Wednesday, 8 February 2017

Staying Positive During Tough Times

When you are on the edge of breaking point, it can seem almost impossible to remain hopeful. It's like the sort of situation where if you can't see the light at the end of the tunnel, you're unable to believe that it even exists at all. You may want to throw in the towel. You may want to curl up into a tight ball for the rest of eternity. That's not on though. That won't get you anywhere.

Staying positive during tough times is going to be exactly that - hella tough. Every single person is different and something that you experience could be totally different to something that your older sister does. That's okay though. It's all part of being human.

One thing that I think could work for most people (not always everyone) is trying to figure out your purpose. Is there anything that ignites the passion in your heart? Do you have a particular hobby that saves you from all of the hatred and negativity in the world? If you have taken a moment to think about it and an idea has come to your mind, then that's the thing(s) that you need to focus on. Personally, I don't have one set thing that comes to mind. I have my blog, music, reading, and my loved ones. If you can think of something or a couple of different things like myself then that's what you use to hold onto hope. Whatever you feel closest to or most passionately about, regardless of whether it's people or whatever, you need to hold onto it. Give it your heart and soul. Make plans for the future. Think about what you could achieve if you put your heart and mind to it. If you enjoy writing, create your own blog and interact with others that you stumble across through the internet. If you enjoy music, learn to play a musical instrument and set yourself little goals and dreams to give you things to look forward to in months or even years to come. Keep reminding yourself of whatever or whoever it is that you love that dearly and focus on it. Think about where it or they could take you. There are endless possibilities, remember. You have the chance to make your life a personalised masterpiece. You're the one holding the paintbrush, so pick your colours and designs wisely.

Another thing to remember during times that are really testing your emotional strength is that there is always support available. Whether you have drilled it into your head that you're going to be a lonely old lady, who only has 50 cats for company or whether you have planned your wedding day and your children's lives out down to each miniscule detail, there is still support out there for you. There are people and places that you can go to during times of need. Even if it means ringing up a helpline at 4am, because you feel as though there is no-where else to turn, you do that. You do whatever you need to do in order to feel reassured and somewhat content with who you are as a person and how your life is turning out. You don't have to be afraid. We are all allowed to feel a little lost and helpless. We are only human. There are so many support networks out there and no matter what it is that you're worrying about, someone, somewhere will be able to help.

I'm not trying to dampen your spirits here at all, but I must say that holding onto hope can be difficult at the best of times. It may take you months or it may take you years, but you will get to where you want to be in the end if you look to the future. That may be the last thing that you want to do, but it's one of the most important things that you need to make sure of if you want to see gradual improvements day by day. Plan ahead. Set yourself some long-term goals. Think about where yourself and your hobbies could be in 5, maybe even 10 years time. After a while, it will begin to feel much more natural and you could find yourself being inspired during the moments that you would have least expected to.

Think about what you have to be grateful for. Chances are, you have a roof over your head, at least one family member that you get on with, a selection of food to choose from each day and the chance to start a fresh each morning when you wake up. You may have an unstable background, but that doesn't define you. You may not have many friends, but that doesn't make you any less important. You may not be a millionaire, but that doesn't mean that you can't survive with what you have got. Keep a gratitude journal of some sort and list down at least 3 things that you are grateful for or that have made you happy each day. You will be surprised at how drastically this can switch your mindset from a pessimistic into an optimistic one.

One last thing that I would suggest you do in order to stay positive during tough times is to set aside a day or an evening each week to relax and recharge. This is probably one of the things that I struggled with the most last year, just because life can get so hectic that you don't even have time to stop and breathe, let alone dedicate a couple of hours to yourself away from your usual jam-packed schedule and other commitments. Even if it's only an hour or two every Friday evening, I definitely think that you should give it a go and see if it improves anything. Take a warm bubble bath, give your hair a soak to freshen up, make yourself a hot chocolate and have a slice of cake, binge watch your favourite series on Netflix. Just allow yourself that allocated time to have a pamper. You deserve it!

If you want to see more posts dedicated to self-love, positivity or anything of the sort in the future, please let me know and I'll think up some ideas!

What do you do to stay positive? Are you going to try any of the suggestions that I've given?
Lots of love always,


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