Wednesday, 11 May 2016

Let's All Have A Casual Chat: Having Self-Confidence

 
It's time to put your snorkel on. We're delving right into the deep end of having self-confidence today. Be prepared, because things could get pretty emotional right here.
 
How many of you have struggled with the way you look or the way you feel within your own skin? Most people who read my blog are female and either young teenagers, such as myself or young adults. From time to time, males do read my blog too and that's absolutely lovely. It just goes to show how diverse my readers are and I really like that.
 
Anyway, as I was saying, I'm sure many of you have experienced those feelings/situations a couple of times within your life, right? I know I certainly have. The first post that I ever actually published on this blog was about beating body image issues, so it goes to show that I really am ever so passionate about this topic, as I am with many other relatable topics. So many boys, girls, men and women struggle with the way that they look. That honestly is such a shame and it really does upset me too. Within today's society, there is an image of 'perfection' that so many young people aspire to look like, because they feel that if they starve themselves, get surgery and change their physical appearance then it will make them beautiful/handsome and loved that way. This is not true at all!
 
I am well aware of all of the pressures and expectations that surround us in this world today. If I could, I would completely eliminate all of them with the click of my fingers.
Why should people feel the need to harm themselves, mentally and physically, all because of society's stupid standards? It's wrong and I absolutely hate it with a passion.
Whether you believe me or not, you are here for a reason. You were brought into this world for a reason. You may not know of the reason just yet. But, there is one. Call it your purpose, your passion, your dream. Whatever you want - but, believe me when I say there is something out there for everyone. As I've said (more times than I can actually count), I want to help people overcome their issues and their inner demons. I completely understand that some people may think that I'm just posting advice all of the internet.
It's just that I am only one person. I'm only one individual in this world. I don't have all that much power, but the power that I do have, which is to engage and interact with 156 people, is a power that I'm willing to use to the best of my ability. If I can make at least one person smile in a day or if I can help at least one of you to realise that you are worth so much more than harming yourself then that's my day made.
 
If you have read either of my previous posts that have spoken about my story (see here or here) then you will know that I completely understand how it feels to be miserable with who you are. This isn't self-pity or me looking for sympathy or anything. I'm just trying to explain that I do know what it feels like. I can assure you that it's something we all go through at some point in our lives, usually when we are younger, because that's the time that we are changing and we feel the most peer pressure from others around us.
Sometimes, we feel so isolated and hated by the world that we just want to curl up in a ball in our beds, as that's the only place we truly feel safe and free to be ourselves, right?
We have a habit of convincing ourselves that we are completely unlovable, but that's not true. That's so not true. If you really think long and hard about it, I'm sure you can think of at least 3 positive points about your personality and 3 positive points about your appearance. Looks aren't everything. They really aren't. You are the way you are and you should be so, so proud of that.
 
Boys and girls all struggle with the way they look and feel within their own skin. Both genders struggle. They really do. Just because some people may not show it, it doesn't mean that those same demons aren't there too, right at the back of their mind. You know that saying 'Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind. Always'. That applies so accurately to this situation. Some people are so insecure within themselves, but they don't want to show it, so they put on a front and defend themselves whenever someone asks if they are okay. You may get upset then, because you were only trying to help, but some people prefer to bottle up their battles. It's okay. Just don't be afraid to open up to people. Find others who love and appreciate you for who YOU are.
You may experience bullying. You may experience hate. You may experience your fair share of insecurities. That is all okay. You are strong enough to get through it with a smile on your face. Please try your best to believe in yourself. Don't allow others to get you down. You should never be ashamed to be who you are. If people are judging you or making fun of you, then either try to deal with it as best as you can by either confronting them or asking for help or just completely ignore it. Nothing makes a hater feel worse than being ignored. Don't let it bother you too much. There is so much more to life than hate. There will always be people who don't like you, but you don't live to impress them. You live to succeed in the things that you love and to do what you personally want to do.
Negative people are not the sort of people that you want in your life. You need to learn to love yourself and then eventually, over time, the opinions of others will not and should not matter to you anymore. It's easier said than done, but practise makes perfect, right?
 
Just before I go, I want to make sure that you know that I'm always here for you if any of you ever need me. Whatever it is that you're worried about - whether you're struggling at school, you're feeling pushed out of your family or friendship groups or if there's simply another issue that you want to get off your chest. I will always be here. I'm not perfect. I do make mistakes and I do have my own faults, but I'm only human. I'm the first to admit that there are things I struggle with and there are things that I'm not proud of, but they aren't my main focus. My main focus is helping other people and being as happy as I can be.
 
Now, it's your turn to leave me a comment below telling me 3 things that you like about your appearance and 3 things that you like about your personality. You can reply to other people's comments by complimenting them too or you can link their blog below and give them a compliment or a sweet message. I don't mind at all! I just want to try and spread positivity and shed light on these issues, so that they eventually aren't an issue anymore.
 
3 things I like about my appearance - My eyes, my lips and my height.
3 things I like about my personality - My ability to understand people, my kindness and my sense of humour.
 
Thank you so very much for reading this post and I hope it has helped you in some way. Please make sure to leave your comments down below and help to make someone's day!
 
Boys and girls, men and women. You are all amazing and I love you more than the stars in the sky. I am so proud of you, wherever you are in your self-confidence journey. Whether you hate yourself and the person that you are or whether you feel incredibly comfortable with most things. I am proud of you and I know that you are trying your best. Not only for yourself and those around you, but for me too. Take good care of yourselves, angels <3
 
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~Never let anyone rob you of your self-esteem~
 
 
Lots of love always,
 
Jade xo

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