Thursday, 17 August 2017

My Love For Milk And Honey


Unless you have been living under a rock for the past few years, you will have heard of the best-selling poetry book, milk and honey. As with everything, I'm pretty late to the party, but now that I've got my hands on a copy, I genuinely do feel like my life is that extra bit better and brighter.

Ever since I was 13, I've been writing poetry myself. Sometimes regularly, sometimes more sporadically if I don't often get the chance to sit down and reflect on things. Although I did enjoy the majority of the poems that I recently studied for my GCSEs, I could never personally connect with them, as they were all quite ancient and about topics that I'd never experienced myself.

Rupi Kaur has without a doubt gone through many difficulties in her life. From the absence of her father, to destructive relationships and questioning her self-worth, you will find something in this book that brings out all of your emotions at once.

This collection of poetry is quite simply a masterpiece. Never before have I read anything quite like it. It's thought provoking, empowering, heartfelt, eloquently written and just completely stunning. Within today's generation, young people deal with so many issues, and sometimes it can feel like nobody else can understand or relate. Imagine how many of us feel alone, lost, misunderstood. Once you have got stuck into this book, that's no longer the case anymore. You feel as though somebody is on your side. Somebody out there gets where you're coming from. It's almost like everything you're thinking and feeling about certain situations in life is being presented beautifully through the power of words on a page. It's quite incredible really.

All 4 chapters focus on a different part of a cycle - the hurting, the loving, the breaking and the healing. If you feel hurt, and conflicted, unsure of where to turn, allow yourself to become immersed within the words that Rupi shares with you. Think of it as though you're talking to a best friend, or your own diary. You will find comfort through the fact that she understands you, possibly more than you even understand yourself sometimes. By the time you move deeper into the book, and get to the healing section, you will find that solace has been born from the sadness that you felt for all of that time. Rupi will soothe your soul, and leave you feeling empowered and able to take on the word once you have put the book down.

With certain things in life, we will never be able to find the words within the English language to express how we feel. I will never be able to find the words to explain how much this book means to me.

It takes a lot of courage and strength to allow the whole world to see the most vulnerable side of you, and so I have the utmost respect for Rupi Kaur. She is 1 in a million, that's for sure.

Have you ever read Milk and Honey? If not, are you going to pick up a copy now?!
 
Lots of love always,
 
 
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Wednesday, 9 August 2017

All About Female Hygiene ft. Organ(y)c*

 
 
 
 
Something that all females go through during their life, but hardly ever talk about on social media is periods. That time of the month can feel like the devil is rearing it's horns, and honestly, it can be a terrible time, especially as your hormones are going crazy.
 
Today's post is a collaboration with Organ(y)c, an intimate care brand, selling sanitary towels, tampons, panty liners, and maternity and baby products, as well as beauty.
The female sanitary products are made from 100% organic cotton (hence the name of the brand), and they don't contain any synthetics, chlorine, or wood pulp/cellulose. Cotton is known to be nature's most absorbent material and it's also sustainable and breathable, so it really is a female's best bet.
 
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Monday, 7 August 2017

Summer Makeup Staples

 
 
 

 
 
Although I probably say this in every beauty post, I genuinely do feel like I go for ages without speaking about my favourite makeup products. I usually always talk about either skincare or body care, so I haven't been able to show you what I've been wearing on my face in months!
 
Today, I'm just going to list off a few of my Summer makeup staples and talk you through why I love them as much as I do. These are all things that I've been wearing religiously for quite a while now (well, whenever I bother to do my face!) and they're what I swear by. When I properly love a product, I remain faithful to it until I get bored or find a replacement, which means I get good value for money and I then have go to's which I can rely on as well.

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Wednesday, 2 August 2017

Learning To Love Yourself Is A Journey

 
 If you have been a long time reader of my blog, you'll know that I'm a pretty open book when it comes to my life and all of the experiences that I have had throughout. Growing up without a father figure, break-ups, and mental health to name just a few. They haven't all been pretty, but they have made me who I am today.
 
It's now time for me delve even deeper into the story of my life so far, and this time, I'm going to be talking about my experience with a personal insecurity, which developed into bullying.
 
As it's something that I've never spoken about before, I am quite nervous, but even if it helps just one person or brings comfort to them, then I've done what I set out to do!
 
Ever since I was younger, I've had a physical characteristic that has always been slightly different to other people's.
 
I've always had a misaligned jaw, which has a tendency to slant towards the left, rather than being central. 
 
Don't ask me why my jaw is this way though. I guess that's just the way it developed.  The lower one protrudes more so than the upper, meaning they generally just don't line up together, which causes my mouth to look different to the 'average' persons. In addition to this, my chin also protrudes forward. It doesn't hurt, and it doesn't cause any problems with eating, swallowing, talking or anything else. I just have a slight lisp sometimes, which a lot of people do just naturally have anyway.
 
Apart from that, my teeth are healthy, and fairly straight, so I don't actually need braces and I never have done, because that isn't the issue.
 
The only way that I could 'correct' (and I use that term lightly) my misaligned jaw is if I have surgery, which, as I've researched and heard about, seems absolutely horrendous. Professionals would essentially have to break my jaw, fix the position, screw it back into place and leave me in recovery from local anaesthetic and the op itself possibly for about 6-8 weeks, depending on the individual. I wouldn't be able to eat, sleep properly, talk, or get on with my day to day life.
 
I don't know about you, but that sounds like my worst nightmare. Have I not put my body through enough for these 16 years already without altering it and potentially damaging it further?
 
And for what reason have I been considering this surgery? To please other people and stop the bullying and the remarks.
 
I have a misaligned jaw and that's something that I've developed since birth. There's no denying it or hiding away from the facts. It's something I've faced years of torture and taunting over. This physical characteristic that I can't control has been the main reason as to why I've been laughed at for most of my life.
 
There are people out there who have to live with much worse than this. There are people who feel like their weight is the reason they get hated on, their skin colour, their background, their learning difficulties, the area that they have grown up in. There are people who have to live with vile treatment from others, because of a disability or an impairment that they have, which they never asked for. That makes me so incredibly sad and to be truthful to you, my heart breaks every time I hear of this going on in the world.
 
We all have imperfections. Some of us may have a pointy nose, glasses, chubby thighs, ears that stick out, smaller boobs. We all have our own individual insecurities - and to be honest, that's a comfort in itself. It's a comfort to know that nobody thinks their perfect. Nobody toots their own trumpet and is up their own arse every day of their lives (maybe some of the time, but that's allowed!). Whether others can see your insecurity or not is irrelevant. They shouldn't ever pass a comment or feel the need to have their say based on whatever judgement they have made. It's wrong and it's so horribly unkind. I'm going to be upfront and say that I have been rude to people before. I have called people fat, ugly, spotty, hairy, smelly and more - whether it was years ago, or recently, directly or indirectly. I still did it at some point and I'm not proud of myself for that, but we all make mistakes and sometimes we don't think before we speak.
 
However, after battling with my body and fighting with this insecurity for years, I've realised that enough is enough. I need to be nicer and kinder to myself. I need to practise what I preach and stop with the self-loathing. I always try to be nice and kind to others, so why do I seem unable to do that for myself? It makes no sense! I am who I am and in no way, shape or form does my jaw change what I'm capable of. I can still do all the things that I want to do and that's something that I should be grateful for. Yes, I may look different and yes I may be subjected to hate more so than some people, but who really gives a toss?!
 
I get that there are a few individuals out there who would probably only recognise me, because of my 'wonky' jaw, but that's their call. It's what they remember me by, and should that be such a bad thing? It makes me unique and anyway, I'd rather be a flamingo out of a flock of pigeons (who are the people that hate on me).
 
Don't get me wrong, I'd love to be able to smile confidently in pictures and I'd love to get approached by photographers and fancied by boys, but if it's ever meant to be one day, it will be!
 
So, no, I won't be getting corrective surgery. And no, I won't be ashamed of this attribute any longer. It is what it is and the fact that I can still try to help others, be successful in school, travel the world and give love to the important people in my life is all that matters. Unless there is ever a non-surgical option and I genuinely want to make that change for me, it's a straight up no-no.
 
Whatever your insecurity is, you're fabulous just the way you are. Who cares if I look different from certain angles? Who cares if I don't fit in with the crowd? Who cares if I'll never be a top model?
 
I am me and you are you. That is our power - and together, we will show the haters who's boss!
 
Lots of love always,
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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