Wednesday, 22 June 2016

How To Deal With Growing Up // Collab

Today's post is going to be a very exciting one, as it's a collab with the lovely Charlotte from VieAvecCharlotte. I have only been speaking to her for a little over a month now, but she's quickly become a very close blogging friend of mine and I'm so happy at the fact we are able to do this together! If you haven't already heard of her or her blog, then I highly suggest that you go and give it a read. She is honestly such a kind-hearted, genuine girl and all of her blog posts are so nice and interesting to read. I would say that she has quite a similar niche to me, which is typically beauty, lifestyle, fashion and photography. Her personality honestly does just shine through and I bloody love it! She's an absolute babe as well, so please head on over and give her a follow on Bloglovin', as I'm sure she would really appreciate the love and support from all of you.
Anyway, it's about time we get on with the main part of the post now! As we are both teenagers (with only 1 year's age gap, may I just say!), we thought it would be a cool idea to talk to all of you about how to deal with growing up. Quite a lot of my friends read my blog, as well as a few other teenagers, both male and female, so when Charlotte initially suggested this idea, I just knew that it was something I would enjoy sharing my thoughts on! Over on Charlotte's blog, she's going to be discussing 2 of the hardest things she finds about growing up and I'm also going to be doing the same, but based on different points.
Charlotte's post is all about suddenly having lots of responsibilities and feeling detached from your childhood and the memories that come along with it, whilst I'm going to be discussing coping with the pressures from society and having to deal with drastic change in such a short period of time.
I'm going to start by talking about coping with the pressures from society. I actually did an interview last month over on Hannah's blog, where I answered some questions that she gave me based on the topic and I'm so pleased with how it turned out. I'd go as far as to say it's one of my proudest achievements to date! If you would be interested in checking it out, then you can do so here - feel free to let me know what you think as well!
We live in a society that is now completely different to how it was 20/30 years ago. Back then, teenagers couldn't access the Internet quite so easily, if at all, there were no advertisements of photo shopped celebrities and there was still pressure, I assume, but no-where near as much as there is now. I'm a 15 year old GCSE student and I experience immense pressure on a regular basis. It feels as though you have to conform to society's expectations or you're supposedly deemed as 'not good enough'. Why is this the case? Why aren't we just allowed to be who we want to be without other people and the media getting involved? The pressure can come from school, your friends, your family, the media or even yourself. Trust me, I know how difficult it is, but it doesn't have to stay this way. There are things that you can do to try and help the situation and I'm going to be sharing some of them with you today!
Think of 3 things that you love about your personality and 3 things you love about your appearance - I included this tip in a post I did last month, which was on having self-confidence ( The response I received on that was incredible, so thank you all so much for your lovely comments. Honestly, this is such an important thing that I think all of you should be doing by now and if you aren't already, then this is the perfect opportunity for you to start! No matter what they are, whether they are huge things or smaller things, you need to pick 6 altogether that you genuinely love and appreciate. The only rule is, you can't say that there isn't anything you love!
Surround yourself with those who bring out the best in you - This is quite a cliché one, but it's honestly one of the most important things that you should remember. If someone is making you feel as though you aren't good enough, then they need to be removed from your life instantly. Don't allow negative energy to have an effect on you, because it shouldn't be there in the first place. We all have our down days, where we just want to cry and have cuddles and that's absolutely fine. Allow yourself to cry sometimes. It's a natural reaction and it's more than okay. But, what's not okay is allowing other people to make you feel this way. Cut them off. Tell them that you don't need their negativity in your life. No matter what others may say, you can't let it effect you. There will always be those people that just want to cause trouble and upset the ones that don't deserve it. Nobody deserves to be upset. Nobody. Don't let them convince you that you're worthy of nothing, because I can assure you, you deserve the world and beyond!
Think of it this way. When you're a baby or a small child, there are always people who would do anything to look after you and make sure you're properly cared for, happy and safe. They would never let any harm come to you and they just want what's best for you. As you get older and you become more of an individual and more independent, you can sometimes naturally start to detach yourself from those who care about you most. You end up acting more rebellious, as if you don't care about anything anymore and you start to ignore what your loved ones have to say. I'm not gonna lie, I'm guilty of this too.
Just remind yourself of the younger version of you. If you neglect yourself or you harm yourself, then think, "Would I act like this if I was little again?". If the answer is no, then please think before you act. You are worthy of happiness. I promise you.
The other thing that I'm going to be talking about in today's post is having to deal with a lot of change in such a small amount of time. When you're in primary school, everything is relatively chilled out and care free. However, once you have reached the end of Year 6, all of that begins to change. It's a scary time, believe me. You go from being the oldest of the school (essentially feeling like the leader) to the youngest in a matter of months. You're faced with new teachers, a new environment, new people, new subjects, new rules. And what makes it even harder is that you're now the baby of the school all over again.
Change is always difficult and I'm the sort of girl that doesn't deal well with it in the slightest. I almost have a mini meltdown every time some aspect of my life is changing. It may sound silly, but that's just the way I am I guess! So, if you're like me, then here are a few tips that may help you adapt easier to any sort of change in your life in the future:
Take each day as it comes - This one may sound kinda self-explanatory, depending on what your mind set is like in general. It's so important to take each day as it comes. I'm an incredibly anxious person and I can overthink literally years too soon. I'm only 15 and I'm already worrying about University, but that's not happening anytime soon, if ever!!
Why waste so much time and energy on things that are out of your control? Ultimately, you're unable to tell the future. Nobody is really, unless you have crazy cool (or creepy) psychic powers. In life, things are going to happen and situations are going to occur, whether you like it or not. The world won't stop for you and just hand out lovely, idyllic moments. You will cry, you will moan and you will feel like everyone's against you, even the ants in the ground on certain days. That's okay. That's completely okay. But, as I said, just take each day as it comes. One step at a time. Try not to look too far into the future, if you can help it!
Keep hold of your memories and reflect every once in a while - I don't know how many of you are aware of this, but I actually have a memory box. It's where I store literally all of my memories that make me happy. I have a briefcase, which my granddad gave me, where I store all cards and books from primary school, but I also have a memory box now, where I hold little mementos/souvenirs from holidays, trips out, letters (particularly from fellow bloggers!), tickets and anything else that I feel holds sentimental value to me. I never really show anyone what's inside it, because they never really ask, as the subject doesn't come up on a daily basis (and they probably think I'm slightly mad.. sometimes) but if you want to see a blog post on it one day, then let me know and I shall do that for you! I think it's lovely to have somewhere to keep hold of your memories, whether that be a memory box, a pin board, through photographs, through your blog, through a diary or even just in your head (if you have a super good memory, unlike me!). Nobody has to know. It can be as private or as public as you like. They are your memories after all!
I really hope you enjoyed reading this post today. I certainly had fun writing it and coming up with ideas to hopefully help some of you. Make sure to go and check out Charlotte's post as well. You don't wanna miss it! She deserves more followers too, so please do go and give her Blovlovin' page a follow. It would make us both very happy!
How do you feel about the points I have made? What do you find difficult about growing up?
Lots of love always,
Jade xo


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