Monday, 29 June 2015

Spread The Sunshine | Becoming A Better Person

Today I'm going to be talking about how to become a better person. I came up with this idea after watching a YouTube video on this topic and it sparked some interesting thoughts that I decided to share with you. I think that there are always ways that we can better ourselves and becoming aware of that and how we can change certain personality traits is a key part of living and everyday life.
1. Realise that the foundation to becoming a better person is to help those around you. Helping other people whenever you can really says a lot about you as a person. If you choose to put others before yourself and you are willing to go out of your way in order to make someone's life a little easier or happier, that shows what a caring person you are. If you see someone struggling, go and offer a helping hand. If someone seems a little upset, then go and cheer them up or offer a shoulder to cry on. It's the little things that matter and those are the ones that genuinely make a difference.
2. Treat others how you wish to be treated. This links on to my previous point, but I think it is incredibly relevant. Imagine if someone was constantly nasty to you and they made your life a living hell, never thinking about how you feel. How would that affect you? Now, imagine you were the one making someone else feel that way, knowing exactly what they are going through. It wouldn't be a pleasant experience, would it? If you constantly treat people with disrespect and rudeness, they aren't going to want to know you and they could treat you the same to show you how it feels. Just think before you say and do things, as your words and actions could be harming someone more than you realise.
3. Focus on the little things that make yourself and others happy. We all become stressed and emotional sometimes and often, we don't know how to deal with these feelings. From the moment we wake up, to the moment that we fall asleep, we must think of little things that make ourselves and others around us feel better. Listen to a happy song. Compliment 5 strangers. Smile at everyone. Plant some flowers. Hand out gifts around the neighbourhood. Help out a friend or family member. It's all about the little things in life that have the most positive effect on people.
4. Think of yourself as a role model. When you think of yourself as a role model, you're much more likely to become a better person and act in a more appropriate way. Thinking that people are looking up to you and admiring you makes you cautious of the way that you act and present yourself, which means there is a greater chance that you will behave in a nicer, friendlier way.
5. Be honest and truthful. Don't lie, or twist and sugar coat things. If someone is asking you something, be honest. Don't twist it and make out like an innocent person has done the wrong thing, as it will only cause more problems. Accept your mistakes and learn from them. Always tell the truth, no matter how hard it is. A liar will usually always get caught out in the end, so what's the point?
6. Don't be two-faced. I'm going to openly admit that, yes, I can be a two-faced person and I have been in the past. Sometimes I am one without realising and then afterwards, I understand where I have gone wrong and why I have come across that way. However, it doesn't mean that I can't change that. I'm trying to be a loyal friend and I'm keeping my thoughts to myself if I know that they will hurt people. I understand that sometimes if you tell someone something, your words can easily get twisted, spread and misinterpreted, which is why I'm very careful now. I guess it's all about honesty, truthfulness and sticking with your real ones. If someone has done you wrong before, forgive them if you want too, or just remove them from your life and don't even bother talking to them!
7. Spend time thinking about yourself. As much as you should consider others and how your actions may make them feel, it's important that you think about yourself too. If you are constantly putting other people first, how do you expect to find true happiness? You are your main priority and you come before anyone else. Although that may be hard to think of sometimes, it's true. If someone is making you unhappy or something is causing you more pain than happiness, then remove them/it. Don't allow yourself to wallow in sadness. It won't do you any favours. Put yourself first.
8. Don't take things to heart. Nobody is going to please you all the time. You have to accept that sometimes people will say things that offend you and not everyone will like you all of the time, but that's okay. That's normal. I know quite a few people that don't particularly like me, but I try not to take it too personally. If you spent your entire life trying to please everyone, you would never be truly happy and it would lead absolutely no-where! Just focus on you and your true ones. Ignore the rest.
9. Have trust and faith in yourself. What would happen if you didn't trust yourself? Who would you be able to trust? You have to trust yourself and have faith in your decisions. If you feel that something is right for you, then stick to your gut instinct and go with it. Don't hesitate just because you're scared or because someone else has told you that you're wrong or you're a bad person. You are entitled to your own opinion and if it is right for you, then you're not doing the wrong thing at all.
10. Don't get involved in arguments. Arguments really aren't worth the hassle. If someone is upsetting or annoying you, just ignore them and other that they even exist. Don't listen to what they have to say. Their opinion is irrelevant if they are being unkind. Why make way for rudeness? It's unnecessary! Only focus on the kind people and pretend that the rude people aren't even surrounding you. Just remain calm, forget about it and move on. It will all be okay in the end. 

QOTP - What have you accomplished this week? I faced my fears and I spent some quality time with my sister in a shopping centre! As scared as I felt, I'm so pleased that I went and enjoyed it!


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