Sunday, 23 September 2018

Two New Poetry Purchases

As someone who is currently in the process of putting together and publishing her own debut poetry collection, it's a given that I want to appreciate the work of other writers too. That's essentially how I came up with the inspiration to follow in their footsteps anyway. 

I've made my way through quite a few books now, including the infamous Milk and Honey, (which you can see my review for here) so I thought it would be a nice idea for those of you that are interested for me to do a review on a couple of new ones that I've been dipping in and out of recently.

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Thursday, 20 September 2018

Beauty Tips To Being The Best Possible YOU

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There are a lot of elements of life that you have to look into improving. It's always a good idea to do what you can to be happy with who you are, because after all, you're stuck with yourself forever, but everyone and everything else may just be temporary. Building up great confidence and self-esteem is really important, and you have to make sure you do as much as you can to be the best possible version of yourself. This involves coming up with individualised ideas that will boost your appearance and make you feel great.

You need to make sure you think hard about what's involved in beautifying yourself in the way that you feel will make you the most confident. It can be hard these days trying to have a positive self-image, especially as there are so many ways in which we can despair and compare ourselves to celebrity perfection. Here are some of the ways you can use beauty hints to improve who you are and the way you feel about Y-O-U.
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Wednesday, 19 September 2018

A Makeup Brush Cleansing Duo*

At the end of August, I was fortunate to get sent both the Daily Cleaning Spray and the Deep Cleaning Make-Up Brush Shampoo from the PR team at Natural Essentoils. Now I have had some time to form my first impressions, I thought I'd share them with you today in case you were eyeing up the brand and wanted to know more about what they stand for!

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Tuesday, 18 September 2018

How To Be Financially Free Early On In Life

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Let's face it, there's nothing more frustrating than growing up in the social media run society that we live in now without having the money to match. There are so many things that we require and want as a young person, like the best phone to stay connected, the best outfits to inspire, and the best outings to talk about, but unfortunately, all of these things require money, and it can be a lot to keep up with, especially when you're younger and don't yet have all the necessary means as someone older might have. Not to worry though, you can still be financially free, but you just need to be motivated enough.

Here are some ideas that you can follow to help you out...

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Monday, 17 September 2018

Young Money: A Teenagers’ Guide To Managing Their Finances

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Whether you are out there earning your own money, managing the allowance you are given by a family member or saving for the future, money management can be a tough issue when you are a teenager, and it's one that can affect many of us. Luckily, it's possible to take actions now that can have a positive effect on your finances throughout your life. I have been taking them into consideration during the last few months, because I want to ensure that I can feel comfortable without having to worry about what's to come. If you're interested in becoming more savvy when it comes to those pennies, just keep reading this post...
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Sunday, 16 September 2018

A Day At Hughenden Manor

During every break from Sixth Form, I like to spend some time with my Aunt and Uncle. They live near the River Thames and are avid visitors of the National Trust places. I have heard quite a few bloggers, YouTubers and people I follow on Instagram sharing shots of them before and I immediately fell in love with the idea, seeing as we typically visit castles and gardens together anyway.

We thought that as it was the Summer holidays at the time of this visit, it was about time to add Hughenden Manor to the list that already consists of Cliveden and Hever (see accompanying post for Hever here)
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Saturday, 15 September 2018

Dealing With Personal Problems On Holiday

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Do you like to travel?

Of course you do! Everyone loves feeling the sand between their toes on the beach and the smell of vendor stalls when you’re walking down foreign streets. There’s a lot of novelty in being able to get away from the daily grind, and that’s something everyone should and does forward to.

Going travelling usually means we’re headed away for a good time, but honestly, it’s never quite as clear cut as that. We’re still human beings, even after drinking copious cocktails at a rooftop bar in Miami, and we still have our health and safety to look out for. You might not want to, or you might have pushed these issues to the side, but planning for personal problems whilst you’re away is the best idea for happiness on holiday.

So, here’s a couple of tips and tricks for making sure that you’ve got your suitcase fully packed and loaded for your next trip away. If you’re planning to become a seasoned traveller one day, this is the first step onwards to your new lifestyle!
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Friday, 14 September 2018

Are You In An Honest Relationship?

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Many people believe it will never happen to them.The person they are with loves them, right? Well, not if they are cheating on you and 35% of people admit to cheating. It's always a hard reality to accept when you find out that the person you love most in the world is being unfaithful to you, but, it's also something you need to know. You might have your suspicions and if you do,  you need to either ask your partner or do some investigating. You need to know if you're in an honest relationship before you get your heart broken. Here are some of the ways that you can find out...
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Thursday, 13 September 2018

Why You Should Stay In The UK

When it comes to booking a holiday, most of the time you’ll often think about where you want to go in the world, because that’s what travel is all about, right? Seeing the world, experiencing new things, and taking in everything different. But, when you think about that, you will find that you can actually get that when you travel in the UK. But, for some reason, you will always still think about going abroad, even though there’s just so much on offer in the UK that you can take in and enjoy. Not only that, there are so many different benefits and selling points that you should be taking in too...
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Wednesday, 12 September 2018

The UK's Finest Road Trips

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The UK is a nation which is just waiting to be discovered on a road trip - and since it's such a small country in comparison to others, you don’t have to drive far to get away from the main cities to be surrounded by miles of beautiful countryside. There's something special about exploring a place by car which gives you an incredible sense of freedom. You can stop wherever you would like. You don’t have to be limited to any timetables or schedules, and you have a unique bonding opportunity to connect with whoever you're on the trip with.

Now all you need is an idea of where to go. Well, this is what I aim to provide you with in this blog post. Though there are thousands of possible routes which you could embark upon, I'm going to focus on some of the most famous and memorable here. Any one of these trips would make for a spectacular adventure which will live long in the mind for years to come.

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Sunday, 9 September 2018

Sometimes A Girl's Gotta Treat Herself! ft. Appleyard London


Generally speaking, the societal view these days is that the men buy the women flowers and you can't love anyone until you love yourself. Quite frankly, I couldn't disagree with this more if I tried.

Today's post is going to be all about the importance of females treating themselves as often as they want and not let these expectations determine their self-worth.
I've only ever received a proper bunch of flowers once in my life and ironically, they were a gift from a guy that I was sort of seeing/sort of not (now's not the time to go into that one!). 

However, buying myself this Citrus Coulis bouquet (created with cerise germini, vibrant wow and tara roses with blue agapanthus complemented by foliage) is symbolic of the change that I have seen in myself in recent months and how I only hope to keep improving and doing things to better myself.
If flowers are the sort of thing that you're into, you can check out the Appleyard Flowers website to treat either yourself (like me!) or a loved one. The different sizing options are the classic 'Bijou', which is that particular bouquet's standard price, the 'Chic' size, which is an additional £5, or the same as mine, the 'Lux', which is an extra £10. Overall, this variation is £44.99 with £5.99 P+P! 
You really are your own best friend. Nothing and no-one should ever change that. 
Flowers can definitely have a significant impact on your mood, whatever time of year it is. If you are used to putting other people first and you don't often dedicate much time to yourself, it can make the world of difference to just order yourself a little treat. 
Everything about the whole process is almost guaranteed to put a smile on your face, from picking out your variation to getting the delivery through your door to presenting them in your home. There's such a wide selection of flowers that you can get yourself, depending on your own personal preference. 
If you want to take it to the next level and make it even more special, as this sort of occurrence is quite rare, you could do some research into the different meanings of flowers and pick a present based on that. For example, sunflowers often symbolise happiness, good luck and intelligence and germini's are also linked to happiness and cheerfulness. Appleyard have actually done a blog post about the meaning of different coloured roses, which you may find to be an interesting read. I certainly did!

Receiving a delivery off of this company made my entire week. Everything comes in a beautifully packaged, perfectly secure cardboard box and you even get to pick which day you want your order to be delivered on, which is so helpful and definitely appreciated if you're a busy bee or awaiting someone's birthday! They come wrapped around with printed paper and not only do you get a booklet with step-by-step instructions on how to care for your flowers, but you also get special food for them, which is just a bonus!
I really couldn't recommend this company enough. Both my Mum and I decided that we should display the beautiful bouquet in the living room, so that everyone can see them and appreciate them to make sure they are valued for as long as they last. It's no surprise that a lot of people, bloggers and social media influencers especially, are so keen to make their own purchases!

It's also worth mentioning that some residents in London can receive same day delivery, but in the UK, you can get next day if you make a purchase before or up to 7:30pm.

What do you think about women treating themselves? Will you be making a purchase from Appleyard London?

Lots of love always,

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Saturday, 8 September 2018

4 Ways To Wear Boho Jewellery

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Boho, a shortened version of bohemian, is a lifestyle related to having a free spirit, a peaceful mind and being an individual rather than following the crowds. It's a way of life that attracts many people, as they want to get away from the rate race we live in today. It even has its own fashion trends, which usually include lots of fringe and tassels. As they are often nature-oriented, many of the prints and accessories, such as jewellery, have animal or plant designs included in them.

Boho Necklaces

We generally think of fringe as being on the edge of fashionable garments or being used as a decoration on bags and they are usually made from threads, suede or leather. Fringed necklaces are simply silver, gold or coloured strips that can be any length you want. Long fringed necklaces can provide a modern look for the perfect boho style.

More simplistic necklaces, which are often worn several at a time, can be a great add-on to any boho outfit. Chokers are a popular boho trend too. Often made from shells, you can collect them from the beach and make the choker yourself, and maybe a bracelet to match.

Boho Earrings

Earrings can be styled to suit whatever you are wearing. Tasseled earrings are a favourite boho option. Coloured segment rings and piercing rings with crystals are also popular choices for daith piercing online stores having a whole array of earrings to pick from. Earrings can be the finishing touch that is needed to make your attire look boho and classy at the same time. I don't actually have my daith pierced as of yet, but I think it looks really edgy and unique and it's also supposed to help with migraines, so it's pretty as well as being practical!

Boho Rings

One of the good things about boho fashion is that you don't have to search for things that match. If anything you wear compliments something else, that's great, but it really doesn't matter too much if that's not the case.

This makes it very easy to accessorise your hands. Lots of rings and bracelets all add to the gypsy-inspired boho look. In true gypsy tradition, pieces are picked up from where they happen to be travelling, and it's not unusual for them to be wearing jewellery from several different parts of the world.

Don’t forget, when the weather is good and you're on the beach or wearing flip-flops and sandals quite often during the Summer months, you could go a little more extreme and style up the look with some toe rings.

Boho Ankle Bracelets

It's not out of the ordinary to see fine chains on women’s ankles but to create your boho style the ankle bracelets need to be bigger and bolder, creating a statement about the life that you have chosen to lead.

Accessorise your ankle with an authentic and unique boho style bracelet and you won't fail to catch people’s attention.

The Origins Of Boho Style

It's worth noting that there are varying opinions on this. The main two theories being that it's gypsy-inspired and the other that it's leftover from the days of the hippies and flower people. However, the origins of boho style don't really matter when you're just trying to create the look for yourself. What matters more is that you're comfortable and enjoy wearing the many variations that are around for you to choose from.


*Please note that this is a collaborative post*

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Friday, 7 September 2018

Wake Up To Wales

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Do you still want to try to squeeze one last trip away in before the year is out? If so, you might like the idea of a staycation. You won’t have to travel too far, and they usually aren’t quite as pricey as traveling abroad. Thankfully, there are loads of great destinations you could visit across the United Kingdom, but in this blog post I’m going to focus on Wales.



Although I've never been (yet!), Wales seems like such a great country, especially if you love getting outside and exploring nature. There are so many thrilling hiking routes as well as historic castles and towns for you to explore. It's definitely a place on my bucket list, and not just because I'm 1/4 Welsh!


Ready to wake up to Wales? Here are some of its best tourist destinations...
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Tuesday, 4 September 2018

Starting Up Your Own Blog

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If you want to start a blog, but you don’t know how to go about the whole process, that's totally okay, because a lot of us were the same!

Once you get your site in order and you have established your target audience, everything else should fall into place and this can open up so many doors for you in the future - just like it has with me!


In today's post, I'm going to be talking you through some of the main steps that everybody should consider during the attempt to bring their blog to life.

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Sunday, 2 September 2018

What Photography Means To Me

In my opinion, every single person on this planet has some sort of hobby or passion. A lot of them will be artistic of some description, because through that type of form, you can express your emotions and create something extraordinary at the same time, but of course, there's plenty of other types out there too.

For me, my passion has always been writing, but in recent years, photography has become one too.
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Saturday, 1 September 2018

Dressing Appropriately For Different Occasions

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Fashion is always a lot of fun and that’s how you should always see it. Sometimes, it’s all too easy to put pressure on yourself, but really, you want to be sure that you can actually enjoy the process of dressing up, because that’s what fashion is all about. Even if you feel very uninspired in your life right now, there’s one thing that can change all of that...
OCCASIONS!

Now, we’re not just talking about weddings or parties, but all of the different occasions that make up your life, because when you really think about it, you will have lots of different situations, some regular and some a little rarer that you may need to dress differently for.

Sometimes, this can stress you out, as you won’t always know what to wear, but it’s often best to let it inspire you. So, let’s take a look at some of the key occasions you have and how you can dress for them.
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Friday, 31 August 2018

The Secret To Cherishing Every Day

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Everybody has bad days.
Maybe you’ll experience an unfortunate string of events, or maybe stress and anxiety will ruin what could have been a great day. Life is a series of ups and downs, but that’s what makes it so fantastic. Sometimes, we need to experience bad things to appreciate the good things.
Of course, if you’re struggling to find a sense of peace and calm then you might want to approach life in a different way.

Here are the secrets to cherishing every day...
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Wednesday, 29 August 2018

Statement Made Jewellery*

Towards the end of last month, I was contacted by the lovely team at Statement Made Jewellery, who had come across my page on Twitter and wondered whether they would be able to gift me a personalised necklace in exchange for a review. I, of course, jumped at the chance once I made a visit to their cute, girly website and that's what today's post is going to be all about.

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Sunday, 26 August 2018

I'm Not Your Average 17 Year Old

I'm not your average 17 year old. Some people may have differing opinions on what the term 'average' means, so let me give you a brief overview of what it means to me. 
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Wednesday, 22 August 2018

For You

This is for you
Although I may not know you personally, this poem is for whoever is reading it right now
Whether you’re
young,
middle-aged,
elderly,
male,
female,
transgender,
or whether you identify as something else

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Sunday, 19 August 2018

Don't Stop Thinking About Tomorrow: A Book Review*

Usually when I get a new book to read, it can take me quite a while to get into it and connect with the characters. However, as soon as I received Siobhan Curham's new novel in the post, I could tell that I was going to be turning the pages like crazy, because it has the sort of storyline that grips you right from the start.

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Wednesday, 15 August 2018

All Of The Happy News

Whenever you turn on the news or scroll through your social media, it's becoming increasingly more common for your eyes and your mind to be plagued with all of the devastation that is currently happening around the world. Constant kidnappings, shootings, stabbings, never-ending wars - the list keeps going on. 

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Sunday, 12 August 2018

Top Tips To Managing Travel Anxiety

From what I’ve seen and heard, I think it’s pretty safe to say that the whole process of flying can provoke quite a lot of anxiety for a large number of us. It’s not necessarily always put me off, but throughout my teenage years in particular, I’ve really noticed the impact that it can have on my mental health.



I went on holiday to Nice in the South of France for a couple of days at the end of July (as you will know if you have read this post) and leading up to the day of travelling, I watched a couple of YouTube videos on how to ‘get over’ my fear of flying. I’ve saved them into a self-help playlist and so I thought it would be a great opportunity to share some of the tips that I picked up, because after all, August is the main month of sunny Summer holidays!
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Wednesday, 8 August 2018

The Power Of Plants: A Skincare Review

Throughout my teenage years, I have constantly been trying out new skincare products in the hope of one day perfecting a proper regime. I've dabbled through phases whereby I've stuck to a list of certain favourites, but they lasted no longer than a few weeks and then I was straight back into washing my face with any old cleanser.

Quite a while ago, I purchased these 2 organic newbies from Boots, having seen bloggers going wild for the brand Botanics (you can tell this was definitely a while ago - oops!). I'm all for making the transition to cruelty-free beauty and I'm hoping that as time goes on, I will eventually succeed in that quest. Whilst everyone and their cute, fluffy puppy was talking about the brand's revamp, I decided that it was only right for me to jump on the bandwagon and see which 1 of the 4 ranges floated my boat the most.

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Sunday, 5 August 2018

A Short Stay In The South Of France

This time last week, my Aunt, Uncle, Sister and I were on our way back home from a magical few days in Nice. As with most things in my life, I wanted to share the memories we made with all of you who read my blog and for myself to look back on in the future, so here goes...

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Sunday, 29 July 2018

Two Of My Top Summer Scents

Since I wrote up and published this post about my favourite perfume, I thought that it would be interesting if I shared with you a couple of my favourite fragrances for the Summer months. I'm forever spraying myself at any chance I get (not because I think I smell funny though!), but even though I've referred to these as 'summery' scents for the purpose of the post, I do just wear them whenever I want to, depending on what I fancy that day. They are both affordable in my opinion and easy to get your hands on if you're living in the UK or elsewhere, I believe, so let's quit the small talk and get on with it... 

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Wednesday, 25 July 2018

My Thoughts On Love Island


In all honesty, this year's Love Island has been quite the talk of the town - and not necessarily for all of the right reasons. As a 17-year-old girl, I thought it would be a good idea to let you know what I've perceived from the series of 2018 so far because it has certainly set a few alarm bells ringing...

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Wednesday, 18 July 2018

Printed Trousers Are The 'In Thing'



Here's a fun fact for you all: When I was around 9 or 10 years old, I actually wanted to be a fashion designer. I know hardly any of you would have imagined that to be the truth, seeing as my fashion posts are few and far between on my blog, but it is! I used to plan outfits allll the time and I'd ring my Grandma regularly, telling her that a blue polka dot vest top would go with a light yellow skirt and a pair of tan ugg boots - I mean, that's how I imagine my thought processes regarding coordination to have been like back then anyway! I used to continuously play Style Boutique on my Nintendo DS. Believe me when I say it was my younger selves dream. 
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Sunday, 15 July 2018

A Visit To Loughborough University

As I have already mentioned in my previous post about my Open Day experience at the University of York, I went and visited Loughborough University the day before. I'd had the weekend planned for quite a while, but whereas I knew quite a bit about the city of York beforehand, I didn't even really know where Loughborough was located until I'd started planning the Open Day and then arrived there.

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Wednesday, 11 July 2018

THE Most Versatile Eyeshadow Palette...?


For my 17th birthday, which was already 4 months ago (wow...), I was fortunate enough to receive this W7 Delicious Eyeshadow Palette from one of my close girlfriends. W7 is one of those affordable, high-street brands that I have always heard about through the likes of social media, but I've never actually tried out any of their products for myself, so I was quite intrigued to say the least when I received this gift.

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Sunday, 8 July 2018

Visiting York: The City of Dreams

York Minster
During the evening of June 30th, myself, my Aunt and my Uncle all spent a couple of hours exploring York's city centre, after we had been to an Open Day at Loughborough University. We had already booked our 1 night stay at a Holiday Inn and as we had already done a lot of travelling, we thought that it would be better for us to explore the city of York during the evening before going to the Open Day the following morning and so that's what we did.

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Wednesday, 4 July 2018

What I Learnt In My First Job


I started working in a local McDonald's restaurant this February, a month before I turned 17. I worked fairly consistently throughout my first handful of shifts and I liked knowing that I was doing something which I was going to benefit from in the long run. However, I didn't request to be scheduled in for any shifts during March, because I didn't feel I had the time or the energy. Everything was quite intense and I felt that working on top of that would just finish me off entirely. I was back at it all throughout April, May and for the majority of June too. Now, at the end of June, as I write this post, I don't believe that sticking at my crew member job would be the right decision for me anymore. I have come to the pretty tough decision to hand in my notice and go on the search for a new job, despite only lasting in my first one for a mere amount of months. As a way of reflecting on what I've learnt in my first job out in the real world, I thought I'd write this post today...

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Sunday, 1 July 2018

To Me

Dear Jadey,


This life hasn't been easy to you at the best of times. There have been plenty of hurdles that you have faced throughout your 17 years on this Earth so far, but there have also been some magical, memorable moments that will most likely stick with you forever. 


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Wednesday, 20 June 2018

My Bronze DofE Experience 2018

The 16th and 17th of June 2018 marked the weekend of my final bronze DofE expedition. I've been enrolled in the programme since the Autumn term, so around October/November time, which means that I've got a fair bit of knowledge surrounding the ins and outs of the award, as it's been well over half a year now!

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Wednesday, 6 June 2018

Being Confident Within Your Own Skin*

Confidence is a tricky thing to master. In fact, do we ever really master it? I've never been one to love myself or feel empowered on a daily basis, but as I've gotten older, I've tried to play around and experiment a little bit more in an attempt to change that. 
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Sunday, 3 June 2018

As Busy As A Bee

Lately, I've been going through a pretty weird transition in my life. I feel like I'm properly becoming who I'm supposed to become and I'm getting a better sense of what impact I want to have on the world. It may not seem that big of a deal to some people, considering I still am only 17, but believe me, everything I'm experiencing right now is a big deal to me - and that should be all that matters!

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Sunday, 27 May 2018

My Signature Scent


Something that I've always been into is body sprays and perfumes. I just can't get enough of them and I'm forever buying more, even though I have at least 50+ already - and that's a slightly worrying thought as I'm only 17 and I probably don't even use half of them!

A year or so ago, my mum treated me to the Juicy Couture Viva La Juicy Eau de Parfum. Considering the fact that it was a present, receiving it obviously came as quite a shock to me at first because I never expected to be lucky enough to receive such a beautiful fragrance that I'd heard so much about over the years! She originally got me a smaller size due to it being the first time of her making this purchase but then once I had completely run out, she managed to get her hands on the 100ml size, which is actually really rare and a nightmare to find in England apparently!

Just from looking at the intricacy of the bottle, you can tell how luxurious and expensive the brand is, let alone this particular perfume. The bottle really is like a statement in itself and nothing compares to having it on your dressing table. It looks really elegant and girlie and I think that it would be perfect for if you were going on a date and you wanted to come across as flirtatious and irresistable! (I totally didn't steal those words off of the Boots website...). I'm terrible at describing scents, but it's said to 'combine delicious wild berries with creamy vanilla and bright jasmine'. Doesn't that just sound like a dream to any lady (or ladies man!) out there? It's very strong, so you only need a few spritzes here and there, but it lingers on my clothes and my skin for hours and it's now pretty much the only fragrance that I'll ever wear out, no matter what the occasion. Don't get me wrong, I do still play around with body sprays, but if I want to make a statement and ensure that everybody smells me, then this is without a doubt the best option.

I think perfume is one of those things that you do want to invest in, because they tend to last longer than most other beauty products and they are something that can make such a noticeable difference without being overpowering. You could say that they are effortless and I absolutely love that!

Now that we have been getting some promising weather (I say that after we had a horrendous storm last night...), I think it would be safe for you to invest in this fragrance for your upcoming holidays/festivals/days out/dates because it will be the best money you have ever spent on a perfume!

Do you own anything from Juicy Couture? Are you going to be making a cheeky purchase now?

Lots of love always,


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Wednesday, 16 May 2018

MHAW 2018: All About Stress


One of the most common emotions that all of us have to deal with throughout our lives is stress. It can be debilitating, exhausting and overwhelming at the best of times, but how we learn to cope is what we should be focusing our attention on.

I have personally always been a very anxious, panic-stricken individual and no matter what happens, I can't ever seem to remain calm for too long. Over the years, I have thankfully improved, but I still have a way to go and many more issues that I need to work on, which is completely understandable.

We all have different experiences of managing with the difficulties that everyday life throws at us and some of us manage better than others. Some people might find mundane tasks too much of a challenge, causing them to enter panic mode, whereas other people might only start having a meltdown when things have continuously been going downhill for a few months. We all have different tolerances and that's just how it is.

I'm currently in Year 12, which is my first year of Sixth Form for anyone who doesn't live in the UK and to be quite honest with you, I am finding it a struggle in regard to the amount of stress that I'm feeling. At the moment, I also work once a week at McDonalds, have coursework and other bits to complete, go to personal training once a week, volunteer at a charity shop once a week, have DofE meetings once a week, have blog posts to work on and schedule and I also have to make sure I relax, spend time on myself and get enough sleep too, so that I can keep going. These past 5 months have been the most productive and rewarding for me, but also the most challenging. When you feel stressed and isolated with all of the demands that your life entails, it can be hard to remain positive and help yourself, because you might think that other people don't understand your situation and they could just assume that you're making a fuss out of nothing.

However, we are now in 2018 and mental health is becoming much less of a taboo topic. We have occasions like Mental Health Awareness Week, so that we can speak up and encourage others to do the same, regardless of whether they are struggling or whether they just want to make a difference to the lives of those who are. Things may have become too much for you, but you don't have to let them take over your life and cause your mental health and wellbeing to get knocked down. There are always answers and solutions to even the stickiest of situations and there is always support available, whether it's professional or non-professional.

I thought it would be a good idea to use my time wisely and share with you all a short list of the tips and the techniques that I use for myself when I'm feeling stressed in the hope that one of them could be beneficial to you too:

MAKE THE MOST OF TIME MANAGEMENT
Something that is so important, but so often overlooked is managing your time and sticking to some sort of schedule, whether it's rough or super specific. I used to be awful at this and I'm still trying to work on it, but things will seem a lot less complicated if you use to-do lists to your advantage and actually focus on tasks one at a time. Keep track of your deadlines and work on whatever is due first. Once that's completed to the best of your ability, put 110% into the next thing on the list. Don't take on too much and if you feel yourself beginning to slip into that bad habit, just remember that your mental health and wellbeing comes first and you will only become unwell if you don't listen to the signals that your mind and your body are giving off when they are too tired. 

TAKE BREAKS AND TAKE THEM OFTEN
Breaks are needed in every aspect of life, but they aren't always implemented into our routine as much as they should be. We need to take breaks in school, at work, from people and above everything else, when we settle down for the night. It links on to the previous point, but overworking yourself is never fun and if you become too ill because of it, then you'll end up in a worse state and you will be completely unproductive anyway. Even if you just take 30 minutes to read a book or 15 to practise your breathing and have a cup of tea, you will be surprised how much it will benefit you. 

DON'T BE AFRAID TO ASK FOR HELP
Over the years, there has always been an attitude where we should be afraid to open up to others and ask for their help, especially when our mental health and wellbeing is concerned. It's thought that we will be seen as incapable, reliant or foolish, but that is so far from the case. A problem shared truly is a problem halved and people won't ever get anywhere in life if they are too afraid to confide in someone about what's on their mind. When I was going through what I refer to as my 'darkest time', I tried to talk to people about it, but I didn't feel like they understood or could empathise with me. Sometimes that will be the case and it can feel like a kick in the teeth, but it shouldn't put you off. If you are struggling to such an extent, you should keep persisting because even when it feels like 5 people don't get you on a deeper level like you wish for, there will always be someone that does. It may just take you a little longer to find them, but you will eventually if you keep searching and have patience. I have grown up to be an open-minded, straight-forward individual and since entering the latter part of my teens, I'll talk to anyone about anything. You may think that nobody in the world could possibly understand your current concern, but it's most likely more common than you think.

The point of this rambly post is to say that you shouldn't be ashamed if you are finding life tough right now. It is a challenge and nobody ever said it was going to be easy. You are here on this Earth for a reason and every single person has their own path to follow and their own purpose to discover. 
If you have nobody around you that you can talk to, you can always send me a message on Instagram or Twitter. My username is @simplyjadeyx on both of them and I will always aim to answer as soon as I can. Alternatively, you can write in a diary, draw your emotions, connect with song lyrics, get into a sport or a type of reflective dance or you can contact some helpful organisations which can provide you with more information should you need it.

Stress is such a normal thing but it can escalate if it isn't dealt with properly and quickly. If you need to do further research or find support, here are a list of different contact details for you:

Websites
https://www.childline.org.uk/
https://www.samaritans.org/
https://www.mind.org.uk/
https://www.time-to-change.org.uk/

Numbers
0800 1111
116 123 
0300 123 3393
020 8215 2356

I really hope you can take something away from this post. Just remember, you are not alone.

Lots of love always,




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Wednesday, 2 May 2018

A Letter To My First Love


Dear C,

We first met in February 2014 at our local park, where we later created many more memories. You were on a dog walk and I was hanging out with a friend, not knowing that you were also friends with her. I was incredibly socially awkward at this point, but I got a certain vibe off of you and I knew you were the sort of person that I would want to explore. I'm not saying that I felt a particular spark ignite between the two of us or anything of the sort, but I had hoped that there would be something at least.

After that, I desperately tried to somehow find contact with you again. I searched through Facebook for hours on end, but your profile was nowhere to be seen. Surely our meeting wasn't just a one off? All I could do now was wait and hold onto the theory that what's meant to be will always find a way.

Rightly so, I stumbled across your profile a couple of months later during the Summer holidays and I was excited beyond words. Finally, I'd be able to talk to you and get to know more about what sort of character you were. I assumed that you would remember me and be just as ecstatic as myself, but when you came back questioning whether you knew who I was, I was a little bit taken aback to say the least.

Anyway, over the coming months, we were both on our Summer holidays, you just about to start Year 7 (at my secondary school, of course) and I was just about to head into Year 9. We met up at the same park twice during that Summer and although I was at first ever so shy and awkward, I felt like we really 'hit it off', as they say. There was something so enchanting about your sense of humour, the stories you would tell me, the way you would just always have something to say, no matter what the situation. I was going off to Devon to stay with family, but we tried to message each other as much as we could, particularly at night when everyone else was asleep and I was just laying in bed, not doing anything else. You asked me out at that point and I said yes, despite the fact I was 6 hours away.

It was kind of strange to say the least when you joined my school as a cheeky Year 7 and you boasted to all your new mates about how you had an older girlfriend. I must say, it wasn't exactly my best highlight in life. I couldn't go out with another younger boy, so count yourself as an exception. I'd get judged on the daily and I'm not going to lie, it did really get to me, but the more time went on, I just accepted it and tried to not let it get to me as much. However, that didn't really work for long and I ended things out of nowhere about a month and a half after we got together. We repeated that cycle again, but then in February 2015, I decided that it would (hopefully) be 3rd time lucky and I was old enough to give it a proper shot. Well, I was to be turning 14 the next month, so that was old enough for me to be serious!

During the 9 months that we were 'properly' together, you could say that it was a rollercoaster ride at the very least. It was traumatic at times and there were enough tears and tantrums (on my behalf at least) to last a lifetime. It's fair to say that you were unfaithful and you caused me a lot more stress than what was actually necessary. I got deeper and deeper into my feelings whilst you gradually became more and more detached. You would get with my friends and equally my enemies behind my back, betray my trust and laugh through every situation, denying your wrongdoings.

It wasn't all doom and gloom though. Throughout the 2 years where I struggled the most, we were on and off for the most part and there were many occasions where I'd open up to you and cry into your arms, wondering how I was going to find the strength to fight through the days. That sounds dramatic to anybody else reading this, but you and I both know that's how bad things had got. I will never forget staying up all night messaging you, phoning you for 5 hours straight, getting endless Dominos and Pizza Gogo with you to take back to my house, all our inside jokes (literally thousands), going to our secret place in the woods with our snacks to spend the whole day doing barely anything and I'll never forget all those deep chats we had, how we planned to move to Spain when we were older, the fact we wanted to get married and have 4 kids and a dog. It's quite sweet, as I do look back with fond memories, but things had actually ended a long time before I finally let go.

Truth be told, I didn't 'let go' until around February this year. You kept flirting with me and every time I'd go through something difficult, I'd go running back to you, begging for your support, crying down the phone to you in the hope that you would drop the drugs and come to look after me. That never happened - not once. It took me almost 4 years to fully close the chapter of you and I. You hurt me in ways that I could never explain and you really did act in unforgivable ways. Things were never quite the same after all of the drama happened, but even when we weren't going out, we were still flirty, we were still close and we somehow managed to build up what we had into something different, but something equally as special. I lost the romantic type of trust for you years ago, but I've always trusted you as a person - almost in a friend way. I always thought you were different to the other guys and on a deeper level, you were.

You helped me in ways nobody else could. You helped me to gain confidence, you helped me to believe in myself, you helped me to break out of my comfort zone, you helped me realise that not everybody has the same intentions as me, you helped me realise that my kindness is invaluable and more than anything, you helped me recognise my worth. It's just obvious that you couldn't treat me the way I deserve to be treated.

I will always hold you and our memories in a special place in my heart. You were my first love and you were the first boy I ever shared more than a kiss with. Things were said and done, but at the end of the day, you were always my best friend - above and before anyone else. I will always be in awe of your confidence, your independence from such a young age, your easy going nature, your generosity (sometimes) and your ability to be so loyal to your friends and family. For all them years, you were my inspiration, but now I'm strong enough to be my own inspiration.

Thank you for everything. For the good times and the bad, the heartbreaks and the happiness. I appreciate it all and you are the human that's shaped me more than any other human has.

I wish you all the best in your future endeavours, but I will not allow myself to be your backup anymore.




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Sunday, 29 April 2018

A Short Stay In Port Lympne





During the Easter holidays a couple of weeks ago, my Aunt and Uncle very kindly took both my sister and I away for the night to Port Lympne Hotel & Reserve, situated in the Kentish countryside.
If you have been a reader of my blog for a while, you will know that I've already been to 2 different towns in Kent, which are Dover (read that post here) and Edenbridge (read that post here) and I loved them both equally, but for different reasons. Some family friends had been to Port Lympne themselves and were convinced that we would love it just as much as they did, so of course we had to plan our visit.






There are a variety of different accommodation options available at the reserve, ranging from glamping to hotels to a treehouse, which is the option that we went for - and wow, am I glad we did.
What I loved the most about the choice we made is that it's completely out of the ordinary compared to anything that you would experience in your day to day life. You only live once and so it would be foolish to let any unique opportunity pass you by, right?

My Aunt and Uncle stayed in the main bedroom (of course) whilst my sister and I shared the second one. It was really nice to actually spend some quality time in a relaxing environment with some of my favourite people, because it's not something that we get to do that often, as we all have busy schedules, but we definitely created memories that I'm sure will last a lifetime.



When we first arrived and parked the cars, we dropped off our bags near the reception and went to go and explore a large part of the park by foot. We saw gorillas, other varieties of monkeys, pigs, rhinos and so much more! It was an incredible experience and one that you can't quite believe you have had, because it just seems so surreal and extraordinary! Gorillas in particular are so intelligent and similar to humans in their mannerisms and their behaviour that it was actually quite scary as well as fascinating to see. For both the animals and the visitors safety, they obviously have to all be caged up to some extent, but it wasn't in a cruel way at all and you can still get close enough to be snap happy.



 After our little adventure, we were taken by the golf buggy type ride to this gorgeous little lobby area just opposite where all the treehouses were located. As you can see, there was a massive fire in the middle alongside luxurious sofas and so we sipped our champagne (very fancy) whilst eating our toasted marshmallows - it was lush and such a nice way to kick start our stay.
We then walked up what felt like a million steep steps to get to our treehouse, where we relaxed for a while until it was time to change for dinner. We had booked in at the infamous Babydolls Restaurant, which is actually named after the 55 year old gorilla with that exact name. She is the last of the Howletts gorilla and she was raised from an infant in the cottage at Howletts too.


We all enjoyed our pizza's and it was absolute bliss to be able to soak up the bustling but quaint atmosphere. We had a reservation made for 8pm and we had breadsticks and a drink (or two) back in the treehouse, so once we were done, we simply took a ride down on the golf buggy (a rather bumpy one, might I add!). It was past closing time for day visitors and quite dark at this point, so it really did feel like we were on a wildlife holiday and it was such a laugh getting there and riding back!



The next morning came around and we had a leisurely breakfast of pain au chocolat, fruit and orange juice, courtesy of my wonderful Aunt. It was delicious and exactly what we need to keep us going for the rest of the morning.
We had to take our luggage down and check out of the room by 11, but then we had a couple of hours spare before heading back home to go on the safari, which was what I was most looking forward to!
You have to wait in a queue for about 15 minutes or so, but then you have these big safari trucks, as if you're actually in South Africa or something incredible like that and you drive around seeing baby bears, camels, giraffes, red deer and so many other rare but equally as beautiful wild animals.
Although it was freezing cold up top, it was a pretty memorable experience to say the least!


We may have only been on our little countryside break for 1 night and 2 days, but I absolutely loved it and I know I can vouch for the others when I say that too! We had so many laughs and so much fun seeing things we had never seen before and it's certainly a trip that I won't ever be forgetting.

If you haven't yet visited Port Lympne, I highly, highly recommend it, as you'll have as much of a blast as we did - I guarantee it!

Lots of love always,


P.S. all photography is my Uncle's! He did give me his permission beforehand ;) 

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