Friday, 30 September 2016

Autumnal Q&A


It seems to me that I haven't done a Q&A for absolutely ages, so that's exactly what I'm going to be doing today. I asked for some questions over on both my Twitter, and my Instagram for anything that you wanted to know in relation to Autumn. Even if you didn't get a chance to ask me something this time, I'm sure there will be plenty more opportunities in the future! Anyway, let's jump straight into it..
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Sunday, 25 September 2016

I'm An Introvert; And That's Okay

 
After reading this post, which one of my blogging friends Nicole wrote, I felt as though it was right for me to have my own say on the matter.

Throughout my whole life, or at least for as long as I can remember, I have always been an introvert. I was never the sort of little girl that was caught playing in the park with her school friends until tea time. I was never the sort of little girl that would get invited to people's birthday parties either; maybe on a rare occasion, but no-where near as often as most children my age. I'd rather cut my Barbie dolls' hair, or take them 'swimming' in the washing up bowl at my grandparents house. I've always had a pretty vivid imagination, so I could quite literally sit on the floor for hours, talking to my dolls, and my teddies. I would also usually be found curled up on the sofa with a book in my hands, because I'd love to lose myself in imaginary, non-existent worlds, far away from the reality that I was living in for the most part.

I mean, there wasn't anything that made me stand out in a particular way. I was just an average child. I did have my own little selection of friends, who I felt I could be myself with, and not get judged for it, but that's often the case when you're younger. As you get older, and you start to develop, and change, things aren't always quite so simple.

I've always tried my best to put my education first, because at the end of the day, I know that's the most important thing that will get me the furthest in the future; much further than temporary friendships, and temporary feelings. Don't get me wrong, I've always tried to get along with other people my age. Yes, I may have been a little more reserved than others, but that shouldn't mean that my thoughts were any less irrelevant. I was always friendly, and I was always smiley. It's just that whenever the girls in my year would talk about Disney channel, and their own upbringings, I could never really relate. I just wasn't like them.

Even to this day, I still feel like an outsider in secondary school. I've now just gone into Year 11, and honestly, I'm just preparing myself for the hardest year yet. If I thought Year 10 was challenging, then I clearly can't even begin to fathom what I've got to come over the next few months. I've got friends in my school. I've also got friends in my year. You wouldn't think it if you saw me walking through the corridors at break, and lunch though. I'm often found by myself, standing in a corner, hunched over, my hands protectively clutching my phone. Sometimes, I'll even just sit in the toilet, as an excuse to hide away. Things shouldn't be that way, but the truth is that they have been before, and they may well happen again.

Whenever we had to get into partners for anything, I always used to be the one standing there, staring at the floor, because nobody wanted to go with me. Whenever I walked into a classroom, and everyone was already sitting in there, I'd just have to find a spare seat anywhere I could, because I didn't have a best friend that I could go with. Whenever everyone was sitting in the canteen with their friendship groups, I'd be too anxious to even walk through the doors, and buy something, because I didn't have anyone that truly understood me. I felt so lonely, and so terribly frightened. I couldn't ever understand why I was the only one, who was by herself. Why was it that everyone else had at least one person to hang out with? What was wrong with me? This has happened pretty consistently for 4 years now. It's no-where near as bad as it used to be, but it still isn't exactly great.

Loneliness, and social isolation/exclusion is one of the worst feelings in the entire world. Whenever you're in a class, or even just in the playground, you just constantly get that feeling in the pit of your stomach, where you can't bear it any longer. You just want the ground to swallow you hole, and never spit you back up again.

It isn't all doom, and gloom though. Things have gotten a lot better since the beginning of Year 10, and as I said, I'm now in Year 11, so maybe I am making progress, slowly, but surely. I do still have times where I'm just tagging along with the group. I do have times where I'm still too anxious, and claustrophobic to buy food from the canteen. I even have times where I still to this day worry about not having a partner. It doesn't mean that I'm a weirdo. It doesn't mean that I'm not normal. It doesn't mean that people don't like me.

Sometimes, you just have to be the one to give yourself that shove that you so desperately need. Sometimes, you just need to crawl out of your shell, and allow yourself to step out of your comfort zone. I know it seems scary, but I promise you, things won't be that way forever.

I remember when I had just started Year 7. I had just finished at a primary school where I was pretty miserable, and left out towards the end, and now I was joining a brand new, big school, where I knew hardly anyone, except one girl, and I was being bullied all over again. I felt like a tiny fish in a huge pond. I didn't think I'd ever reach the surface. I was terrified to go in, and I hated most lessons. I just didn't want to be there. Everything seemed so hopeless, and the pain seemed never-ending. I almost can't believe that I've gotten out of it alive.

Of course, I'm still at school, and I haven't left just yet, but I can actually see the light now. I'm beginning to enjoy my lessons, and I'm learning near enough everyday. Okay, I may not have a proper group of girl friends, but you know what? That doesn't matter. I have people that I can hang out with, go to the canteen with, and have a laugh with from time to time, and I'm fine with that. I may get left out, and I may go off in a sulk, but I'm grateful at the fact that if I ever have to stand alone, it isn't for very long at all anymore.

Even though I wasn't really a part of the blogging community myself when all of these things were at their worst, I am a part of it now - and I couldn't be happier. If I ever feel lonely, or upset about anything, I can just turn to my phone, and I'll be greeted by the loveliest ladies, and the most genuine guys. Whether it's through the group chat on Twitter with all of my #GRLPOWR girls, or even if a fellow blogger leaves me a kind comment on my recent post. All of it means the absolute world to me, and more.

Never underestimate the impact that one compliment, or one comment can have on someone, whether it be in real life, or through the power of the internet.

I just want to take this moment to thank all of you for everything that you do for me. Your kindness, love, and support never goes unnoticed, or unappreciated. Trust me.

Would you say that you're reserved, or outgoing? Have you changed over the years?

Lots of love always,

Jade xo
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Wednesday, 21 September 2016

The Liebster Award #3

 
So, I've been tagged in yet another post for the Liebster Award. This is the 3rd time now! Can you believe it? Lexi, who is one of my best blogging friends, was kind enough to tag me, so I'd just like to say thank you to her, and also link you to her incredible blog, which you can find here.
 
The same rules apply as always, but for those of you that may be coming across this tag for the first time, then I'll tell you a little bit about them now:
 
- Post the award on your blog.
- Thank the blogger who nominated you.
- Answer the questions that they assigned to you.
- Give a further 10 random facts about yourself.
- Nominate 10 deserving bloggers for the award.
- Ask another 10 questions for your nominees to answer.
 
My answers:
 
Who's your style icon? - Oooh, this is a tricky one to start off with! I'd probably have to say Lucy Hale, (also known as Aria Montgomery from Pretty Little Liars), or Alexa Chung.
 
What's your favourite film currently in cinemas? - This question is a reminder that I haven't been to the cinema in a few months, so I really must go soon! I don't know if it's still in cinemas, but I'd really like to see The Jungle Book at some point in the next few weeks. I don't know how likely that is to happen, what with Year 11 having now begun, but hey, I'll try my best to make time for it!
 
How long have you had my blog? - I've actually been blogging since April last year, so it's been quite a while now. I'm not such a newbie anymore! It's only within recent months that I've become quite a lot bigger, but then again, numbers, and statistics don't mean anything to me. I'm just proud of my little baby, that's all.
 
What are you currently looking forward to? - It's still a long way off yet, but I'm really looking forward to seeing The 1975 in December. It will be my first concert, and I honestly can't wait already, even though it's quite literally months away. I'll no doubt be doing a blog post all about it when the time comes, so keep your eyes peeled!
 
Favourite thing about Summer? - My favourite thing about Summer is probably the fact that you get so much freedom, what with it being the school holidays, and all of that jazz. It's the only long period of time, where you get to relax, and do what you want everyday for 6 weeks. I mean, what more could a teenager ask for?
 
Which social media do you like the most? - This is yet another really tricky one for me! I mainly use Instagram & Twitter, but if I had to pick one, or the other, I'd have to say Twitter. It's a great, easy way to keep up to date with people, and it allows you to get involved in Twitter chats too, which are quite literally one of my favourite things ever. Don't get me wrong, I love posting pretty, personal pictures on Instagram, but nothing screams interaction quite like Twitter does.
 
Which is your favourite blog post on your blog? - I'm proud of all of the blog posts I write, so it's not easy to pick a favourite. However, for the purpose of answering the question, I would have to say that it's this one where I speak about why I love blogging, and how much it means to me. I really did put my heart, and soul into that post, so it made me extremely happy to see that it received such an overwhelmingly positive response.
 
What things are always in your bag? - Lip balm, the lip colour/gloss that I'm wearing, headphones (of course!), tissues, my portable charger, and my purse. I'll also sometimes put water, and hand gel in if I can remember! I don't normally put my phone in my bag, because it's always glued to my hands, but if I'm taking a break, then I'll throw it in there too!
 
If you could only use one makeup brand, what brand would it be? - At the moment, probably Seventeen. They are just killing it lately! They have all sorts of products available, and from the ones that I have tried, there isn't anything that I don't love, or that I wouldn't consider repurchasing. They are also cruelty free from what I have gathered, and as someone who is currently in the process of transitioning, this is just an extra helpful bonus for me!
 
What is your current favourite TV series? - Pretty Little Liars, without a doubt! I finished Season 7 a couple of weeks ago, and I was totally blown away with the finale. It wasn't what I had expected, at all! I've been watching it religiously for the past few months, and I've quite literally gotten hooked. Now, I have to wait until April for the final season! That realisation breaks my heart, believe me.
 
10 Random Facts:
- I'm a memory hoarder. I'm forever collecting photographs, and mementos that I can treasure.
- I want to become a children, and adolescent psychotherapist in the future.
- It's a dream of mine to travel the world, and volunteer in the poorer places.
- I love baking, and I specifically specialise in brownies, and Victoria sponges!
- My favourite places in the UK are Brighton, London, and Devon (as of right now).
- I write for Love From.. magazine, and I've been a proud member of the team since June.
- Some of my favourite animals are elephants, pandas, monkeys, and dogs.
- I'd love to write my own book one day to help, and inspire young people all over the world.
- Although this may surprise some people, I'm actually quite an introverted gal until you get to know me.
- I'm a Pisces, and astrology is something that fascinates me. Most of it is scarily accurate!
 
My nominees:
All of the other #GRLPOWR ladies - http://grlpowrblog.blogspot.co.uk/
 
My questions:
What has been your biggest achievement so far? Why was it so special to you?

If you could speak anything other language, what would it be, and why?
Do you follow a particular religion?
What are your thoughts on astrology?
Do you have any irrational fears/phobias?
What charity do you feel most passionately about?
If you could remove any type of stigma, which would it be, and why?
Give us a list of your favourite 6 bloggers. It's time to share the love!
What have been some of the happiest days of your life so far?
Do you have any regrets? If so, what are they?
 
Have fun answering these questions, and I look forward to reading your answers, girlies!
 
Lots of love always,
 
Jade xo
 
 
 
 


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Sunday, 18 September 2016

Growing Up Without A 'Father Figure'


We all know that growing up isn't easy, and it certainly isn't a straight-forward road. So, just imagine that you also have to go through all of that without the person who helped to create you. The person who had longed for you to exist for 9 months. The person who should have held your hand through all of the tears, and tantrums. Your father.
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Saturday, 17 September 2016

20 Questions Tag

 
I was nominated by one of my gorgeous friend's Lexi to do the 20 Questions Tag, so that's exactly what I'm going to be doing today! Please go, and check out Lexi's blog, and also read her version of the tag, because she's one of my closest blogging friends, and she really does work so hard on all of her content. I'm sure she would appreciate the love, and support! Thank you for the nomination Lex. Now, let's get started..
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Friday, 16 September 2016

Wednesday, 14 September 2016

Self-Care Tips / Collab

 
Through blogging, I've been lucky enough to get the chance to talk to so many lovely, talented people, who I'm able to collab with. Today is no different. I'm going to be doing a mental health collaboration, which is something that I don't think I've ever really done before (correct me if I'm wrong!). It's going to be with the amazing Alice, who blogs over at Invocati. Ever since I started reading her blog, I just fell in love with her posts. She writes about all sorts, ranging from beauty, to books, but like myself, she is very passionate about mental health. As it's quite a personal subject, we are both going to be discussing some of our self-care tips that we use in our real lives to help us cope with our individual battles. Now, they may not work for everyone, but these are just some of the ideas that I have found along the way, and I really hope that you can take some helpful information from this post. Just remember that no matter what demons you may be fighting, there is always help available. You are not alone.
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Monday, 12 September 2016

Monthly Memories: August



As expected, August was an incredible month for me, filled with many highs, and exciting opportunities. I took quite a few pictures, but I've got a post scheduled, where I share with you some of the pictures that I gathered from my day trip to Brighton, so you will see more of them then. Instead of this being a photograph heavy post, I'm going to just list some of my favourite memories from the month of August, and hopefully you will be as happy, and pleased for me, as I am for myself!
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Sunday, 11 September 2016

Tanya Bakes: Salted Caramel Brownies



In all honesty, I probably have the sweetest tooth that you could ever imagine. Whether it's chocolate, caramel, fudge, toffee, or anything else that springs to your mind - I would most probably have demolished the whole thing within no time at all! I can't even help it.

So, when I received Tanya Bakes, and I saw that there was a recipe for salted caramel brownies, I just knew that it was going to be the perfect sweet treat for me, and I couldn't wait to share it with all of you.
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Friday, 9 September 2016

Camden Town: A Photo Diary

 
Camden Lock (hence why there are numerous padlocks along this bridge)

 

A boat passing through Camden Lock


A better view of the bridge at Camden Lock

Ooh, I'm such a typical tourist here..

Street art really does fascinate me

It fascinates me so much that I wanted to show you some more..


Look at all the pretty colours!


I couldn't not take a picture of coloured houses


The shop fronts were just too damn cool

They were quite literally off the wall..

A couple of months ago, myself, my mum and my stepdad decided to go on a day trip to Camden. I've been wanting to go for the longest time and then when the day arrived, I honestly couldn't have been more excited. I was practically peeing my pants. That's how serious it was!

The funny thing is, I actually had this whole post written up and scheduled, but little did I know, I'd already scheduled another post to go up on the same day, so in the end, I took down this one and then ended up losing all of writing that went alongside it!
Although that was a right pain in the bum, I'm determined to write an even better (or almost as good..!) version today, so let's cross our fingers that it actually ends up staying on my blog this time!

For those of you who don't already know what Camden is, or why I'm making such a big deal about the fact that I got to spend the day there, I'm going to be enlightening you. Let me just start off by saying that it's either one of those places that you absolutely love or it will be one of those places that you absolutely loathe. I don't really think there's an in between!

As someone who isn't always the best traveller, I tend to worry myself and end up thinking that my anxiety may hold me back from visiting these places that I've been dreaming of since I can remember. When there are large crowds, I usually get the feeling that I'm trapped or that I can't escape and it makes matters worse when I don't actually know the place very well. Now, Camden is a very busy place and when walking around the town, you feel like you're packed so tightly in a tin of sardines that you can't walk for even a second without someone being either in front of you, behind you or to the side of you.
Having said that though, it isn't as extreme as somewhere like London, so you don't have to fret too much!

Camden is one of those really quirky, hipster places. As you can see from the images above, there's a lot of street art, graffiti, colour and there's also the sort of shops that would definitely stand out from the crowd - except in Camden, there really is no crowd, because all of the shops are just so different from the one next door! I don't think it's a town that's to everyone's taste, because some of you may think it's particularly appealing for those who are into gothic fashion and what not, but I personally think that you should just go there, experience the hustle and bustle and see what you think.

If you're into art and photography, then Camden will probably be the town for you. I'm not that much of an artist myself, but I'm hugely into photography and so I really enjoyed going out and taking all of these pictures, because I just love the fact that there's so much vibrancy and there's literally something that captures your attention in every street that you go down.

I literally have been wanting to get a picture of coloured houses for the longest time, because I so badly wanted to feel like one of those Tumblr girls and now I've finally done it and I couldn't be happier. It just looks so aesthetically pleasing, don't you think?

Anyway, that's it for today! I hope you like seeing my collection of snapshots from Camden! Have you ever been there? Is it your cup of tea, or not so much?

Lots of love always,

Jade xo

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Wednesday, 7 September 2016

Balancing School And Blogging | #TTATB

 
 
Myself, and Lauren are finally bringing you another instalment of our "The Truth About Teenage Bloggers" project. Today's topic is going to be all about balancing school, and blogging. If you're reading this, and you're thinking of stopping right here, because you don't go to school, then fear not. This post can also apply to you if you have your own job, or if you just generally feel as though you don't have enough time on your hands to focus on your blog as much as you'd like to.
However, this post is typically aimed towards you teenage bloggers out there, because it's something that both of us girls can relate to, meaning that we're able to help you out a little more.
Although blogging is most definitely one of the best things ever, you have to remember that your education comes right at the front on your list of priorities. You only get one shot, and if you screw it up, then you won't ever do as good as you could have done, no matter how many times you may try afterwards.
Anyway, without further ado, let's just get on with the tips that you're all desperately longing to hear!

Seek inspiration everywhere. When blogging, you don't have to stick to only one type of post. Here at Simply Jadey, I cover all sorts of topics, from self-confidence to Seventeen makeup to styling certain fashion pieces. I don't stick myself in a box, and force myself to conform to a certain niche. It's all about broadening your blogging horizon. No matter what it is that you feel like talking about, just go for it. There will always be someone who can relate, or take something from the post. You never know how many lives you're impacting.

Don't put blogging before school. School is your priority whilst you're there. I know it may seem pointless, and it may seem like you're going in just to complete your countdown to the day where you can finally leave for good, but you will miss it once you have left. I don't leave secondary school until next June, and I'm already thinking about it far more than I probably should be. Your grades will ultimately get you further at this moment in time, even if blogging did become your full time career in the future. You shouldn't neglect your studying, because you want to get up that blog post you feel so passionately about. That isn't the way it works, unfortunately. Spend a few hours completing your work, and then spend the rest of your evening blogging. I do this, and trust me, it will benefit you. Think of it as rewarding yourself after all the effort.

Sort out all of your other main priorities first. Leading on from my previous post, it's important that you put your daily life before blogging. It sucks, but it has to be done, and you'll be grateful for it in years to come. Maybe you should try setting yourself to-do lists. Eat your dinner, do all of your homework, or revision, pack your bag, get your uniform ready, have a shower, and then after all of that, you can blog. Of course, you don't have to listen to my advice, but the whole purpose of this post is for me to try, and help you based upon my own personal experiences. After your to-do list is completed, and you settle down in the evening to focus on your blog, you will feel as though you have been so productive!

Instead of sticking to a tight routine, schedule, schedule, schedule. Scheduling is honestly an absolute life-saver for me. I don't have the time to be posting every single day then promoting across social media, replying to comments, and all of that other jazz that goes alongside blogging. I do (believe it, or not) have a life outside of my blog, and I also have other things that I need to do, which don't involve the internet in any way. I always write my posts up a few weeks in advance, and then schedule them to go up at the same time every Wednesday, and Sunday. It reduces the pressure that I pile upon myself, and it means that my content is better as well, because I'll be writing the posts when I have the time, and the motivation. It's a win, win situation, right? Oh, and if you really wanna push yourself, then you can schedule tweets too! I'm not the gal to ask about that, but I'm sure plenty of other bloggers, or even Google would be able to help you on that one.

Introduce guest bloggers to your blog. One thing that I'm going to be doing throughout October is introducing guest bloggers to my blog. Even though I've done countless collabs, I've never actually had another blogger write for me before, which is crazy to think! It just means that I can take a break from writing for a month (well, for the most part), and you get to see different writing styles, and ideas too. It just gives me a chance to spice things up a bit, and it means I can feature some of my favourite girlies! I can still organise everything, and put the posts together, but it just means I can take a bit of a back seat, and let other people take the reins for a while. What's not to love?

Don't stop yourself from taking a break around exam season. I'm ending on one of the most important ones of the bunch. Well, they're all important (obviously), but still, you know what I mean! If you're like myself, and you're now in Year 11, you'll understand just how important this year is. Things are only going to get harder, for you, and I, so we have to make sure that we put all of our energy, and effort into whatever exams we have, even if they're just past papers. Every bit of practise counts towards preparing us for the real thing. I personally have my mock exams in December (fine timing, I know!), which I'm still going to put 100% effort into, because they really do count. The same goes for all of my coursework that I'm doing. I'm actually hoping to do some sort of blogmas type thing in December, which will be the time that I'm having my mocks, so I'll probably schedule in advance, and throw in some more guest bloggers then! Exciting times are coming. Well, they'll be stressful too, but it will all be worth it in the end.

These are a few of the ways that I find help me personally, and so fingers crossed that you will find them beneficial to you too. If there are any top tips you want to suggest to other people in the comments below, then please feel free to do so! We're all here for each other. Let me know what year you're now in as well, and if you have any big exams coming up in the next few months!

What do you think about scheduling your posts? Have you ever scheduled tweets?!
 
Lots of love always,

Jade xo
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Monday, 5 September 2016

Back To School Advice


As you're reading this post, I will have officially completed 4 hours of Year 11 already. That's quite a crazy thought, even for me to process! Surprisingly, it wasn't actually half as bad, or as stressful as I had convinced myself it would be. However, I know that's not the case for a lot of people, and I'm sure that as the weeks go on, I'll become overwhelmed with exam practise, and I'll be drowning in past papers.

So, today I'm going to be doing a back to school related collab. I know you probably don't want to accept the fact that waking up early, and studying is back in full swing, and neither do I either - but, that's just the way life has to be for now, until we're old enough to leave education full time. Myself and the gorgeous Hollie teamed up to bring you the best advice that we could think of to make your secondary school/sixth form years more enjoyable. Over on her blog, Hollie has given you her top tips for starting A Levels, and over here on my side of the blogosphere, I'm going to be giving you my advice on bitchiness, and friendships. Believe me, I know what I'm talking about when it comes to these 2 topics! Without rambling on more than is necessary, I'm just going to get on with it..

Bitchiness
 
Anyone that's ever been part of a school environment will understand just how common bitchiness is. I don't think there's any school in the world that doesn't have those stereotypical cliques, girl groups, and Regina George type leaders. Mark my word when I say I know these situations all too well. I've been enrolled in the schooling system for 11 years now, and it hasn't changed one bit. There will always be horrible people. There will always be those girls, who think they're better than everyone else. There will always be those boys, who think they're cool, just because of how many girls they can pull a week.
Over the years, I've learnt how to deal with it in an effective way, so hopefully some of you will take my words of wisdom to help you through your own struggles.
 
DON'T EVER RETALIATE UNLESS NECESSARY
 
Take this advice from personal experience. I've seen many situations at school before, and when other people retaliate, it only ever causes more trouble. If someone is trying to pick a fight, or tear you down for some reason, then the worst thing that you could do is shout back at them. It will only add fuel to the fire, after all. Instead, just calmly, and rationally explain your side of the story to them. Take deep breaths, and try to resolve the issue, rather than add to it. If you feel it's necessary, then raise your voice a little louder, and make sure you get heard, but don't ever resort to punching, and kicking if you can help it. Just be the bigger person. Ideally, you should take them, and whoever else is involved away to the side, so you don't have a huge crowd egging the argument on. Be the person that people admire, and applaud.
 
REMIND YOURSELF THAT YOU ARE BETTER THAN THAT
 
If certain individuals are bullying you, or trying to put you down, you need to try, and convince yourself that you're the opposite of everything they're saying. If they're saying that you're a freak, and you have no friends, then keep telling yourself that it's not true. If they're saying you're ugly, and worthless, then make more of a conscious effort to surround yourself with positive people, and try to find, and focus on your traits, rather than your flaws. They are only giving you hate, because you have something that they don't, or they feel insecure within themselves, so they want other people to feel insecure too, as it may give them a sense of more power, and control.
 
Friendships
 
Friends can be hard to make, and sometimes they can be even harder to keep. I've never been the sort of girl that's friends with everyone, but I don't mind it that way. I'm kind to those that I meet, and that's more important than how many people like me, in my opinion. I think that teenagers are often very judgemental without necessarily meaning to be, and that's why it can become more difficult to actually maintain the friendships that you have built up. Now, not everyone is going to like you. I'm pretty sure that's a given. Some people really care about the opinions of others, whereas some people couldn't care less. Going from someone who had no friends, to someone who now has quite a few friends, my tips will hopefully help some of you to become more confident when talking to new people.
 
DON'T BE AFRAID TO START CONVERSATIONS
 
Something that I've never been the best at is starting up conversations with people. I've always been fairly quiet in social situations, and I struggle when it comes to thinking of things to say. As I've grown up, experienced new things, and been around new people, I've gotten a lot better, because it's something that I've just gradually learned to adapt to. If you see someone that looks friendly, and approachable, then I think you should just try, and start up a conversation with them. Smile, and make small talk at first. It never fails! If the person on the receiving end seems happy, and comfortable chatting to you, then just work from there, and see where it goes.
 
SAY YES, EVEN IF YOU DON'T WANT TO AT FIRST
 
Stepping out of our comfort zone is never easy. It's a real challenge, hence why people hardly do it at all. However, you'd be surprised at how far you can go if you just say yes more often. If someone invites you out to go shopping, then say yes. You may be apprehensive, and you may prefer a quiet day in watching Netflix, but hey - you can do that any day. If you keep saying no, people may give up with inviting you places, and then you'll end up feeling rubbish. Obviously, don't do anything if you really don't want to, but pushing yourself to socialise will never end too badly. If you do end up in a situation that you don't want to be in, then just go home, or speak up! Honestly, you will only regret it in the long run once you see what you have been missing out on.
 
All in all, I'd just say that friendships aren't everything. They will often come, and go during this stage of life, but you just have to put in effort, show them support, and be patient. You will eventually meet those people that are destined to be your life long friends. You still have years ahead of you, so don't worry if you feel lonely right now. It won't always be that way, I promise!
 
How do you feel about bitchiness, and friendships? Have I helped you at all?
 
Lots of love,
 
Jade xo
 
 

 

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