Wednesday, 25 April 2018

Why I'm Proud To Be A Woman (+ A Giveaway!)*


I was initially supposed to schedule this post for the infamous International Women's Day, which was back on the 8th March, but as I've been inundated with other commitments (which unfortunately doesn't include blogging), I'm only just getting the chance to put my words together now!

Being a woman is a part of my identity which is very valuable to me and something that I will always be proud of. I'm not sexist in any way, shape or form and I respect (most) men as much as I respect (most) women, but having grown up without a significant, influential father figure, it would be fair to say that I am slightly bias in a sense. I have seen my Mum struggle to provide for me and although she has been with her partner for almost 11 years now, he will never be my Dad and he will never provide for me in the way that she does. I'm grateful to have my Grandad and my Uncle present, but yet again, they won't ever be able to fully fill that father shaped hole within my heart.

At the young age of 17, I have dealt with my fair share of shitty boys and shitty men. Some of them are quite literally just dicks, who only think with exactly that. We can all name at least 5 notorious fuckboys that we have come into contact with throughout our lives, especially if you're growing up within my generation!



Nobody in particular has ever encouraged me in life to such a great extent, aside from myself. Of course, my family wants me to do well and go on to be successful and independent, but they have never really put pressure on me or placed a great emphasis on the grades that I get. If I want to revise, I organise it myself. If I want to research Universities, I'll find out myself and then tell my family after to get their opinion. I try to do things off my own back, as much as I love them, because in regard to my future, it kind of is just me against the big wide world, as people always say.

This is no disrespect whatsoever, but I don't want to rely on a man - ever. My worst fear is depending on my future husband for a solid income, expecting him to sort out all of our finances, fluttering my eyelashes, so he gives me his credit card and allows me to splash the cash on Balenciaga, Gucci and Louis Vuitton. It's completely fair enough if that's what some girls like though!

Personally, I want to be able to build my own future for myself. I want to be my own person and I want to be motivated and determined on my own without such an influence from outsiders, whether that be positive or negative.
Women have come a long way as a gender over the past 100 years alone and now we are rapidly challenging the stereotypes and any stigma that still remains within today's society.

It's okay for women to want to be their own boss. It's okay for women to work within a sector that's considered to be 'male dominated'. It's okay for women to wear what they want, regardless of how men *may* perceive them. It's okay for women to live their life however they choose to!


JEANS - TOPSHOP JAMIE
SHOES - NEW LOOK (baso fake converse, shh)


As a little self-love gift to all of you, myself and the Good Girl Gang want to give you the opportunity to win your own tee and tote by entering our joint giveaway! It's going to run from Saturday 28th April to Saturday 12th May, so you have a whole 2 weeks to be in with the chance to win.

If you do wish to enter, all you have to do is leave a comment after Saturday 28th April or anytime within those 2 weeks on this blog post or on the specific post on one of our Instagram accounts (available after this coming Saturday) telling us what it is that you love most about yourselves (think personality AND looks!) and why. It's that simple! The winner will be generated at random and announced as soon as possible after the giveaway has closed.

The only rules are:


  • You may only enter once
  • You must be following both @simplyjadeyx and @goodgirl_gang on Instagram

I  can't wait to read your replies! Good luck to you all <3

Lots of love always,


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Wednesday, 18 April 2018

Old English Company: A Brand Overview*


At the end of March, I was fortunate enough to be contacted by Old English Company, who very kindly wanted to gift me a selection of products that I had chosen, which I could review here on my blog.  We had been following each other on social media for quite some time and when I knew that I'd get the chance to work with them, I was so excited!

Described on their website as a 'stationery and homeware brand', they create all of their products by hand in their Stamford studios. They didn't want to incorporate any particular calligraphy rules to their designs and they wanted to use their own personal lettering to come up with stylish, innovative ideas that contained relatable messages for the public to connect with.

I wanted to have a look at a variety of the items on their website, as that would allow me to give a much more thorough overview of the whole brand and what they have to offer to potential shoppers. In total, I was sent: 3 greetings cards, a coaster, a mug, a notebook, a pocket mirror, a cosmetic bag and a pin!

Ideally, I don't like to get people those bog standard birthday cards from Clintons or Card Factory. I like to be a bit more adventurous, a bit more unique and get them something special that (hopefully) stands out from the rest! Equally, if I know a family member or a friend is feeling down, I'd like to be able to get them a card, just to say that I'm thinking of them and to try and lift their spirits. I think all 3 of these cards are absolutely perfect for that. They aren't too flashy or colourful, but they have classic, simplistic designs that still mean a lot to the person on the receiving end! If someone you know or even someone you have occasionally chatted to on Twitter is having a particularly bad time with their mental health as of late, you could send them one of these cards with an encouraging message inside and a little handmade self-care box or something of the sort! If one of your friends has got a promotion at work or has set up their own business or something, you could send them one of the 'SHINE BRIGHT' cards, as that's guaranteed to show them that you're super proud! 



To those who know me personally, it won't come as much of a surprise to you that I ask for a coaster and a mug when the opportunity arises as I'm obsessed with drinking tea. It's more likely that I would give someone a mug with a quote on like this rather than keep it for myself, but I thought it was too cute not to get! Every time I have a cup of tea, I always allow myself the treat (okay, the habit/requirement) of having at least a couple of biscuits to dunk, because how could I possibly have a satisfactory cup of tea without them?! If you're wondering, my personal favourites are digestives, ginger nuts or the classic hobnobs (which I haven't had in what feels like a few years). Anyway, I digress. This mug is super cute and also a good size for drinking out of! I then chose the coaster to go with it (even though they have completely different quotes), because I've never owned my own coaster before and as it has one of my favourite quotes ever, I thought it was only right that I get a coaster which I can put my brand new mug on! I think it's lovely, affordable and it even has a pretty design on it, so what more could you want?!


Although I'm pretty much obsessed with all stationary in general, I genuinely do have a real addiction to notebooks. I'm not sure what it is, because half the time they just collect dust and sit in my house somewhere (oops!), but I can't help myself from wanting more. At the moment, I've been going through quite the "motivational" phase. I'm super focused on my education, my future, my own personal growth and progression and I'm not going to let anything, not even myself, stand in my way. I always look to inspiring, empowering quotes, as I think they are so important in guiding you and making you want to be the best version of you that you can be. "JUST OWN IT" is a simple enough quote, but it holds a lot of meaning. You should be who you are and have faith in yourself and in everything that you set out to do. Be proud and feel sassy, always. This notebook can be used to jot down any "change the world" kind of ideas that you have, any career plans that you want to put together or anything else that will help you to get on the right track. You will be much more productive and successful in reaching your goals if everything is in the same place!


Whenever any of us girls are out and about, we should always want to carry a pocket mirror! Although in this day and age, we will have our phone on us most of the time, what would we do if it ran out of battery or it was switched off at the time we needed to see how the enormous spot on our chin looked? My point is, a pocket mirror is always handy to have, as it can just be thrown in our handbag or our coat pocket and then we can easily see how to touch up our lipstick, pluck that stray eyebrow hair or get food out of our front teeth. Who doesn't love something that's compact and a pretty pink anyway?! I'm sure there will be many times that you're grateful you took this product out with you and the words on it will boost your self esteem and pop a smile on your face too! 



Now, don't get me wrong. I love absolutely everything that Old English Company gifted to me, but one of my personal favourites (if I had to choose!) would definitely be this makeup pouch. Although some people might think  that black isn't their cup of tea, as it can be seen to be quite a dull and dreary colour, I actually really like it, because it won't stain as much as a brighter bag would and the white contrasts really nicely too. The material feels like it's super high quality, which will last you a long time, so that you can get endless usage out of it! I also think that it's the perfect size for travelling or using on a day-to-day basis, because it isn't too bulky due to its shape, but its just enough to fit in your essentials (and a bit more on top of that!). The quote is uplifting in regard to your self esteem, as is the pocket mirror and it fits in well with the idea of it being a make up pouch. 

As someone who has never owned a pin before, but who has always wanted to build up a collection, I was super excited to see that there was one on the website with my go-to girl power quote on it! I think that through this post, we can all see the sort of style that I like to go for (bad-ass, sassy, inspiring - you get the gist!) and it's obvious that this quote in particular resonates a lot with me, especially considering I want it as a coaster AND as a pin! Ever since I saw other people buying pins, I've always wanted to have a few which I can wear on my basic tees, my dungarees or my denim jacket or even to stick on the memory board next to my bed if I need a motivational morning pick me up. As I mentioned with the coaster, I love the little detailing around the edges and I really do think that I will get a lot of use out of this beaut!

So, that's it for today's post! Do let me know what you think about this brilliant brand and if you have heard of them or ever purchased anything from them before. If not, would you be willing to now?

Lots of love always,


*This post contains gifts from Old English Company. All photographs, words and opinions are my own.*

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Wednesday, 11 April 2018

New Skincare Staples


Over the past few months, I've been hearing more and more people talking about charcoal and the benefits that it can have in regard to health and beauty. Charcoal teeth whitening products, charcoal hair care and charcoal face masks are amongst some of the most popular that seem to be trending as of late. I'm always intrigued by the latest trends, even if I don't actually give them a go myself, but this time, I knew that I didn't want to miss out!

When I was scrolling through either someone's blog or their YouTube channel, I noticed that they were raving about the Garnier Pure Active Face Wash and how it's their go to because of the way it cleanses their oily, spot prone skin. I'd never seen this wash or the range advertised before, but seeing as I trusted this particular influencer and their opinions, I decided that I might as well give it a try.

For the past year or so, I've been fortunate enough to only get the odd breakout here and there, but recently my skin has been playing up and I've been in desperate need of some new additions to my routine which I can trial! This particular product is an anti-blackhead charcoal cleansing gel, which quite literally sounds like a miracle in a bottle for someone whose skin produces a fair bit of oil. This wash has a really nice consistency, as it's not really runny, but it isn't super thick and uncomfortable either. You only need a minimal amount, because a little can go a long way and the charcoal can be quite strong otherwise. Whenever I apply it to my face, I'm always left feeling really refreshed and zingy (if that's even the word!), especially when I have been working in McDonalds some evenings. It smells like it would revitalise your skin and it most definitely does that for me. For only £4.99 if you get it from Boots, I don't think you can go wrong at all!

If you want to be as sassy as I am, you can pick up the matching 3 in 1 Charcoal Anti-Blackhead Wash, Mask and Scrub which has multi-purpose uses to suit your needs and your preferences. Unlike the face wash, this has a much thicker texture and it has more substance to it. Having said that, it looks more like a charcoal mask when on the skin and it has stained my shower every time I use it, much to my mum's despair! If you want something that you can leave on for a couple of minutes whilst you condition your hair or shave your legs, then this would be a good purchase for you. The charcoal, blueberry extracts and salicylic acid really do make you feel like you're getting value for your money and properly treating your skin, even though Garnier is an affordable brand.

These are the only 2 products in the range at the moment, but I'll definitely be keeping my eyes peeled to see if any new additions make an appearance in the future.

What do you guys think of charcoal skincare? Will you be making a purchase any time soon?

Lots of love always,




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Wednesday, 4 April 2018

Why My Grandparents Are My Everything


Words will never be enough to express the love and gratitude that I have for my grandparents. My childhood was quite a troubled and traumatic one at times and there were many moments where things had become so turbulent that I didn't even know what would happen the following day.
However, one thing that I always knew for certain was that my grandparents were going to be permanent parental figures throughout the years - and that still stands true 17 years down the line.

Now, my Father was in my life until I was 6, but since then, we haven't spoken or seen each other very much at all and that's just the way life has worked and I'm gradually beginning to accept that as time goes on, because it's been my kind of normal for the past 11 years. Even though I haven't grown up around him, I'm not going to sit here and throw shade, because that's just unfair and uncalled for and it wouldn't be very mature on my behalf.

All throughout primary school, I used to stay at my grandparents 3 days a week and stay with my mum and her partner for the other 4. The arrangement really worked for me, because I have always valued my grandparents and they have always been very 'hands on' and involved so to essentially live with them half of the time brought me so much happiness. We'd all watch Coronation Street and Deal or No Deal together in the evenings, I'd play with my Barbie dolls whilst my Grandad watched films and my Grandma read the paper and then as I stopped playing with my dolls, I'd resort to reading on the sofa or watching YouTube on my iPad instead. We would always have dinner altogether at the table as well as pudding (of course) and later on in the evening, we would all have cups of tea too, because we are traditionally British like that. Myself and my Grandma would then go upstairs and watch something like One Born Every Minute or Supersize Vs Supersize and then we would always have the ITV News on downstairs, unless I was at the age where bedtime had to be around 9pm. I don't remember the last time I went to bed at 9pm nowadays, let alone asleep by 9:30! How times have changed.

These memories are incredibly precious to me. I am so blessed at the fact that I got to spend most of my childhood with 2 of the most important people in my life, because I know not every child in the UK, let alone the world understands what a special relationship it is.

Both my Grandma and my Grandad have taught me endless lessons that I will forever hold close to my heart. Above anything else, they have taught me how men should treat women, to always be kind and have respect for others, to be patient and empathetic, to always try my best in school and to never let a boy or a man take advantage of my innocence or my body. I'm only human and so obviously I don't always listen to people's words of wisdom, despite knowing their right 99% of the time, but then my grandparents have always dealt with the tears and tantrums to help me move on from whatever the negative situation was.

Evidently, I never grew up in a typical family home. I didn't have 2 parents that were happily married and hopelessly in love. I don't recall my parents ever showing love or appreciation for each other. I've never had a dad who can protect me and talk down to any boys who disrespect me. I still feel quite bitter about that and that's understandable, because I am still a teenager, but this is the way that my life is and it's something that I'm used to now. Some days are just harder than other at accepting it. In a lot of ways, my Grandad is the man I look up to in order to see how women should be respected and treated. He has been married to my Grandma for over 60 years and that is the kind of love that I could only ever dream of. They have set such a wonderful example to both me and my older sister through the way they are as individuals and as a couple and I am blessed that I get to be related to them.

I think the picture that I've included at the beginning of this post is enough for anybody to see just how genuinely smitten they are with each other. I will always treasure it and I'm sure I'll look back on it in years to come when I have my own family to show and tell them just how much of an influence my Grandparents had on my life and my upbringing.

Although I don't see them as much at the moment since starting secondary school, I do still text my Grandma everyday and I call and visit them whenever the opportunity comes up.

I love you forever and always Granny and Grampy. Forever my favourites. 

Lots of love always,



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Wednesday, 28 March 2018

Putting Yourself First*


Back in February (the month of luuuurvvvee), I was lucky enough to receive this motivational journal created by Wendy at The Love Monkey Company. I'd done my research on it before reaching out to her, and in all honesty, it looked like the perfect sort of journal to have in your life!

For anyone who has lost that spring in their step, or those looking to make some sort of change, this is what you need in order to reach those goals, and successfully see them through. I've always been fascinated with the idea of mindfulness, and journaling, but I've just never actually got into it until now.

This particular self-help journal starts off by with some inspirational quotes (which are always a win in my opinion!), and then for the next few pages, Wendy introduces her own story, and what life was like before and after she created this masterpiece. After that, she gives a few examples of what she doesn't want to happen in her life, and then she leaves some space for you to do the same.

Further on, you get the chance to create a happy list of, you guessed it, the things that make you happy.

Going through the book, you focus on what goals you want to achieve, what your timescale is, and how to ensure that you have the right, positive mindset. The idea is that you fill out a page each day based on what time you got up, whether you exercised and drank enough water, if you have any positive affirmations that you used (it's suggested that you implement at least 3 into your day!), whether you meditated, 4 things you are/were grateful for, spending a further 5 minutes visualising your day, planning out a short to-do list, and then thinking about your food, alcohol, mood, and any activity that you did in regard to self-care.

After the first 30 days, there's a section which allows you to round everything up, so thinking about what changed, what your biggest victory was, your overall commitment level, what you now do that you hadn't done before, the 3 things you always do to improve your mood, what habit needs reinforcing, what you will do to commit to doing this, rating your happiness out of 10, and what you need to remind yourself for the next 30 days.

As you may have guessed, you then do exactly the same thing for those, and then at the very end of the book, there is space for you to create a vision board, write any positive affirmation ideas, and then some pages for you to write any notes should you wish to do so.

I think that if you struggle with keeping track of your targets, or if you are the sort of person who always says they want to achieve something, but then procrastinates before they even start the process, then this could be the perfect journal for you!


Considering it's only £15, you get so much value for your money, as it will last you a couple of months, and then you can continue to do it throughout the year if you found that it worked for you. If change is going to be made in your life, it's essential that you put yourself, and your own needs first. Be grateful for what you have. Focus on your mindset and work on it if you need to. Use this journal as your daily reflection, and your daily source of encouragement.

If you don't want to take my word for it, take a look at the website, and you will see how many positive reviews there are from other people! This journal really can change your life, and even if you only make small changes each day, the end result will be incredible, and you will have wished that you took more time for yourself sooner.

Have you got your copy of this journal? If not, have you been tempted to make a purchase?

Lots of love always,



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Sunday, 25 March 2018

My Holy Grail Hair Care Tool

Most of you may not be aware of this, but I've always had a love-hate relationship with my hair. It used to be more like strawberry blonde little ringlets, and since then, it's changed a lot. Over time, I found that it naturally become more of a light brown, and it turned wavy rather than curly, but the fringe that formed wasn't quite so cute by the time I reached the age of 8, and started wearing glasses! I'd actually go as far as to say it was quite a tragic look, but one which I eventually grew out of by the time I started secondary school, much to my relief.

Over the years, I've admittedly dyed it quite a few times. For the most part, my mum would whip out those horrible plastic gloves, and use any decent looking kit from Boots, or Superdrug, just like my grandma used to do for my sister throughout her later teenage life. I went red, darker brown, black, and then in between it would turn gingery with either black, red, or blonde patches, and roots. What a sexy look I had going on back in the day.

It was always particularly greasy when I had a fringe, and although I'd make sure to condition thoroughly, the regular brushes I'd reach for would quite literally rip all my hair out, and not exactly work wonders for the knots.

However, I saw so many people speaking highly about the tangle teezer, and after coming across endless positive reviews, I asked my grandma if she could pick one up for me! This one that I've got now (photographed above), I've easily been using it religiously for at least 5 or 6 years, and I've genuinely never looked back! I do still have a paddle brush, and a couple of different combs that I use, but whenever I'm in the shower, out of the shower, or if my hair is at a manageable length, I'll always reach for this trusty tool. It works an absolute treat at detangling, and smoothing the conditioner through the mid-lengths to ends, because any other brush would just collect loads of hairs, and destroy my locks. I find it really easy to hold, and grip in my hand, so it's perfect to reach for without any fuss. Mine is in the 'Pink Fizz' shade (so I believe), which I have loved for years, but there are so many different styles, and colours available now that next time, I won't be so basic!

In my opinion, I would always invest in 1) a proper, high quality hairbrush and 2) a high quality, luxurious styling tool of your choice, whether that be a hairdryer, straighteners, or curlers. Tangle Teezer now have brushes particularly for thick, curly hair, salon type brushes (similar to the one I use, but more professional!), aqua brushes specifically for the shower or bath, kids ranges, smoothing tools, back combing brushes, and even a compact groomer for men! They really do tailor for everyone's needs.

The prices typically vary from £11-20, but it does entirely depend on what you're after. On their website, they actually offer you the chance to find out which one is best suited for your hair, and your wishes through providing a whole load of information, and videos! I'll definitely be picking up a few more when I get the chance, because who doesn't love new haircare products to get those luscious locks they have always desired?!

If you want to find out more, go to https://www.tangleteezer.com/, or your nearest beauty retailer.

Have you got a Tangle Teezer? What do you like about it?

Lots of love always,





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Sunday, 11 March 2018

Money Matters Now More Than Ever*


Living a cost-effective life nowadays is hard for all of us, unless we are somehow born into a miraculously rich, and famous family (the Kardashians *cough cough*). Chances are that everybody has to worry about money on a weekly, if not, daily basis, and it's becoming all the more consuming as time goes on.

I was recently contacted by Beth from Nebula, who has created a brand new, up and coming business idea alongside her co-founder, which can help you with all of your cash related concerns. I'll be talking more about it later on in this post, so keep your eyes peeled to find out the details, or alternatively, click on the above link to have a little look for yourselves! 

I have watched countless documentaries over the past few months about homelessness, and teenagers living below the breadline within the UK, and personal debt is becoming increasingly common amongst our nation. There are people who are struggling to put food on the table, and those who can no longer keep a roof over their families heads. We are living within the 21st century, and yet financial education is still not spoken about enough. That's a real, life threatening problem. 

According to statistics from The Guardian, 1 in 5 people are financially illiterate, and they are simply incapable of grasping basic shopping conundrums. I fear that I would personally fit into that figure myself, due to the lack of education that I've received throughout my life on money management. Those of us who are growing up within today's society are facing immense pressure to buy from the latest brands that are dubbed the 'best', and near enough everything that we want to do costs thousands of pounds once you add it all up! 

In 2014, finance was supposed to become a compulsory part of the curriculum for secondary schools within the UK (excluding academies, and free schools), but, according to further research from The Guardian, around 35-45% of schools were actually delivering financial education back then, and it's estimated that even now, only about 40% are doing so. Us students need information about loans, mortgages, interest rates, and credit cards, as otherwise, we will only be able to learn from our mistakes, which is an incredibly worrying thought, but one that can so easily be prevented.

However, we can all breathe a sigh of relief, because help is at hand. Nebula Webinars is an education startup, and the founders are launching a course in the Spring that breaks down basic economics, and personal finance for teenagers. The aim of this online finance course is to teach teenagers how to become more independent, and more intellectually aware when it comes to money, and to not rely on their parents income when they fly the nest, take responsibility, and successfully stick to budgets, as well as understand how to never fall prey to dodgy credit cards, which will only have a negative effect in the long run! If you want to make your purchase now, you can do so at the pre-sale price of just £20. Now, that's what I call proper value for what you pay. 

You can also sign up for the newsletter here if you want all the latest Nebula news each Sunday!

Before you finish reading this post, it would be super helpful for the co-founders to have your feedback through this survey, which only takes you 1 minute! 

Are you going to be checking out this course? Do you believe that money matters now more than ever?

Lots of love always,


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Friday, 2 March 2018

What I Learnt Throughout 16 Years


As this post goes up, I will have just turned 17 years old. That's such a crazy thought for me to comprehend! I remember the days when I was excited to turn 13, and here I am, 4 years later.

To be honest, I think 16 was the best year of my life. I'd gotten well into my teens by this point, and I'd therefore pretty much gotten through the rough stage of figuring out who I was. Don't get me wrong, I'm still on a self-discovery journey, but I've grown massive amounts since those days! 16 is just a genuinely good age, and it's one that I personally consider to be a milestone. A lot of goodness, and many blessings came my way, but I understandably went through a lot of hardships too. Today, I thought I'd close the #SweetSixteen chapter of my life, and do so by reminiscing on what I learnt, as well as some of the best bits...

PEOPLE DON'T ALWAYS HAVE AS PURE INTENTIONS AS YOU
Something that I had shown to me time, and time again throughout my 16th year of life was that people aren't going to be as nice, and as kind-hearted as you are, or as nice, and as kind-hearted as you want them to be. To put it truthfully, people can be dicks. You go into a new friendship, or a new relationship with the best intentions, and you hope that the other person in the same, but that isn't always the case - and that's okay. Learn from it, just as I have, and don't allow them to change you. Continue to give your all, and never settle for anything less than that, even if you don't receive the same in return. 

HAVE FAITH IN WHATEVER IT IS THAT YOU BELIEVE IN
One thing that I have definitely strengthened in recent months is my belief in God, and my belief in myself. Since focusing more on my faith, I've started to count my blessings, and really focus on my ambitions. I feel much more supported, and much more positive, because to me, it's as if someone of a higher power is guiding me, and that's a great comfort. It's helped me to recognise previous bad habits, and to fully appreciate my own worth. I still have a long way to go, but good things happen to those who wait, and persevere. You will get to where you want to be if you believe you can achieve.

LIFE'S TOO SHORT TO GIVE A F*CK WHAT ANYBODY ELSE THINKS
Looking back at my younger self who was bullied for many years, I feel sad for her, but also incredibly proud. She persevered, and she didn't give up, even when she felt like she wanted to every day of her life during one particularly bad point. As I've gotten older, I genuinely have realised that other people's opinions don't matter. Even if you really value that particular person, each decision you make is still ultimately up to you. Absolutely take into consideration what they are saying, but don't let it completely control the choice you're going to make. Just let it help you make an informed decision! Take small steps in embracing who you want to be. Wear those bright orange dungarees, get a floral sleeve tattoo up your right arm, dye your hair papaya pink, because why the f*ck not?!

EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON. IT'S EITHER A BLESSING, OR A LESSON
This honestly couldn't be more true. I've met so many different people over these 16 years, and I've experienced so many different situations. Some of which are blessings, and others are just lessons that I've had to learn the hard way. Some people I've held onto for years, and I've grown with them through the good, and the bad, but others, I've seen their nasty streak one too many times, and I let go before things became even more toxic. Some situations I've been really grateful for, as they have been fun, magical, and memorable, but others have broken my heart that little bit more, and really tested my strength. Either way, this has all made me the person I am today, and I will never, ever give up fighting. I will always keep smiling, and I will never let anything, or anyone get the better of me. You can get knocked down 100 times, but then pick yourself back up 1000 times better, and stronger. 

ALWAYS HOLD ONTO THE INNER CHILD THAT RESIDES WITHIN YOU
When you're a child, you are so much more innocent, and carefree. As you grow older, you become aware of all the issues with society, and all of the expectations that have been constructed, and especially during your teenage years, you can easily become influenced, and just give in to becoming what you don't want to become. I think it's good for people to always have a part of their childhood inside them that comes out every so often. For me, it comes out within my sense of humour, my bubbly personality, the fact that I can be spontaneous, and adventurous, and that I like going to festivals, concerts, and social events where I can be hyper, and lose myself. I used to go to the woods most times I'd meet my ex boyfriend, and we'd literally just wander around, take outfit photos for my blog (back in the day haha!), listen to music, talk, and have snacks! It wasn't really much, but it didn't cost tonnes of money, we were in nature, and we were just being young teenagers together, and I enjoyed making those memories, because they just remind me of letting my inner child come out to play. I also display her through my imagination, and my poetry writing!

DREAM WITHOUT FEAR AND LOVE WITHOUT LIMITS
Don't let anything, or anyone hold you back in this one life that you're given. Your dreams are yours, and you can make them come true if you never give up, or let them go. Don't be afraid, and don't let restrictions stand in your way. Don't create imaginary barriers for yourself. Don't be too scared to try new things, and step out of your comfort zone. Give love to everyone that you interact with, and come across in this life. Don't let them turn you into someone who is cold-hearted. Even if you know that they don't love you as much as you love them, continue loving them regardless. Loving people is so important, and it will help you to be better, happier, and stronger. We need more love in the world, and you have so much to give, so never stop sprinkling it out like it's magic dust. 

I really hope you enjoyed reading this post! I've loved writing it, and I've loved reminiscing on the life lessons that I've learnt. 

I'm going to miss being 16, but it's now time to say take the lessons, the blessings, and the memories with me along the rest of life's journey, say goodbye, and embrace the new chapter - 17. 

Bring. It. On.

Lots of love always,


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Sunday, 25 February 2018

A Long-Awaited Update


Wow. I feel like I haven't sat down to properly think about writing a blog post in absolutely ages - and to be quite honest with you, it has been a while!

Life has well, and truly got in the way of everything - yet again. I feel like I haven't had time to come up for air to breathe these last few weeks, let alone maintain a social life, and create content for my beloved blog. Every day I have thought about coming back, and trying to get into the flow of things again, and finally the day has come. I should be cracking on with coursework, and other commitments, but sometimes, you just need to take a step back, and take a little time to focus on the things that set your soul on fire. Studying is, of course, important in regard to my future career prospects, but my mental health is more important, and it always will be.

The main reason that I've been so MIA on pretty much all of my social media, and especially when it comes to neglecting my blog is because I have just had so much going on in every aspect of my life. I have to put 100% of my time, and effort into Sixth Form, and with that comes mock exams to revise, and prepare for, coursework deadlines, referrals for said coursework, notes that I need to sort out for my Criminology course, which I have chosen to do for my DofE, meetings to attend for the programme, volunteering in a local charity shop for it, and on top of that, I have to fit in going to my part time job whenever I can manage it as well! I also start personal training in a couple of weeks, and I'm still trying to write my book, so it's all go, go, go!

Don't get me wrong, I love being busy, and I love having things to work on, and try to progress with, but sometimes I do begin to feel slightly swamped under, I must admit! Even though it's hard, as I can't exactly prioritise blogging out of everything else on the list, I do want to try and dedicate at least an hour in the evenings to write up even just a few paragraphs here, and then, or comment on some other people's posts to share the love. It feels like I haven't done that in months!!

Not only have I been busy lately in general, but I've also been lacking motivation when it comes to my blog. I am always so proud of the posts that I produce, and I never write, or publish any of them halfheartedly, so that's partly why I have taken a spontaenous break again. I just haven't been able to get into the flow since the New Year, but I'm going to do my best to organise, and manage my time much more effectively from now on, and I'll try to brainstorm some new ideas for my blog, so that it doesn't keep getting neglected! Please let me know if you have any feedback, or constructive criticism, as I would really appreciate it. You can either do so in the comments under this post, through my social media, or via the survey that I've created! It can be found here.

I hope you are all doing well too. Let me know if you have any updates, or any news that you would like to share, and I'll make sure I reply to all of you as soon as I can!

I'll hopefully have some more content coming your way soooon! Bear with me, my lovelies!

Lots of love always,


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Wednesday, 7 February 2018

Stepping Outta That Comfort Zone



One thing that has always made me slightly afraid is the idea of change, and new experiences in life. Don't get me wrong, there is always an element of excitement in these situations too, but for the most part, I initially shy away from anything, and everything that doesn't fit into my comfort zone.

Since becoming a teenager (which was almost 4 years ago now!), I've definitely come out of my shell, and I do genuinely think that I'm beginning to discover myself, and who I am as an individual. Growing up is difficult, and it is a challenge for most of us, but it's also the time where I believe you choose your own fate, and ultimately, create your own path .

A couple of years ago, I was in an incredibly dark place. I was being quite badly bullied at school, I wasn't all that happy at home for various reasons, and I was just generally struggling to cope with my mental health. I had no hopes, or dreams for the future, and sometimes, I couldn't even see myself waking up the next day.

Things have improved dramatically since those days. I am now so much more positive, and confident, and I'm actually willing to step out of my comfort zone whenever I get the opportunity to do so.

Stepping out of your comfort zone isn't easy. It's something that you aren't going to want to do, because the whole idea is that you have gotten so used to it that you can't bear to think any differently, but trust me when I say it will do you the world of good just to make a change.

Be confident in your own abilities. I'm a believer of God, and I don't know how many of you are interested in religion, and Christianity, but I think it's really important to feel like something, or someone is guiding you, and motivating you to do well in a sense, and in turn, helping you to want to be successful. Even if you don't have that in your life, you should want to do well for you.

Push yourself. Do things you would normally shy away from, because the choices we make that scare us the most at first are the ones that are really going to help us grow, and develop as individuals.

I'm hoping to go to University next year (hence the photo for this post!), and that would mean that I have to step out of my comfort zone immensely. I'll be living with people I don't know in an area that I'm not entirely familiar with on a course that challenges me, and will most likely encourage me to fend for myself. I've become quite an independent person already as the years have gone on compared to how I used to be, but this is going to be something completely different, I know!

The whole purpose of this post is to tell you that it's okay to step away from your safety bubble. It's okay to do things out of the ordinary, and try to say yes to an opportunity, just because you can't lose out on anything if you give it a go.

Live your life for you, and only you. You will thank yourself for it in the future - I promise. 

Lots of love always,



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Sunday, 4 February 2018

My Favourite Lipstick... EVER?!


Being your average 16 year old girl, who doesn't work as of yet (that will all change soon), I can't exactly afford for my entire makeup collection to be made up of MAC, and only MAC. I'm usually a believer in the fact that stores on the high street can sell a variety of products that are essentially dupes for the higher end versions anyway, so why waste money that I don't even have in the first place?

If I could count how many lip products, let alone lipsticks that I'd tried since getting in to makeup, I think it'd easily be way into the 100's, or more! There has been a mixture of high street, and high end (but more high street, I must say), and I have given them all a fair test over time. 

However, when it comes to my favourite, MAC's Velvet Teddy takes the tiara over all of the rest. 
THE PACKAGING
Just like all of the MAC lipsticks, Velvet Teddy comes in the classic, sleek black packaging. I know it may look really simple, and even slightly bland to some people, but I just think it looks more expensive, and more sophisticated to be totally honest! MAC is an effortless brand in general, and people already know that, so there's no need for super fancy packaging to add to that vibe. I always feel very extra if I'm taking out my MAC lippie to apply, and I secretly love that haha!

THE COLOUR
If you're looking for the most perfect nude that you will ever see in your life, (super dramatic, but super true) then I guarantee that Velvet Teddy is for you. Never before did I think that I'd find a nudey shade as lovely as this one, and as well suited for my incredibly pale complexion! It doesn't wash me out, because it isn't too light, and it doesn't have any unflattering undertones either. It just gives you a little something, a little gloss of colour, to get you through the day feeling like an absolute babe. It's definitely my go-to, and I couldn't even see myself reaching for an alternative now! Regardless of whatever your skin tone is, I think this colour will still be equally as flattering. 

THE TEXTURE

Believe it, or not (this actually came as a shock to me personally), Velvet Teddy is actually a matte finish! I'm not that much of a fan of mattes, as that's just my own opinion, and so I usually put a clear lip balm on underneath (I'm not really a regular gloss girl either, but I am partial to some shine every now, and then!), because it just gives more of a healthy glow, which is especially helpful if you get quite cracked lips like I do! It still looks gorgeous if it is matte though, don't get me wrong. 

THE PRICE
Having said all of those positive things, the only negative I can really think of the puts me off is the price. Obviously, it doesn't put me off to the point where I won't repurchase the product (because, believe me, I will when the time comes!), but my MAC lipsticks are typically what I receive as gifts, just because it feels more special, and more luxurious. That's the one day I allow myself to feel like a proper princess anyway! I have had this current one (and my first!) since my 16th, which was in March, and I still have a decent amount left, considering I wear it everyday, so it is worth that extra investment if you're into your lipsticks like me!!

Have you girlies ever owned Velvet Teddy? If so, what do you think of it?

Lots of love always,


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Wednesday, 24 January 2018

A Comforting Candle Company ft. Candle Spa*


Something that I've never really spoken about on my blog before is my love for anything, and everything to do with relaxation. I do talk about self-care quite regularly, and I know there's a link between the two to some extent, but today, I thought I'd take the time to mention a candle company that I discovered a couple of months ago, as it's always good to introduce a new type of content!

Back in November, I got in touch with Candle Spa, who create, and sell natural soy wax candles that help to provide people with that everyday spa feeling. I was very kindly sent this Lavender & Black Pepper Candle to review for all of you, as well as the Lady Ashleigh Reed Diffuser. 

I was absolutely blown away by both of these gifts. Everything feels luxurious about this brand, from the boxes the products come in, and the individual packaging to the scents themselves. Even though I've never been to a spa, or anything of the sort, I can genuinely imagine immersing myself into that experience whenever I smell these two products. They're absolutely divine, and I think that they would work perfectly in a home, a salon, a spa, or even guest houses/hotels. 

Not everybody can afford to have a spa day, or pamper themselves regularly, if ever, but these people may work incredibly hard on a daily basis, and want nothing more than to add some serenity to their routine for a change. Considering the candle on its own is £12, I don't think many of us would be able to resist that offer. You can burn one whilst reading a book, having a bath, cuddling up on the sofa, or literally anything else that takes your fancy. Even if you don't want to start burning it right away, it still looks beautiful, and chic whilst on display, and I guarantee any visitors will ask about the brand, and where they can make a purchase from!

In regards to the packaging, I got sent a note with very interesting information on it, so I thought that rather than giving a poor explanation myself, I'll just insert what that says here:

"The core values of the Candle Spa brand are to provide a self-indulgent product in a recognisable quality pack that reflects the image of a hand-poured luxury product made here in the UK. Aimed at four star hotels and Spa's on the commercial side, it's measure of success is to see how well the packs sit within that environment; and on every count it achieves that objective. The original concept was created in-house using natural images of pebbles/hot stones and a floral accompaniment to provide fragrance differentiation amongst the product range. The majority of the packs display an orchid, as this is often used as decoration within Spa's and Beauty Salons and evokes a sense of quality, and relaxation. Orchids also represent longevity, which we feel our products offer the consumer, with the diffusers lasting up to 3 months (50% longer than some well-known competitor products). The teal foiling and gloss lamination provides a real on-shelf focus of luxury, and quality, better-reflecting a cosmetic brand rather than a home decor one."

As well as the candles being made of natural soy wax, they also have non-metal wicks, to which they add luxury blends of fragrance oils to help create an added feeling of utter relaxation. The company's Spa range comes in 3 different sizes, which are 20cl, 30cl, and 50cl (the 3 wick one!). It's thought that they last approximately 30, 45, and 80 hours, proving that you get incredible value for money, and they aren't even extortionately  pricey in the first place! 

Some of the scents that you can choose from include: Patchouli & Ginger, Pomegranate & White Fig, Spicy Pear, Woodsage & Sea Salt, Lotus Flower, and then (obviously) Lavender & Black Pepper, to name just a few of them. 

Whatever it is that you're on the hunt for, I'm sure you will be able to find something to satisfy all of your senses if you go and check out Candle Spa's website. You definitely won't regret it!

Are you a candle lover? What sort of scents are your favourites?

Lots of love always,


Disclaimer: This post was written in collaboration with Candle Spa. I was lucky enough to get sent these products to review for free. However, all thoughts and opinions are my own as always.

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Sunday, 7 January 2018

Sharing My Secret...


Something that I've been keeping hush hush about for the longest time can finally be revealed, and I genuinely couldn't be more excited about that. 

In case you didn't already know...


I'M WRITING MY OWN BOOK!!!!

Ever since I was a little girl, I've always loved reading, and writing of all sorts. I was mainly into the creative aspect of it, because my imagination is super crazy, but as I got into secondary school, I'd write a couple of diary entries here, and there, when I was going through a particularly bad patch, and then just place my focus onto English lessons. It's not that I lost the interest whatsoever, but it was automatically placed to the back of my mind, because I just didn't have the time, or the ideas, and quite frankly, I didn't have much reason to put in all the effort either. 

Wanting to write a book has been something that has always stuck with me. The idea has never disappeared, but I didn't ever imagine that I'd be announcing the plan at the age of 16. 

Although I've touched on the tough times I've faced in blog posts before, I've never really shared all the whole story, and I don't usually tend to share the personal poems that I write either. When I was going through the beginning of the drama, I was too young to properly read, or write, so I obviously didn't have that escape back then, but throughout my teenage years, I've always turned to writing. I find that it really helps me to put things into perspective, and it allows me to process things properly, and in some ways, rationalise the way that I'm feeling. That's why I do it for myself, but I also do it for other people. They may be able to relate, they may find comfort out of my poems, they make feel less alone knowing that somebody else has battled with similar demons. I know that I personally feel that way with other people's poetry anyway. 

The book is going to be called 'Intoxicated Minds', and there are a couple of reasons behind that. To me, intoxicated means out of control, overthinking, the madness of growing up, and minds is a collective term, referring to teenagers, and young people as a whole, or just every human in general. I also perceive intoxicated as meaning young people are poisoned by the societal standards, and expectations, but they aren't all necessarily conforming to them. 

I have also started thinking about chapters, and I've now got the 5 solid ones set in stone. They are: empathy, encouragement, empowerment, excitement, and experiment. How cool do they sound?! I wanted them all to start with the same letter 'e', because that symbolises emotions, and obviously, I want my book to be pretty damn emotional (both good, and bad!), because that's more realistic. 

I don't want to share too many more details, because it all is still very new, and exciting, and I don't want to give everything away, and ruin the surprise, but I just want to say that this really is a dream come true. I feel so happy, and hopeful, and so proud of myself for trying to do this (basically) on my own at such a young age. I have big dreams, and this has always been up there in my top 3, I'd say. 
Just keep your eyes peeled, as I'll always give you the updates as soon as I have them! 

Let me know how you feel about poetry, and whether you would consider purchasing my book once it's available! I would really appreciate all of the support, and all of the feedback I can get, because you guys are the best at showing the love.

Thank you for everything, and I hope you're just as excited about this whole project as I am!

Lots of love always,






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Friday, 5 January 2018

My Goals For 2018


I genuinely can't believe that we're already nearly a week into 2018. Where in the world has the time gone?! It blows my mind, because I'm sure the years are just going by faster, and faster. 

A new year only means one thing - New Years Resolutions. Well, unless you're like me, and you don't believe in setting yourself unrealistic expectations to meet, because that's just asking for disappointment, right?

Instead, I'm going to be talking through just a couple of my goals for the upcoming year, as they are much more achievable on a personal level, and I'll feel much more pride, and satisfaction this way.

1. Continue to do well in my A-Levels. 

Whether this means in my coursework, or in any exams that I have, I want to put 110% effort into my first year of A-Levels. Sixth Form is proving to be quite a challenge at the moment, since starting in September, but I'm always willing to take on a challenge, and it's nothing overwhelming. You have got to do what you have got to do in order to succeed in the future, after all!


2. Push myself even more with my blog. 

During 2017, I worked incredibly hard on my content, and my social media pages. I worked with some lovely brands, and I gained quite a few followers too! However, I hope to just keep getting better, and better. I'd love to improve my photography further, try to post a couple of times a week, and work with more brands than I did last year. 

3. Finish writing my book, and have it ready for publishing by the end of the year. 
I'm working my arse off at the moment to make this dream come true, because I so desperately want to have my book put together by December, so it can be available for pre-order then, and therefore ready for my birthday in March. I'm still trying to finish off the content at the moment, as I don't want to rush any of the process, but it's looking very promising, and coming on well! I'll do a separate post about it on Sunday though, so keep your eyes peeled!

4. Get my first proper, paid job. 
At the moment, I volunteer for 3 hours every Friday at my local Marie Curie shop, as part of my DofE award. I love helping people, and it's my first bit of experience within retail, and working in the community. However, as much as I still want to focus on charities, I also want a paid job, so that I can make my own money, and get satisfaction, and pride out of that, but also afford to do fun things that I enjoy without having to ask my mum, or rely entirely on pocket money. 


5. Start learning to drive, and buy my own car.
EEEK, how exciting is this?! In March, I'll be turning 17, and as I live in the UK, that means I can legally start learning to drive from then on. My sister, being the babe she is, has said that she'll buy me some driving lessons to get me going, and my mum has already found me a potential driving instructor! I applied for my professional driving license the other days, so it's full steam ahead now. I'm not sure if I definitely want to buy a car once I've passed my theory, and my practical, but it's something I'm considering! 


6. Travel to some more places, and get out the house as much as possible. 
Even though it's harder to get out, and about during these colder months, I really want to put in more effort to make something of my life. I want to get out into the world, explore, go on more trains, and day trips, enjoy more concerts, and festivals. Of course, it's much more easier to do so in the Summer, and when it's warmer, but honestly, you have to make the most of each day, so I'm going to do as much as I can, whilst I still can. 


Those are all of the things that I can think of at the moment! Hopefully, I can give you all an update when we get to June, and then again at the end of December to see how many I've actually achieved, and whether there's anything else that I've done, which is worth mentioning.


Do you have any 2018 goals? If not, think of one now, and let me know in the comments below!

I hope you all had a wonderful New Year. It's onwards, and upwards now, guys. 


Lots of love always,



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