understandably went through a lot of hardships too. Today, I thought I'd close the #SweetSixteen chapter of my life, and do so by reminiscing on what I learnt, as well as some of the best bits...

PEOPLE DON'T ALWAYS HAVE AS PURE INTENTIONS AS YOU
Something that I had shown to me time, and time again throughout my 16th year of life was that people aren't going to be as nice, and as kind-hearted as you are, or as nice, and as kind-hearted as you want them to be. To put it truthfully, people can be dicks. You go into a new friendship, or a new relationship with the best intentions, and you hope that the other person in the same, but that isn't always the case - and that's okay. Learn from it, just as I have, and don't allow them to change you. Continue to give your all, and never settle for anything less than that, even if you don't receive the same in return. 

HAVE FAITH IN WHATEVER IT IS THAT YOU BELIEVE IN
One thing that I have definitely strengthened in recent months is my belief in God, and my belief in myself. Since focusing more on my faith, I've started to count my blessings, and really focus on my ambitions. I feel much more supported, and much more positive, because to me, it's as if someone of a higher power is guiding me, and that's a great comfort. It's helped me to recognise previous bad habits, and to fully appreciate my own worth. I still have a long way to go, but good things happen to those who wait, and persevere. You will get to where you want to be if you believe you can achieve.

LIFE'S TOO SHORT TO GIVE A F*CK WHAT ANYBODY ELSE THINKS
Looking back at my younger self who was bullied for many years, I feel sad for her, but also incredibly proud. She persevered, and she didn't give up, even when she felt like she wanted to every day of her life during one particularly bad point. As I've gotten older, I genuinely have realised that other people's opinions don't matter. Even if you really value that particular person, each decision you make is still ultimately up to you. Absolutely take into consideration what they are saying, but don't let it completely control the choice you're going to make. Just let it help you make an informed decision! Take small steps in embracing who you want to be. Wear those bright orange dungarees, get a floral sleeve tattoo up your right arm, dye your hair papaya pink, because why the f*ck not?!

EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON. IT'S EITHER A BLESSING, OR A LESSON
This honestly couldn't be more true. I've met so many different people over these 16 years, and I've experienced so many different situations. Some of which are blessings, and others are just lessons that I've had to learn the hard way. Some people I've held onto for years, and I've grown with them through the good, and the bad, but others, I've seen their nasty streak one too many times, and I let go before things became even more toxic. Some situations I've been really grateful for, as they have been fun, magical, and memorable, but others have broken my heart that little bit more, and really tested my strength. Either way, this has all made me the person I am today, and I will never, ever give up fighting. I will always keep smiling, and I will never let anything, or anyone get the better of me. You can get knocked down 100 times, but then pick yourself back up 1000 times better, and stronger. 

ALWAYS HOLD ONTO THE INNER CHILD THAT RESIDES WITHIN YOU
When you're a child, you are so much more innocent, and carefree. As you grow older, you become aware of all the issues with society, and all of the expectations that have been constructed, and especially during your teenage years, you can easily become influenced, and just give in to becoming what you don't want to become. I think it's good for people to always have a part of their childhood inside them that comes out every so often. For me, it comes out within my sense of humour, my bubbly personality, the fact that I can be spontaneous, and adventurous, and that I like going to festivals, concerts, and social events where I can be hyper, and lose myself. I used to go to the woods most times I'd meet my ex boyfriend, and we'd literally just wander around, take outfit photos for my blog (back in the day haha!), listen to music, talk, and have snacks! It wasn't really much, but it didn't cost tonnes of money, we were in nature, and we were just being young teenagers together, and I enjoyed making those memories, because they just remind me of letting my inner child come out to play. I also display her through my imagination, and my poetry writing!

DREAM WITHOUT FEAR AND LOVE WITHOUT LIMITS
Don't let anything, or anyone hold you back in this one life that you're given. Your dreams are yours, and you can make them come true if you never give up, or let them go. Don't be afraid, and don't let restrictions stand in your way. Don't create imaginary barriers for yourself. Don't be too scared to try new things, and step out of your comfort zone. Give love to everyone that you interact with, and come across in this life. Don't let them turn you into someone who is cold-hearted. Even if you know that they don't love you as much as you love them, continue loving them regardless. Loving people is so important, and it will help you to be better, happier, and stronger. We need more love in the world, and you have so much to give, so never stop sprinkling it out like it's magic dust. 

I really hope you enjoyed reading this post! I've loved writing it, and I've loved reminiscing on the life lessons that I've learnt. 

I'm going to miss being 16, but it's now time to say take the lessons, the blessings, and the memories with me along the rest of life's journey, say goodbye, and embrace the new chapter - 17. 

Bring. It. On.

Lots of love always,


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