Thursday, 30 June 2016

Let's All Have A Casual Chat: My Struggle With Self-Harm

 
This time last year, I wrote a post on this exact same topic. It was terrifying, but after I had done so, I felt a sense of relief; almost as though a weight had been lifted off my shoulders.
Back then, I had hardly any followers, so although the post got quite a lot of views, there wasn't really any response. This is why I'm writing it again.
I'm not doing it to receive any sympathy, nor am I doing it to dig up the past. I'm doing it simply because I want to help people and reassure them that they are not alone. It's still a tough topic for me to talk about, but it's a lot less raw in comparison to how it was last year, so I feel as though I'm ready to share my struggle with all of you.
 
The 30th of June marks the fact that I have been clean from self-harm for 1 year and 6 months. Being able to write that sentence out honestly makes me so, so proud.
During the time that I was actually self-harming, I never thought that I would be able to say that and now that I am able to, it makes me so incredibly happy and grateful.
 
I started intentionally hurting myself when I was 12 years old. I didn't have the easiest of childhoods and the transition from primary to secondary school wasn't exactly plain sailing either. I had always been quite reserved and quiet, so people used to bully me, because of this and a few other factors. I didn't know how to stick up for myself at the time and I'm still not the best at it, but it's definitely something that I have learnt to get better at as I've gotten older and grown up a lot more.
I fought my battle, near enough every single day for just over 2 years. None of my family suspected a thing and although I felt more alone than ever, I was almost relieved in a way, because I had convinced myself that they would be angry and hate me if they were to ever find out.
Around this time last year, my mum did actually see some of the scars on my leg. She did react quite badly at first, but I blame it down to shock and fear. We have never bought up the subject since. I just want you to know that your loved ones may well react badly at first. It doesn't mean they hate you and it doesn't mean they are angry. More often than not, they blame themselves and feel angry and upset that they didn't know about your problems in order for them to help you through them. Once they have calmed down, they will most likely want to talk to you about it, so that they can get a better understanding of the situation and why it had gotten that bad in the first place.
 
A couple of my friends knew about it at first, but I told them, because I knew I could trust them with my life and I still to this day believe that I was right to do so. More people at school found out eventually and some of them weren't very nice about it, but I just ignored it and didn't' bring up the subject to those individuals. People like that obviously don't know you well enough to fully understand what you're going through and why you're self-harming as a result. Those people honestly do not matter. I know it can be so scary if people find out something that is so personal to you, but I promise you, it won't ruin your life. It won't destroy your future. You don't have to tell anyone anything that you don't want to and if certain individuals don't respect your privacy, then that's their own problem, not yours! However, if you are at serious risk of an infection or internal damage, due to how badly you have been harming yourself, then please do get help. I know that may be the last thing you want to do, but it's so much better to reach out at that point, before matters escalate even further. I understand that you may feel as though you want your life to end. I have been in that dark place one too many times before, but you honestly don't deserve to go so young. Just because you are in a dark place now, it doesn't mean that the sun won't shine ever again! People used to tell me that it would get better and I would be fine eventually - but I didn't care about eventually. I wanted to get better in that instant.
The thing is, when you're in such a desperately low place, you feel as though you will never be able to get out. It's almost as though you're trapped right at the bottom of an underground hole and you just can't get up high enough to pull yourself out. You want to feel better, but you just don't know how to do it; how to find the strength.
Ultimately, the people around you can motivate you and encourage you as much as they want, but you have to want to make the change. You have to find the strength; that sense of courage from deep within you. That's what will get you through. For me personally, I looked towards the future. I knew that I couldn't go on like that for much longer, as I would eventually end up with nothing and nobody. It was already heading towards that route. I knew that I couldn't keep hiding it and I also knew that if I continued to lead this sort of life with this sort of mindset that I would end up staying this way forever. I wanted to prove to myself that I could get through it. I wanted to prove to myself that I could survive the storm.
 
And that's exactly what I did. After years of fighting my demons, I have finally conquered the deadliest one, which was self-harm. It was a horrible, isolating journey and I wanted to give up nearly every single day, believe me. I relapsed quite a few times along the way, but now that I have put that stage of my life behind me, I am able to look towards better, brighter things. I knew that the people around me wouldn't want me to hurt myself. I also knew that if they were going through what I was, I would never, ever want them to hurt themselves. My friends continuously picked me up and motivated me to stay clean. They believed in me. They knew that I could get through it.
Even when I didn't believe it myself, I knew that they did and that's what kept me going. My very best friends and the strength that came from within me. 
Since then, I have opened up to a few other family members and if I'm honest, I wish I had taken that step sooner.  It's probably one of the scariest things I've ever done, but once you have actually got it off your chest, it feels so good! You feel so free.
 
If you are currently going through self-harm or if you're trying to recover yourself, then please listen to me right now. I know exactly how you feel. I understand that you must be frightened. You must feel so terribly frightened and helpless, but I promise you, you're not. You are beautiful and you are brave. You are braver than you believe. You may think that self-harm is going to help you, but in reality, it's only going to make things worse for you and the ones around you. It's a long process, but once you have convinced yourself that you do need to stop, then you just need to find that strength and that courage to get through it. It's not easy. It's not easy at all - but, it's possible. You may fall back down, you may find it difficult to stand back up, but you will make it. One day, you will also be able to say that you are 1 year and 6 months clean. Whatever your reason for self-harming is, please don't let it define you. Please don't let it rule or ruin your life. You genuinely are worth so much more than that. I have gotten through it and now I want to help you do the same. I know that I haven't met any of you personally (yet), but I'm still right here. I am right by your side. You will never be alone, so long as I am around. All you have to do is tweet me and then I shall follow you back and we can talk through direct message all night, every night if that's what you want. If having a conversation with me helps to give you hope for the future, then that's what will happen. I am not giving up on any of you. You are all little fighters and I know you can win this battle.
 
Something that helped me ever such a lot and still does is the internet. Without it, I wouldn't be able to write for all of you today! It has quite honestly changed my life for the better. There are so many websites you can turn to for help. ChildLine, Mind, YoungMinds, Rethink, SupportLine, Samaritans. They are all excellent websites that are there to benefit you. You are not alone and you never will be. Try to find your passion. Whether that is starting up your own blog, art, music, sport, baking, musical theatre - whatever it may be, find it and never, ever let it go. Even though I didn't start blogging until after I had stopped self-harming, I know that it would have been the thing that I turned to had I needed a passion to put my all into. It has now become the thing that I love more than anything in this world. It has bought me closer to so many beautiful, kind-hearted people that I may have never had the chance to speak to if it wasn't for the internet! I now know that no matter how lonely or frightened I feel, I can just go onto Twitter, Instagram or my blog and I will be greeted by some of the most genuine angels in the whole world.
 
3 years ago, I was in such a horrifically dark place. I felt trapped within my own mind. I was scared and I genuinely believed that I was helpless. I honestly didn't think I would be able to get out of it and I can't explain to you how devastating that was for me.
But, I did it. I got out of that terrifying place and I'm now stronger than ever. 
Sometimes, it feels as though it's easier to just bury yourself under billions of blankets and hide away from the world for days on end. I've been there many times myself, but you can't stay stuck in that mindset. You are the only one who can change your way of thinking from a negative fixed mindset into a positive growth mindset. People can support you, people can encourage you and people can stand by your side through the bright and the dark days, but in the end, you are the one who has to decide to make that change.
Opening up to someone for the first time about such a personal problem can be incredibly daunting and it can make you feel scared. It may feel like you're exposing yourself; stripping yourself off from your secrets that you have been hiding deep within you for so long. Once you have done it for the first time, you will honestly feel so much better. Make sure you choose to open up to someone that you can trust with anything though. If you find it easier, you can talk to me first and I'll help you plan what to say to your chosen loved one. You can write it in a diary, in the form of a letter, a text, a phone call or you can sit them down and tell them face to face. There is no right or wrong way. It's whatever feels most comfortable for you. No matter what emotion you're feeling or what situation(s) you're in, there are always things you can do to help you cope a little bit better.
A really helpful, informative page is on the ChildLine website about self-harm coping techniques, so that may be worth checking out to see if it benefits you in any way. You can go to it here.
 
 
You will always have bad days. That's unfortunately just the way life goes and that's not something you can control. We all need some time to have a cry and let all of our thoughts and feelings out every once in a while though, so try not to beat yourself up over it too much. You deserve so much more than that.
 
I don't want any of you to have to go through this pain, but as much as I wish I could, I can't change the fact that terrible things happen in life sometimes that are out of anyone's control. You will be pushed to the edge. You will crumble. You will fall down more times than you can count - but, you just need to pick yourself up again and keep on going. I can promise you now, no matter how hopeless or worthless you feel you as a person and your life may be, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I have found my light and I know you can find yours too. I will always believe in you all. I may not have met any of you personally and there may be some of you that I haven't spoken to before, but that doesn't change anything. I still consider you to be friends of mine and I still care about every single one of you. You are all incredible in your own way and I want you to remember that.
 
If this post has helped you in anyway whatsoever, regardless of whether you have struggled with self-harm yourself before, then please leave me a comment, saying that you're one of my strong, sassy soldiers, who is worthy of the sunshine. If you're wanting to recover, then save this post and come back to it whenever you're feeling down. Visit the support pages that I've listed above. Try some of the coping techniques on the ChildLine website. Come and talk to me, anytime, day or night. If you need a reason to recover, then let me be your reason. I'm asking you now to please, please stay strong and try your very best to use all of your strength within you to pull through this hideous time.
I know it's hard. I know it is - but, I believe in you. I know you can fight this war.
 
Whenever you want to talk to me, I'll be there for you! My advice email is; simplyjadey.advice@gmail.com and my twitter is; @jademillardx.
 
I love you all to the moon and back my strong, sassy soldiers. You are all worthy of the sunshine.
 
Stay strong lovelies. You got this. Even in this gloomy weather, it can't rain forever.
 
*Hey there little fighter, soon things will be brighter*
 
Lots of love always,
 
Jade xo
SHARE:

Sunday, 26 June 2016

Sounds Of Summer // Collab


Today's post is going to be a collab with one of my very close blogging friends Erin from Everything Erin. I'm so excited at the fact that I'm finally able to collab with her, because I have been reading her blog for quite a while now and I've just fallen in love with it! She's one of the sweetest, most genuine girls and I couldn't be more proud of her and her blog, if I'm honest. Make sure you go and check her out and share the love, please!!
 
We are going to be sharing 4 artists that we know we will love over the summer months. As soon as we started speaking, the topic of music came up and once we realised we both have pretty similar styles, we decided that this would be the best sort of post to do together. I haven't really spoken about music too much on my blog before, but it's quite a big part of my life, so I'm hopefully going to try and include it a lot more from now on.

One of my favourite female singers of all time has got to be Adele. I know a lot of young girls idolise Queen B, but Adele is without a doubt my Queen. She can do no wrong when it comes to the music that she creates. I don't think there has ever been a song of hers that I don't like, because if I'm honest, they are all just as flawless as the last one! Her vocals are incredible and all of the lyrics means something. A large majority of people nowadays are just focused on a catchy beat and don't get me wrong, that's also amazing, but I think the true talent lies with artists who can produce strong beat's, as well as meaningful lyrics and genuine vocals. She is so true and so kind-hearted. She can literally just stand on the stage at an awards ceremony, hold the microphone and sing into it. Her voice fills up the entire room and has everyone mesmerized by the first note. That is why I love Adele, my friends. A song that she has recently bought out called 'Send My Love (To Your New Lover' is right up there at the top of my list right now. It's perfect for the summertime and it really gets you in the mood to sing along! The video is also a complete masterpiece, can I just say?  Trust me, you need to go and give it a listen. Or, you could always just go and listen to her whole album '25' in general. That's also absolutely fine by me..

Some of you may not have heard of this record producer before, but if you're one of them people, then you need to go and check him out! For those of you who are completely baffled right now, I'm talking about the one and only Alan Walker. He only came onto the music scene last year, but boy, has he made an entrance! A track of his that I've absolutely fallen in love with is called 'Faded'. Even if you don't know that this man is the one behind this musical creation, you have probably had this song blasting out of your speakers at least once over the past few weeks. I can't get enough of it! I've also listened to quite a few cover's of it, from the likes of people, such as Conor Maynard ft. Anth and Beth, who is a YouTuber! It's such an upbeat, quirky song and I love to have it turned right up loud, so I can sing along to it. Believe me when I say it can instantly turn your mood around.

My all time favourite band is The 1975. I can't see why anyone wouldn't love them, if I'm honest! I'm sure that most of you know who they are, (if you don't, then you must have been living under a rock for the past few years), but if you aren't as aware of the majority of the population, then I shall fill you in now. They are an English alternative rock band, originally formed in 2002 (one year after I was born - wow!), which consists of Matt Healy (aka Mr Dreamboat), Adam Hann, Ross Macdonald and George Daniel. I'd say that I've been listening to their music on and off for about 3 years now, but even when I haven't heard from them in a while, I always turn back to them, because as I've mentioned, they genuinely are my favourite boy band. One of their recent releases is 'The Sound', which I've quite honestly fallen in love with and the love grows each time I listen to it. If I had to describe it, I would say that it's intense, quirky and unique. Thank me later when you fall head over heels in love with Matt Healy and start fantasizing about what a relationship with him would be like. Yep, I've totally been there more than 1,000 times...

When I say the words 'very attractive Canadian teenager, who can sing and play the guitar fantastically', who do you think of? Well, obviously it's Shawn Mendes that comes to mind instantly - duhh! I bet he serenades so many girls with that charming smile of his. I'd let him sing to me anyday. He's certainly boyfriend material in my eyes anyway! Anyone else agree with me? Wait, hold on, I'm going off topic here. I'm meant to be discussing how amazing his music is, not how incredibly attractive he is! (That too though..). Certainly all of the teenagers and their mum's have heard of the infamous song 'Stitches' by now? Yeah, I thought so! That was the first song I heard from him and as soon as I found out his name, I quickly become scouring YouTube to try and find more of his tracks! I was not disappointed. Even though I'm only going to be talking about the one for this post, I'm sure he and his music will feature more on my blog sometime in the future! Seriously though, a boy that can play guitar? Gimme some of that, please and thank you! Can I have Matt Healy and Shawn Mendes or is that far too greedy of me? Enough of that business now for one blog post. So, the song I've been loving the most recently and I'm sure one which I shall continue to love is his collaboration with Camila Cabello 'I Know What You Did Last Summer'. I'm not going to lie, when I first heard this song, even though I loved it, I had no idea that Shawn sung it! It's the perfect song for the Summer (hence the title!) and I think both of the artists' voices go so perfectly together as a pair. It's quite a romantic song, but then the chorus gets much louder and more of a dance in your seat, open the car windows fully, throw your hands in the air as you drive along kinda song, which is what I love. In a song, I really like it when it starts off quite slow and meaningful and then it gets much more heated and cheerful!

That's all for today's post, I'm afraid! I really hope you liked reading it, because it's been one of my favourites to write and come up with ideas for. Thank you so much to Erin, once again for collaborating with me - it's been so much fun! Remember to go and check out her post now that you have read this to see what her sounds of summer are going to be.

What songs have you been listening to lately? Do you have any favourite artists or albums?

Lots of love always,

Jade xo

 
 
 
SHARE:

Wednesday, 22 June 2016

How To Deal With Growing Up // Collab

 
Today's post is going to be a very exciting one, as it's a collab with the lovely Charlotte from VieAvecCharlotte. I have only been speaking to her for a little over a month now, but she's quickly become a very close blogging friend of mine and I'm so happy at the fact we are able to do this together! If you haven't already heard of her or her blog, then I highly suggest that you go and give it a read. She is honestly such a kind-hearted, genuine girl and all of her blog posts are so nice and interesting to read. I would say that she has quite a similar niche to me, which is typically beauty, lifestyle, fashion and photography. Her personality honestly does just shine through and I bloody love it! She's an absolute babe as well, so please head on over and give her a follow on Bloglovin', as I'm sure she would really appreciate the love and support from all of you.
 
Anyway, it's about time we get on with the main part of the post now! As we are both teenagers (with only 1 year's age gap, may I just say!), we thought it would be a cool idea to talk to all of you about how to deal with growing up. Quite a lot of my friends read my blog, as well as a few other teenagers, both male and female, so when Charlotte initially suggested this idea, I just knew that it was something I would enjoy sharing my thoughts on! Over on Charlotte's blog, she's going to be discussing 2 of the hardest things she finds about growing up and I'm also going to be doing the same, but based on different points.
Charlotte's post is all about suddenly having lots of responsibilities and feeling detached from your childhood and the memories that come along with it, whilst I'm going to be discussing coping with the pressures from society and having to deal with drastic change in such a short period of time.
 
I'm going to start by talking about coping with the pressures from society. I actually did an interview last month over on Hannah's blog, where I answered some questions that she gave me based on the topic and I'm so pleased with how it turned out. I'd go as far as to say it's one of my proudest achievements to date! If you would be interested in checking it out, then you can do so here - feel free to let me know what you think as well!
 
We live in a society that is now completely different to how it was 20/30 years ago. Back then, teenagers couldn't access the Internet quite so easily, if at all, there were no advertisements of photo shopped celebrities and there was still pressure, I assume, but no-where near as much as there is now. I'm a 15 year old GCSE student and I experience immense pressure on a regular basis. It feels as though you have to conform to society's expectations or you're supposedly deemed as 'not good enough'. Why is this the case? Why aren't we just allowed to be who we want to be without other people and the media getting involved? The pressure can come from school, your friends, your family, the media or even yourself. Trust me, I know how difficult it is, but it doesn't have to stay this way. There are things that you can do to try and help the situation and I'm going to be sharing some of them with you today!
 
Think of 3 things that you love about your personality and 3 things you love about your appearance - I included this tip in a post I did last month, which was on having self-confidence (http://simplyjadey.blogspot.co.uk/2016/05/lets-all-have-casual-chat-having-self.html). The response I received on that was incredible, so thank you all so much for your lovely comments. Honestly, this is such an important thing that I think all of you should be doing by now and if you aren't already, then this is the perfect opportunity for you to start! No matter what they are, whether they are huge things or smaller things, you need to pick 6 altogether that you genuinely love and appreciate. The only rule is, you can't say that there isn't anything you love!
 
Surround yourself with those who bring out the best in you - This is quite a cliché one, but it's honestly one of the most important things that you should remember. If someone is making you feel as though you aren't good enough, then they need to be removed from your life instantly. Don't allow negative energy to have an effect on you, because it shouldn't be there in the first place. We all have our down days, where we just want to cry and have cuddles and that's absolutely fine. Allow yourself to cry sometimes. It's a natural reaction and it's more than okay. But, what's not okay is allowing other people to make you feel this way. Cut them off. Tell them that you don't need their negativity in your life. No matter what others may say, you can't let it effect you. There will always be those people that just want to cause trouble and upset the ones that don't deserve it. Nobody deserves to be upset. Nobody. Don't let them convince you that you're worthy of nothing, because I can assure you, you deserve the world and beyond!
 
Think of it this way. When you're a baby or a small child, there are always people who would do anything to look after you and make sure you're properly cared for, happy and safe. They would never let any harm come to you and they just want what's best for you. As you get older and you become more of an individual and more independent, you can sometimes naturally start to detach yourself from those who care about you most. You end up acting more rebellious, as if you don't care about anything anymore and you start to ignore what your loved ones have to say. I'm not gonna lie, I'm guilty of this too.
Just remind yourself of the younger version of you. If you neglect yourself or you harm yourself, then think, "Would I act like this if I was little again?". If the answer is no, then please think before you act. You are worthy of happiness. I promise you.
 
The other thing that I'm going to be talking about in today's post is having to deal with a lot of change in such a small amount of time. When you're in primary school, everything is relatively chilled out and care free. However, once you have reached the end of Year 6, all of that begins to change. It's a scary time, believe me. You go from being the oldest of the school (essentially feeling like the leader) to the youngest in a matter of months. You're faced with new teachers, a new environment, new people, new subjects, new rules. And what makes it even harder is that you're now the baby of the school all over again.
Change is always difficult and I'm the sort of girl that doesn't deal well with it in the slightest. I almost have a mini meltdown every time some aspect of my life is changing. It may sound silly, but that's just the way I am I guess! So, if you're like me, then here are a few tips that may help you adapt easier to any sort of change in your life in the future:
 
Take each day as it comes - This one may sound kinda self-explanatory, depending on what your mind set is like in general. It's so important to take each day as it comes. I'm an incredibly anxious person and I can overthink literally years too soon. I'm only 15 and I'm already worrying about University, but that's not happening anytime soon, if ever!!
Why waste so much time and energy on things that are out of your control? Ultimately, you're unable to tell the future. Nobody is really, unless you have crazy cool (or creepy) psychic powers. In life, things are going to happen and situations are going to occur, whether you like it or not. The world won't stop for you and just hand out lovely, idyllic moments. You will cry, you will moan and you will feel like everyone's against you, even the ants in the ground on certain days. That's okay. That's completely okay. But, as I said, just take each day as it comes. One step at a time. Try not to look too far into the future, if you can help it!
 
Keep hold of your memories and reflect every once in a while - I don't know how many of you are aware of this, but I actually have a memory box. It's where I store literally all of my memories that make me happy. I have a briefcase, which my granddad gave me, where I store all cards and books from primary school, but I also have a memory box now, where I hold little mementos/souvenirs from holidays, trips out, letters (particularly from fellow bloggers!), tickets and anything else that I feel holds sentimental value to me. I never really show anyone what's inside it, because they never really ask, as the subject doesn't come up on a daily basis (and they probably think I'm slightly mad.. sometimes) but if you want to see a blog post on it one day, then let me know and I shall do that for you! I think it's lovely to have somewhere to keep hold of your memories, whether that be a memory box, a pin board, through photographs, through your blog, through a diary or even just in your head (if you have a super good memory, unlike me!). Nobody has to know. It can be as private or as public as you like. They are your memories after all!
 
I really hope you enjoyed reading this post today. I certainly had fun writing it and coming up with ideas to hopefully help some of you. Make sure to go and check out Charlotte's post as well. You don't wanna miss it! She deserves more followers too, so please do go and give her Blovlovin' page a follow. It would make us both very happy!
 
 
 
How do you feel about the points I have made? What do you find difficult about growing up?
 
Lots of love always,
 
Jade xo

















SHARE:

Sunday, 19 June 2016

Let's All Have A Casual Chat: Feminism

 
 
I am a feminist. I have absolutely no shame whatsoever in admitting that fact. My views on this topic are incredibly strong, because it's something that I feel very passionately about, but I want to share them with you today in the hope that this post will somewhat educate you or open your eyes to what feminism actually is and how it affects you.
The idea to write about this has been in my mind for quite a while now, but I've decided that I'm going to bite the bullet and do it. What have I got to lose, after all?
 
 
One of the most common misconceptions is that feminists are man-haters or females who think that they are much better than males. I can assure you, this is not true in the slightest. The correct definition of feminism is, 'the advocacy of women's rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes', so let's just get that point out there before we all start jumping to conclusions without knowing what the word really means!
 
It seems to me that women are constantly belittled by men. Why should we be allowing this? Why should we just bury our heads in the sand and pretend like this is all okay, when we all know for a fact that it most definitely isn't and never will be? Surely, every single person in this world believes that men and women should be equal? Well, that's what a feminist believes too. If you say you're against feminism, then you're essentially against equality of the sexes. Why should men receive better opportunities, higher power and more recognition for the work that they put in? What about the incredible women in the world that do so much for humanity in order to benefit the way others live? Think of Emma Watson's speech to the United Nations, back in 2014. When my English teacher showed this speech to my class, I was quite honestly taken aback by what she had to say. She used her voice to state her opinion and she captured the attention of the people in power listening to her perfectly. Why can't all of us demonstrate that kind of attitude?
 
So many girls often get insulted on a regular basis. If they enjoy participating in a sport, they are judged, because only boys can become football fans, right? If they want to lift weights, they are criticised, because only boys can have strong muscles, right?

Some of my very best friends in real life are girls that enjoy playing football and other sports. They genuinely do love it and they have had some fantastic opportunities, because of this passion too. Never have I ever insulted them or put them down. I may not play football myself and I may not be a part of any sports team with other people my age, but that's irrelevant. I am more than happy to always support any of my girlfriends, who enjoy sport and I'd be more than happy to support any of my guy friends if they enjoy singing or dancing too!! I am so proud of all of my friends, regardless of what they are interested in.
 
WRONG. These perceptions are so, very wrong. Who decides what men and women can and can't do? What they can and can't love? What they can and can't enjoy? The answer to that is nobody. We are all individuals and we are all entitled to do, love and enjoy what we want. If a boy tells another boy that he 'punches like a girl', then why does that boy have the right to imply to the other that he is weak? Who says that girls and women are weak? If they are able to carry and care for a baby inside their body for 9 months and then go through the ordeal that is labour, then surely that makes them stronger than you could ever imagine?
 
Whilst doing some research prior to writing up this post, I found out (some) pretty horrific facts, some pretty insightful facts and I felt as though it was necessary for me to share them all with you :
 
- A man in a room full of women is ecstatic. A woman in a room full of men is terrified.
- On average two women a week are killed by a violent partner or ex-partner in the UK.
- Only 77% of young men agree that having sex with someone who has said no is rape.
- 1 in 5 people think it would be acceptable in certain circumstances for a man to hit or slap his female partner in response to her being dressed in sexy or revealing clothing in public.
 
 
Does the above image not just completely appal you? If that doesn't convince you that we need feminism, then I really don't know what will. Mental illness' are a serious thing. Why should a young girl have to pretend that her depression and eating disorder is invisible, just because the people around her guessed that it was down to hormones? Just because you're a young female, it doesn't mean that you can't struggle with your mental health. Why should a young girl in distress have to walk into school crying and get ignored for it, just because people would guess that she was experiencing her time of the month? There could have been a horrific explanation behind those tears and that young girl's emotions went unnoticed, all because ignorant individuals decided to remain small-minded. 
Why should a young girl suffer physically and mentally in terms of her health, but get told that it's merely down to a slight chemical imbalance in her brain? She could have been incredibly ill, yet people chose not to take notice of her and why was that? All because she was born as a female and not a male.
 
The young girls of today feel as though they have to wear a full face of makeup just to go to school. Fake tan, fake eyelashes, hair extensions - the lot. They feel as though they have to dress themselves up, just to face a couple hundred people, so they can receive an education. They know that people will base judgement on the way that they look. They know that boys will be staring at their boobs or their bums. They know that boys will be looking them up and down, eyes practically ogling out of their sockets. This is so sad and so wrong. We shouldn't feel the need to play dumb or act as if we are unintelligent, just so that the boy we find attractive in our year will pay attention to us. We shouldn't feel as though the length of our skirt determines whether we are promiscuous or not. We shouldn't get taught that boys care more about looks or that they perceive girls as objects that they are able to just play around with for a laugh in order to get rated by their so called 'friends'.
 
To all you boys and men out there. Women are not weak. Women's thoughts and opinions are not insignificant. Women's work is no less important than yours is. We are smart, we are strong and our thoughts and opinions are valid. We should be treated exactly the same as you are. Why in the world should we be treated any differently, when we are just as capable of succeeding in life as you are? If we want to play football and compete with other teams, then we are entitled to. If we want to throw punches and practise boxing, then we are entitled to. If we want to wear a short skirt when we go out, then we are entitled to. A woman's worth is not measured by her clothing. Feminism isn't about making women stronger. Women are already strong. It's about changing the way the world perceives that strength.
 
I completely accept the fact that men and boys struggle too. They get told to 'man up!' if they find something a challenge. They get told that they are acting 'like a girl', if they are supposedly not strong enough. They get told they are acting 'like a girl' if they cry. Who actually gives a damn? I mean, seriously. If a boy or a man wants to cry, then let him be and offer some support, rather than criticism. Crying is natural, so stop making it out to be some big deal. If you have nothing nice to say, then just don't say it at all! Can you now see how ridiculous this all is? I understand that every boy and every man is fighting their own battle, but that's besides the point right now. I'm trying to express the fact that women can't seem to be who they want to be. Boys and men have the freedom to go down whatever career path they choose. Why can't a girl become a bus driver? Why can't a girl become a professional footballer? What fool is it that decided women must stay at home to cook and clean tirelessly for hours on end, like a slave, whilst the man of the house is allowed to go out to work and make a living for himself? Do you understand now how difficult life for a lady is? You judging them based on the length of their skirt or how low down their top is? They should not feel pressurised to look a certain way, just so they can get attention from you. They should not feel as though they have to dimmer their intelligence, just so that you will notice them once, which they have so desperately longed for since they first laid eyes on you.
Destroying a girl's self-esteem and self-worth, without even getting to know the person behind the appearance? It's absolutely pathetic. And it needs to change.
 
Women are not and never will be objects. We should not be treated like rag dolls. You can't just expect us to slip on a pretty dress, apply some red lipstick and then yearn for us to fall into your arms and get into bed with you. It doesn't work that way! And how dare people out there think it does. You should be appreciative of the kindness that we display, the love and affection that we give to you, the loyalty that we perceive. Appreciate what's on the inside. Don't lust after what you may see once on the outside.
 
I'm going to be honest here. I care about what people think of me; heck, I even care what boys think about me. I look in the mirror one too many times before I feel semi-satisfied. I cry and get upset if an attractive boy calls me ugly. I worry that boys will never appreciate me for who I am behind the outside appearance. I worry that I will always feel insecure; judged.
 
I don't want things to be this way any longer than they have to be. Not for myself, not for the  girls I know and love and not for the baby girl that I may give birth to in the future. I don't want any girl to feel as though she has to look or act a certain way to be considered as a human. I don't want my baby girl to get born into this world, knowing that boys she may come across will more than likely judge her for the way she looks. I want all of the girls in my life to feel beautiful, confident and worthy, because that's what you all should be already in my eyes. I just wish you could see that too.
How can we expect anything to change if we don't get up off our backsides and do something now? What if one day it is too late? What if it gets worse?
 
These are some of the many reasons why I chose to become a feminist. I am proud to call myself that. And you should be proud to call yourself one too. Females should not have to hide away from society. Females should feel just as appreciated and just as accepted as men do.
 
 
I understand that this blog post may not have much of an effect on any of you, but if it helps even one person to understand a little bit more about the subject of feminism, then I'm happy.
 
Thank you so much for taking the time to read this post. I really do hope it has encouraged or educated you in some way.
 
Together, we can fight for gender equality.
 
I am proud to be a feminist. Are you?
 
Lots of love always,
 
Jade xo
 

SHARE:

Wednesday, 15 June 2016

Birthday Wishes

 
 Today marks the day that my beautiful big sister Sophie turns 24. I've never really written a blog post like this before, despite the fact that I've actually been blogging since last year, but there's a first time for everything, right? Don't mind me if it's a little all over the place. It's the thought that counts!
 
I'm one of the lucky ones who has had a sibling ever since the day I was born. My sister was 9 when I came into this world and I'm sure she had pretty mixed feelings about that! Truth is, we didn't always get on. We used to bicker over the silliest of things and at times, we could actually be quite spiteful to each other, in terms of sharing and whatnot. Well, maybe it was more the fact that I didn't usually want to share, but that's besides the point. We used to have bunk beds when we were younger - Sophie on the top, myself on the bottom. Due to certain circumstances, she went to go and live with my grandparents when she was 13. I don't really know whether or not I thought much of it at the time, because quite frankly, I can't actually remember that far back.
 
As the years have gone by, I have realised how lucky I really am to have a big sister. The age gap used to hold us back, because whilst she was focusing on growing up and going out with her friends, I was still too little to go out by myself and to understand the things that she was doing, so we couldn't exactly spend much quality time together back then.
Since I was about 10, we have been getting closer and closer with each passing day. I've grown up a lot and I've experienced things that she also experienced when she was younger; revision, friendships, school drama and so on. Although we do have our disagreements and I do sometimes pick a fight for absolutely no relevant reason whatsoever, I am so proud to say that I have been blessed with such an incredible woman as a sister. We obviously don't have much choice in the matter, but I wouldn't ever change her or replace her for the world. She is independent, she is strong, she is confident, she is intelligent beyond words and she is absolutely beautiful. I have realised recently that having a sister means that I will have a best friend for the rest of my life. There will always be someone that will support my decisions in life, someone that will listen to me rant and ramble on, someone that always wants me to be safe and happy, someone that would never judge me, no matter what I say. Now that I'm older, we're able to go out shopping together and out for lunch and we can even just sit in bed watching YouTube videos, which is something that I never thought would happen in a million years. I wasn't too sure how to tell my family about my blog in the beginning, but my sister always reads my posts and she always tells me how proud she is and how much she loves what I write. Knowing that means the absolute world to me. She has always supported me and showed me unconditional love and for that, I honestly couldn't be more grateful if I tried.
 
Over the past few months, my sister hasn't had it very easy. She's spent a lot of time feeling very upset and I think she was beginning to lose focus of her future, slightly. I'd send her sweet messages to try and pick her up and I'd sit with her in her bedroom, whilst she poured her heart out and lent on me as her shoulder to cry on. It was really important to me that I showed her just how much I love her, because she had always been the one to look after me and cheer me up when I was feeling down and then it was my turn to do the same.
 
The photos that I have included in the collage are just a select few of some of my personal favourites. Just looking back at them makes me really happy and it reminds me of the good times that we have shared together as siblings. I love how genuine our smiles are in all of them. They don't look forced; it seems as though we are actually enjoying the time that we spend together and I just bloody love that. We are sisters by heart, but also friends by choice. That's a bond that is ever so special and something that I shall cherish for the rest of my life.
 
Whenever myself and my grandma have heart-to-hearts, she always tells me that my sister thinks the world of me and she will always be there for me - and I honestly believe that. I know that we will only get closer as time continues to go on and we will always be by each others side, no matter what, because that's what sisters do, right?
 
Every girl always wishes that they had a sister and I'm so lucky that my wish had come true before I was even born! She's always there to offer me her wisdom and she always has my best interests at heart too. I admire how hard-working and driven she is to achieving her goals and doing the very best that she possibly can. I also admire how she is never afraid to voice her opinion (respectfully, of course) and how she is willing to open up and share her thoughts to whoever may be listening. I feel like she's an individual that anybody could learn a thing or two from and I can definitely say that's true from experience!  
 
Sophie, thank you for being the best big sister any girl could ever dream of. You mean the absolute world to me and I feel very lucky to have you in my life, because believe me, it wouldn't be the same without you in it. I know I can get on your nerves sometimes, but I'm just being an average little sister, I guess! I shall always support you and every decision that you make and I know that you will do the same for me too, as that's what sisters do.
I hope you have the best birthday in the entire world and I look forward to the future.
 
Love you forever and always Soph, (my skin and blister)
 
Jadey xxxxxxxxx
 
 
 
 

SHARE:

Saturday, 11 June 2016

20 Things That Make Me Happy // Collab

 
Hi everyone! I've got another collab for you today. I'm on a roll with them recently and I absolutely love it. Connecting with fellow bloggers is literally one of my favourite things and I always feel so appreciative whenever I'm able to sort out a collab idea with one of them! Today it's with the wonderful Laura from Blossom of Hope. This girl has honestly supported me through everything in regards to my blog. She always comments on all of my posts (they are so genuine as well), she's always happy to have a chat and she's just an all round lovely person with a really nice blog, which I definitely encourage you to check out and follow! She's such a cutie and she really does have a heart of gold, which deserves to be recognised.
 
We decided today that we wanted to do a post on 20 things that make us happy. I normally do chatty, lifestyle posts and after Laura read one of mine last month, she decided that she wanted to do a collab with me based on the topic of positivity! I thought that was so sweet and I obviously jumped at the chance, hence why I am bringing you all this post today. I hope you like it!
 
1. Family & Friends
 
2. Animals (as long as they aren't too scary!)
 
3. Photography
 
4. Following some recipes to bake sweet treats for my loved ones
 
5. Sunshine and just the summer in general
 
6. Reading a heartfelt book (usually one of the romantic sort!)
 
7. Anything to do with blogging - it's quite literally become my life!
 
8. Binge-watching my favourite series' on Netflix
 
9. Listening to music and having a sing along
 
10. Knowing that I have helped someone or made them smile
 
11. Visiting new places and educating myself on them
 
12. Raising awareness of mental health
 
13. People who are genuinely kind-hearted and open-minded
 
14. Spending time out in the warm weather
 
15. Laughter
 
16. Shopping
 
17. Going on adventures
 
18. Feeling proud of something I have achieved
 
19. Cuddling up on a cold evening
 
20. Spreading positivity to as many people as I can.
 
 
Lots of love always,
 
Jade xo
SHARE:

Wednesday, 8 June 2016

Let's All Have A Casual Chat: Facing Your Fears

 

After having a conversation with my grandma a couple of weeks ago, the idea for doing this sort of post came about. I've featured a few different topics on my blog, which are related to the series 'Let's All Have A Casual Chat' and so I thought this would be the perfect opportunity to do another one! The previous topic was about having self-confidence and that honestly had such a positive response that I knew I wanted to continue talking about more personal topics that I feel have the potential to be relatable, which could therefore help some people. I refer to it as being a 'casual chat', because I want people to read these more personal posts and feel as though they are just simply talking to their best friend. I know that some people may refer to me as a stranger, because that's essentially what I am, as there could be quite a few of you that haven't spoken to me before, but I still don't want it to feel that way. I want you to feel like you know me and you can relate to me, so that's why I write these personal posts. They are also quite therapeutic to me. If you're a fellow blogger, then there's more of a chance that you will know what I'm talking about, but anyway, keep reading and you shall see!

Ever since I started going to primary school, I have never, ever been a huge fan of P.E. Physical education isn't something that I absolutely despise, but what I do despise is most of the P.E. lessons that I have had throughout the years. I'm fine if we are in the gym now that I'm in secondary school or if we are doing something that's more fun and light-hearted rather than intense and with a structure to it, but I guess that's just my personal preference. Over the years, I have skipped these lessons or I have pretended to be ill, just so that I could get out of them and I know for a fact that I'm not the only person who feels this way. I understand that physical education is compulsory within schools until you reach the end of Year 11, but knowing that I only have just over a year left isn't really making me feel much better, if I'm honest with you. Regardless of whether I know what we are going to be doing in the next lesson or not, I can't help but feel fear whenever the thoughts enter my mind. As I mentioned, this is no surprise to me. It isn't something that's only started happening recently. It's been going on ever since I first started having P.E. lessons and I'm not ashamed to admit that either.

It's no secret that I'm not the slimmest of girls. I don't go out for afternoon jogs, I don't have a dog that I can talk for a walk and I don't really have anywhere locally that I can go for a walk near either. I mean, I'm sure I could make the effort to go a little further if I did want the exercise, but who's to say that's what I want? The fact that I'm curvy shouldn't hold me back at all! I do feel judged, compared to most people, but just remember, you aren't the only one thinking that way and more often than not, people are so focused on themselves and how they look that they won't even notice you. I'm going off on a bit of a rant now, but what I'm trying to say is that P.E. lessons are one of my fears. It may sound silly to some of you, maybe even ridiculous, but it's just the way it is and I can't help that.
We all have something that we fear. Maybe for some of us, there is more than one thing.
I know I have more than one thing. Trust me, I do have slightly bigger worries than just one double P.E. lesson a week!

The whole point of this post is for me to tell you what my grandma told me. I guess it's essentially a way for me to offload the wisdom she passed onto me, to you. If that makes any sense at all. It does to me, but then again, I'm not sure everyone in the world understands that way my mind works and I'm totally okay with that, believe me!
I was getting myself all worked up and upset, because I knew that in the P.E. lesson I had the day after, we were going to have to do the fitness tests. For those of you who may not be in education anymore or who may not be aware of the way the government works in our country, the fitness tests are essentially a set of, well, tests, where you are expected to count the amount of press-ups and sit-ups you can do, how long you can keep running back and forth in the gym for when the bleep continuously goes off (hence why it's called the bleep test!), how far you can jump, how high you can jump and so on. You get the jist, right? Anyway, these tests are the bane of my life. They happen every half term, so once in the Autumn, Winter, Spring and Summer. I cannot tell you how much I genuinely dread them! I was trying to explain to my grandparents how worried I get and the later it got in the evening, the more I became adamant that I wasn't going to go into school the next day. I kept trying to practise, but I just couldn't get the hang of doing sit-ups or press-ups and I honestly just wanted to give up until it was all over!

 My grandma, as always, was incredibly reassuring and supportive. She told me that it wasn't a big deal. Not everybody can be good at everything. If you sat one of the P.E. teachers down to do an essay, then they probably wouldn't even have a clue where to start, whereas I can do essays perfectly fine, if I do say so myself! If you genuinely can't do something, even if you have tried countless times, then it doesn't matter. It isn't the be all and end all. The teachers may think that everybody is capable of engaging in physical activity, but that isn't the case at all! Just because they are qualified in it doesn't mean that everybody can be perfect and get the hang of it straight away. You don't need to stay off school for a whole day, just because of an hour and a half P.E. lesson. It may be difficult and it may be an unpleasant experience, but you have to go and face your fears head on. If people judge you or laugh at you and they act as though it's the easiest thing in the world, then so what? They aren't you. You may be incredible at English and writing essays, but you may not be able to run very quickly or do sit-ups. Who cares? If they say "Oh, why can't you do it, that's soo easy! Look how well I can do!", then just simply applaud them and say "I'm glad you are so talented, that's excellent for you, but I'm not like that and I'm not as skilled in that respect, which I'm completely fine with". I kept trying and then I eventually managed to do a couple of sit-ups with my mum helping me. I'd managed a couple and that was enough for me. At least I had tried and I had pushed myself.

I felt incredibly anxious for the rest of that night, but that's okay. I went into school the next day into my P.E. lesson, I got on the floor in an attempt to do a sit-up and I couldn't even get myself up for half a one. People laughed. People thought it was weird. But, I didn't care! I just laughed along with them, because at least I tried and I didn't let my fear stop me from missing a day of my education.

The moral of the story is that it honestly doesn't matter. We are all capable of doing amazing things and achieving some of our wildest dreams, but there will always be things we can't do as well as others. It's no good comparing yourself either. I understand it's difficult, because I'm a victim of this myself, but you just have to try and accept the fact that you can't be perfect at everything. You aren't the only one who has fears either! I bet there are at least 10, if not many more, people in this world that have the same fear(s) as you. Just don't shy away from them, afraid to admit it. Be open and honest. Accept the fear and challenge it. Face it head on. Don't ever let it hold you back. Don't you dare!

Why should you have to pass up opportunities just because of the thoughts digging away at you inside your head? I'm not just talking about P.E. either - I'm talking about anything!
Always open up about it and don't be afraid. Never be afraid. You are so much bigger and stronger than your fear. Don't let it control you. YOU are in control. Think of it as the ant under your shoe. Stamp on it. Stamp on it everyday until it eventually fades more and more. It may not ever go away completely, but at least you're trying to not let it get the better of you.

Unfortunately, I do still worry about P.E. lessons and I don't think that will change. I've realised that I prefer going to the gym when we do get the chance to go, because I feel less restricted and I know that I can go at my own pace. I go in with a smile on my face and I just power through, trying to enjoy it, even if I have to grit my teeth for the most part! Just think about it this way. Nothing lasts forever. So, just ride the wave whilst you have to and before you know it, you won't have to put up with your fear for much longer, as similarly to me, you won't have it in your life anymore or you will just find a way to cope that works for you. Think of me if ever you're facing your fears. We can get through them together.

Have you ever been in a similar situation to me? Let me know how you deal with fear!

Lots of love always,

Jade xo
SHARE:

Sunday, 5 June 2016

Starlight Blogger Award // Simply Jadey

 
Hi everyone! I got nominated by the gorgeous Charlotte to do the Starlight Blogger Award, which I'm incredibly flattered about! I've seen a few of these floating around lately, but I never thought I'd get the chance to do it myself, so I'm really excited to be writing up this post for you today.
 
Before we get started though, there are just a few teeny weeny rules that need to be addressed - sorry about that, but rules are rules, right?!
 
You need to thank and link back to the person/people who nominated you, answer the 3 questions that they chose, give three questions for your nominees to answer, nominate 6 other bloggers, notify the nominees, post the rules and then add the badge/image (like the one above). Now, let's get on with the questions!

1. Where do you find blog post ideas? - I kid you not, I literally take blog post inspiration from anywhere and everywhere. I usually base them around my thoughts and feelings at the time, so if I'm feeling quite down in the dumps, then I'll do an advice type of post or if I'm feeling quite positive, then I'll do a lifestyle or photography type post. It all depends really! I also take ideas from other bloggers and put a slight personal twist on them, because I find that I like to write about the things I enjoy reading about, if that makes any sense whatsoever. Let's say I was reading a blog post about the butter gloss' from NYX. If I liked what I was reading, I'd probably pick it up, give it a go and then write up my own review. The key is to take ideas and inspiration from everywhere and make it unique to your blog and who you are as an individual.

2. What is your favourite thing about blogging? - There is nothing I don't like about blogging, as I haven't experienced any negativity or hate (touch wood!), which means I have pretty much all favourite things, but I'm going to stick to the question and pick one. I'd have to say my favourite thing is the people that I have met and the friendships that I have made through blogging. I have had the privilege of being able to talk to such beautiful, kind-hearted girls and I honestly couldn't be more grateful. They always know how to put a smile on my face and even though they may not have met me personally (yet), they really do just know me so well. I'm not going to name anyone, as you all know who you are, but I just want to say thank you so much for making this community such a wonderful thing to be a part of. I love you all very much. 

3. What are you most excited for this Summer? - Oooh, what a good question to end on! Funnily enough, I haven't actually made many plans for the Summer yet - I know, I'm crazy, right? I never have anything 100% sure until nearer the time, unless it's a holiday, which I'm sadly not going on this year, but why not be spontaneous anyway? I think it's sometimes more fun that way! I'm just excited to be able to see my friends more, have picnics with them, go to the beach, not have to worry about studying and to just enjoy being young and carefree, as that's really the only properly relaxing time throughout the year!

My Nominees:

Mollie from Mollie Alexandra
Frances from Royally Rouge
Alice from Simply Alice
Abigail from AbigailJessicax
Ellie from Petite Elliee
Nicole from Thrifty Vintage Fashion

My Questions:

How would you describe your blog in 3 words?

What do you study at school/college?

What's your ultimate blogging goal for this year?

If you answer these questions, make sure to leave a link to your post, so myself and other people can check it out! <3

Lots of love always,

Jade xo








SHARE:

Wednesday, 1 June 2016

The Troubles Of Being A Teenage Blogger

 I recently started speaking to a fellow blogger, who goes by the name of Tea Stained Lauren (her blog can be found here and also here) about being a teen blogger within today's society. We were discussing both the positives, the negatives and also the things that fall slap bang in the middle. We equally had just as much to say and we both felt particularly strongly about getting our opinions and our thoughts across. Considering the fact that we both seemed to have a lot to say based on the topic, we decided that we wanted to work together on some sort of collaboration post, which would give us an opportunity to get you involved in the conversation in some way. Make sure that you follow the links I've included, so that you don't miss out on Lauren's post!
 
Before I get started with the actual post itself, we wanted to share some incredibly exciting news with you guys! Since we started talking about our initial collaboration, the ideas just wouldn't stop flowing - they were honestly continuous. They were all about how we could potentially benefit the teenage blogging community in some way and the list was endless. We both feel so passionate when it comes to helping out the teenage bloggers of today and we felt as though it was our responsibility, as teen bloggers ourselves to do something about it! I mean, if we don't start off the change, then who will? Wouldn't it be amazing if we could actually build a community for ourselves and people who are in similar situations to us? Well, that was what we thought anyway!
We thought that we could potentially do a series of these blog posts every month, specifically directed at those who are teenage bloggers or teenage bloggers in the making. As we gradually make more posts in regards to this topic, we hope that it will gain more recognition and we will go further in terms of the success of it too. If we could get people all over the country, maybe even the world talking about it, then we will feel as though it has been a worthwhile, beneficial series for you to read! We have already got quite a few plans in the works for you, so make sure to keep your eyes peeled, because you don't want to miss out on what we have planned!
 
Anyway, to kick start this series, I'm going to be sharing 2 of the main things that I find I struggle with the most when it comes to being a teenage blogger. 

The first thing that I would definitely say I struggle with, due to the fact that I'm a young blogger is feeling as though my posts often get overlooked by other people. It seems to me that unless you are as successful and as admired as Zoella is, then you hardly have any chance at all within this sort of industry, particularly if you are quite a few years younger than the more well-known bloggers. The work that us teenage bloggers put into our posts doesn't seem to get noticed nearly as much as it should be and I struggle to understand why that is, if I'm completely honest with you! We are already facing a huge amount of pressure in regards to studying in order to ensure that we receive a proper education at the end of our schooling years, but we are also having to face the pressure of building up our social lives and making genuine friends at the same time. Believe it or not, we don't all have our lives completely figured out. We are just as clueless as any other average teenager! Just because we blog, it doesn't mean we aren't focusing on our grades and it doesn't mean we are isolating ourselves from our peers. That isn't that case at all! We blog, simply because we love it. Why shouldn't we get compliments and recognition when we publish a post that we are genuinely proud of? Why shouldn't we have the right to collaborate with brands that we feel reflect our personalities, so much so, that we would love to share discount codes with our viewers? Our age shouldn't hold us back from showing our true potential to the world. It really frustrates me to know that people probably don't take me quite so seriously, just because of how old I am. Age is just a number! I have been very lucky with the fact that I have received a lot of love and support from all of my readers and I have even been able to make some amazing, life long friends, but I can't help feeling as though there are still things that I'm missing out on.

I also find that I struggle trying to make friends within the blogging community. I am very lucky in the fact that I have built up some particularly strong friendships with a couple of gorgeous girls (Lauren included, of course!), but I do still feel as though there is a general lack of communication and I'm not entirely sure that it's fear which is holding me back either. I believe it's simply the fact that teen bloggers don't get quite as much attention, which means that other people aren't as aware that they even exist, making it harder to reach out and actually communicate with them. When you are a teen blogger, like myself and Lauren, alongside many others, you feel as though you're literally a little fish, lost in the depths of the deep blue blogging sea. Any support that you receive is so important and so valued, because you genuinely do feel incredibly insignificant. It feels like I'm missing out on many opportunities, because I find it difficult to interact with girls that are of a similar age to me. Teenage meet ups just don't seem to be a thing at the moment. Not that I'm aware of anyway! Why would 13-16 year old girls want to be in a room, surrounded by seemingly more successful, mature bloggers? It just wouldn't make any logical sense really, would it? On the other hand, it would make so much more sense if there was another side of the blogosphere, which was dedicated to teenagers! How many of you would agree with me on that one? There could be teenage meet ups, where it would literally just be like loads of best friends hanging out, talking about makeup and general gossip, group chats, where we could all catch up every day and discuss what's on our minds, more companies willing to collaborate with us and hear our views and opinions, as well as allowing us to take part in super cool opportunities - now, wouldn't that just be the dream? I'm not saying that all of this is going to be possible right away, but over the next few months, we can definitely start trying to make some of them a reality!

Myself and Lauren want as many of you to get involved as possible. If this project sounds like something that you would be interested in being a part of, then you can leave a comment either down below on this post or on Lauren's post, (which will be over on her blog today) letting us know! It would also be really useful if you could leave your contact details, so either an email or your Twitter, so that we know how and where to contact you if we have any information or if you would like to follow us over there too. You are also more than welcome to leave your requests in anyway that you wish and we will highly consider making them a reality, depending on what they are and how many people agree!

Thank you so much for reading this exciting post and don't forget to leave your thoughts down below and your links to your social media accounts, so we are able to find you. Make sure that you use the hashtag #TeenageTeam if you would like to get involved!

If you want to talk to either of us, then you can do so here:

Our Email: ttatbproject@gmail.com
My Contact Details:
Twitter: @jademillardx
Instagram: jademillard_
Bloglovin: https://www.bloglovin.com/blogs/jade-millard-13929405
Email: beautyobsessedgirl@gmail.com


Lauren's Contact Details:
Twitter: @tstainedlauren
Instagram: tea.stained
Bloglovin: https://www.bloglovin.com/blogs/tea-stained-lauren-14400811?referrer_context=blog_search_autocomplete
Email: laurenjadeostler@gmail.com



 
Lots of love always,
 
Jade xo


 


SHARE:
© Simply Jadey

This site uses cookies from Google to deliver its services - Click here for information.

Blogger Template Created by pipdig