Wednesday, 14 September 2016

Self-Care Tips / Collab

Through blogging, I've been lucky enough to get the chance to talk to so many lovely, talented people, who I'm able to collab with. Today is no different. I'm going to be doing a mental health collaboration, which is something that I don't think I've ever really done before (correct me if I'm wrong!). It's going to be with the amazing Alice, who blogs over at Invocati. Ever since I started reading her blog, I just fell in love with her posts. She writes about all sorts, ranging from beauty, to books, but like myself, she is very passionate about mental health. As it's quite a personal subject, we are both going to be discussing some of our self-care tips that we use in our real lives to help us cope with our individual battles. Now, they may not work for everyone, but these are just some of the ideas that I have found along the way, and I really hope that you can take some helpful information from this post. Just remember that no matter what demons you may be fighting, there is always help available. You are not alone.

Something that I find helps me a lot when I’m struggling with my mental health is taking some time out to read. I’ve always loved reading, ever since I was a little girl, but as I’ve gotten older, school, and other commitments have unfortunately meant that sitting down with a good book has taken a bit of a back seat. However, I’ve noticed that just by taking 30 minutes out of my evening to do this, I have become a lot less stressed, and I’ve been able to lose myself, and detach from reality for a little while, which is something that I’ve missed so much.


We all deserve a little TLC every once in awhile. When your thoughts seem to be falling on top of you, and weighing you down like a tonne of bricks, I think that’s when the realisation kicks in that you need to treat yourself to a pamper evening. Now, we all have different ways that we like to treat ourselves. I guess it depends on what you’re like as an individual. For me personally, I like to have a warm, homely meal, such as soup, pasta, or some sort of stew, and a glass of my favourite juice - maybe a fizzy drink if I feel it’s well-deserved!
I then like to run myself a bath and either pop in some really nice bubble bath, or a bath bomb from Lush, because let’s be honest, it wouldn’t be a pamper evening without featuring at least one product from Lush! Some of my personal favourites are The Comforter bubble bar, or the Butterball bath bomb. I think that both of these are great for if you’re feeling a little under the weather, because they feel therapeutic on the skin, and as the scents are very spa-like, you’ll certainly have no trouble relaxing. I also like to use a face mask,, just to ensure that I’m giving both my face, and body a little extra love. Whilst you’re in the bath, you can light some candles, play yourself some soothing music, or read a book/ magazine. If you’re up for it, you could also meditate, or practise some breathing techniques. Doesn’t that just sound like your idea of heaven? It does to me!
All that’s left to do after that is put on some cosy clothes, and tuck yourself up in bed with a warm beverage of your choice (I’d recommend either tea, or hot chocolate with cream, and marshmallows!), some feel-good snacks, like chocolate, popcorn, and cookies, a hot water bottle, and then the evening is yours to enjoy! Watch a comforting movie, FaceTime a friend, read your favourite blogs, or do whatever else makes you feel happier. Light yourself yet another candle, switch on your fairy lights, aaaand - relax.


When you’re having a particularly hard time of it all, then you’re best to completely disconnect yourself from all forms of social media. I know that I’m absolutely terrible at doing this, because I’m quite literally addicted to phone, like many other people within our generation, but I really do want to try and work on that. The media can sometimes make us feel even worse than we already did before, and it can negatively impact our mental health, which, if you’re someone, who already struggles, it can push you over the edge, and lead to a complete breakdown. Even if you don’t know how on earth you’re going to manage, you just need to give yourself at least a couple of hours away from the internet, and you’ll be surprised at what it can do for you! What with all the pressure, bad news, and constant arguments that are subjected to us through the likes of Twitter, it’s not a surprise that we’re all getting het up. Disconnecting is especially useful if you’re planning on having a pamper evening, because it will help add to your chilled out vibe, and you won’t have any distractions there that will make you lose your focus.


If there was an award for the biggest night-owl, then I would most definitely win - there's no doubt about it! I’m awake until the early hours of the morning, and I then don’t ever wake up when I’m supposed to. It’s a terrible habit, and I wish I wasn’t like that, but maybe part of the reason is, because I was born at 2:54 in the morning. Hmm, I do wonder sometimes! I know that if you’re a worrier like myself, and you typically have a lot on your mind, it can prove to be incredibly difficult for you to switch off. No matter how hard you try, you just aren’t able to drift off into the land of nod. I always listen to music before I attempt to sleep. You should try to switch off your electrical items at least 30 minutes before you go to sleep, in order to stop stimulating your brain, and you could also try having a 20-30 minute read, or listening to soothing music. Something that my good friend Charlotte suggested to me once was that I make up scenarios in my head. For example, you could think of all the details surrounding a tea party, a blogger event, or maybe even your dream holiday. Think about the people you would be with, the food you would want to eat, if you would invite anyone with you, how long it would take to organise, what you would wear. It may not make much sense with me saying this to you, but if you just close your eyes, and give it a go, you’ll be surprised - trust me! It’s much better than counting sheep anyway.

I completely respect the fact that not everybody likes being open in terms of how they’re feeling. That’s okay, and that’s understandable. I’m actually quite an open person, so I tend to speak about my problems to those closest to me, but at the same time, I’m also the sort of person, who would stay up all night, just to listen to someone’s problems if it meant that they could go to sleep feeling safe, and happy. I’ve been like that ever since I can remember, and so that’s what makes me think that I’m really just a little bit of both! I’m open, and also open-minded. Sometimes, I do hide certain things until I’m ready to talk about them, but I just find that bottling all of these emotions up only makes it 10x worse when they eventually spill out. Talking to anyone, whether it’s a family member, a friend, an online counselling site, a teacher, or someone that you follow on Twitter, who seems willing to listen, then please use the opportunity to spill your sadness onto them. I’m not saying you need to do this all the time, but if you’re having a bad day, and you feel as though you can’t deal with it on your own, then maybe it’s the right route to go down. I used to email ChildLine, and I found that helped me quite a lot, during my darkest days. I would still talk to them even now. Sometimes, having a rant, whether it’s literally, or through some other form of communication can change your entire perspective on a situation, and it can make it much easier to handle.

I'm hoping that this post helped you, or enlightened you in some way. As I mentioned in the introduction, these are just a few of the things that I like to do to take care of myself, but mental health is such a personal thing, and no two people are the same. If you are struggling, then I'll list a couple of different reasons below for you that I find to be helpful, and maybe you can check them out to see how you get on. Just remember, your mental wellbeing doesn't rule your life, and make up who you are. Even if you struggle with a mental illness, it doesn't mean that you're weak, or worthless in any way. In fact, I think it makes you quite the opposite. You're still human, and you're still capable of wonderful things. You just need a little bit more support, and love, which is completely okay.


Childline -
Samaritans -
Mind -
Young Minds -
Rethink -
Time To Change -
Calm (app, or book) -
Headspace -

Lots of love always,

Jade xo





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